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do you know any nice single men?

173 replies

JupiterGentlefly · 09/01/2014 19:19

Myself included. . A lot of us bemoan the absence of nice single men.. Friends in rl and here pacify us (and trust me it is appreciated!) that there are plenty of decent men out there. . However my best friends a lovely couple will often say the aforementioned and when I ask them if they can think of a nice chap that may suit I get the reply that no one they know is single. So.. in RL how many nice single men do you REALLY know? Just a little poll for fun ..

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normalishdude · 26/03/2014 20:34

yup, loads.

lemonbabe · 26/03/2014 20:53

I honestly don't - where are they, if they do in fact exist Confused

The blokes I do know who are single go a bit like this:

Exhibit #1: Very young looking 60 yr old with issues and penchant for kinky/weird stuff (maybe gives some insight into why he's been on his tod for the past xx years ?!)

Exhibit #2: 40+ yr old "artist", good looking lad, sporty, etc. No money, commitment issues, cannot stay with 1 girl and is always traveling.

Exhibit #3: ex of mine. Seems pleasant enough, wholesome even.... turns out to be freakin' nut case with so many insecurities he started inventing stories Shock

Exhibit #4: another ex... to much going on in his life, with all the sport, going out and pleasing himself, he just doesn't find the time for a GF.

Exhibit #5: my BIL, aged 40, house owner, cooks, nice..... why he remains single is one of life's mysteries. Not my cup of char but I reckon he's just not man enough to want a woman.

Exhibit #6: my dad. nuff said.

Nocomet · 26/03/2014 20:57

Yep, if you don't mind computers, hi fi and war games.
He's lovely and mine if anything ever happens to DH.

BitOutOfPractice · 26/03/2014 20:59

This thread has got me thinking. When I was single I met loads - online and just out and about. At least two or three of them were relationship material.

Now I'm all settled, they have all disappeared into the woodwork!

Backonthefence · 26/03/2014 21:11

Not man enough to want a woman what does that even mean.

MizTiggle · 26/03/2014 21:13

Yes. One. Only one.

5starprisoner · 26/03/2014 21:16

For the record, there are a few of us out there!

We may not have the looks of an actor, the physique of a sportsman, the personality of a casa-nova or the show-offiness to drive flash cars and live in flash apartments.

We may be average looking, greying, with a bit of a belly but hey, we're presentable, well-mannered, kind, caring, normal-ish and lucky enough to have the comfortable lives we've made for ourselves.

Some of us are even itching to meet someone and settle down, get married (optional), have kids (not so optional) and grow old together as part of a loving family.

As a guy I'd say compromise more lower your standards otherwise frustratingly never the twain shall meet...

Sparklysilversequins · 26/03/2014 21:18

No.

I don't know many nice married men either tbh. I've had a few old male married friends make contact on FB and upon seeing I am now single start sending me suggestive messages and asking to meet up. It's happened four times in the last 6 months.

I tell them if they send me another message like that it will be forwarded to their significant other. I've had ONE really heartfelt apology and we are still friends, the others blocked me but only after some really vicious messages, one threatened to put my phone number up on the wall in the gents in every pub in his town, so that was nice.

Many men I come across are complete pigs tbh.

Oldandcobwebby · 26/03/2014 21:28

I know one in his 30s who has never married, and another aged 50, who is the nicest, kindest, cleverest man I know. Unfortunately, he married a woman who was too stupid to realise what she had. She screwed around, which caused their divorce.

singleandfabulous · 27/03/2014 09:23

I had this discussion with friends a while ago and the lack of single men was put down to them living different lives to women so our paths never cross.

I know a few:

Specimen 1: 48. Very good looking, fit, charming, great guy. Own house and business. Divorced, no children. Loves his bachelor life-style too much to give it up. Dates occasionaly but only Eastern European women. Likes lads' nights out far too much. Thinks rice is exotic.

Specimen 2: 28. Good looking, a little too rough around the edges for most women but good hearted and kind. Own business, still lives at home. Enjoys the single life too much to settle down.

Specimen 3: 46. Average looking, nerdy, intelligent. Kind. Lacks confidence with women and is a loner. He is lovely but has body odour issues and doesn't dress very well.

Specimen 4: 44. Average looking. Intelligent and forthright. Own home. Enjoys travelling and lads' nights out. Frightened of losing his wealth if he settles down with a woman. Put off children by his nephews and neices (he finds them trying).

Specimen 5: 42. Good looking but small (5'5") great personality, kind, intelligent. Still lives at home and doesn't want to give that up despite having his own place (rented out). Bit of a mummy's boy. Lazy.

I know a woman who works in an IT department full of single men. Most of them (even the older ones) don't feel the need to settle down as they enjoy their single lives too much.

SteveBrucesNose · 27/03/2014 09:45

I know one lovely single guy.

He's got a good well-paid, well respected job, he's sweet, caring, gentlemanly, has a nice car and a sportscar for the weekends.

He's just turned 60 and has never married.

The only other single bloke I know has no interest in finding himself a woman, as having a girlfriend reduces the number of rounds of golf he gets to play in a week.

kentishgirl · 27/03/2014 09:56

I'm racking my brains here.

I do know a few single men, and they are nice in their way, but reasons why always single.

1 is a lovely person but v. bad looking in a presentation way (broken black teeth, awful hair, grubby old man clothes), lived with parents all life until they died, still lives in their house, you get the picture.
1 is a very kind and intelligent man but again looks weird as either has something very strange going on with scalp/hair or wears a terrible wig (never asked) and also likes to stay up all night wanking over watching Russian webcam girls.
1 is smart, average looking, good job, but still lives with Dad and has never had a girlfriend in his life; just not interested. (not gay either, just happy on his own).

There are single men out there who are good boyfriend prospects, but not for long, as they rapidly get snapped up!

lemonbabe · 27/03/2014 13:36

There are single men out there who are good boyfriend prospects, but not for long, as they rapidly get snapped up!

This is so true, I've witnessed it many times. It's like you have to be ready to pounce.

I totally get the idea of learning to compromise.... I DO. Last bloke I had a relationship with was overweight, not at all my 'type', not as dynamic as I'd hoped for and not very sociable. I decided to give the relationship a chance cos he was intelligent, sensitive and funny and those are fab qualities. He turned out to be an @r$e.

The one before that was too busy with leading his own life, another apparent problem of modern-day life. Men can sometimes seem quite content with their men lives, no space or willingness for women.

Smilesandpiles · 27/03/2014 14:11

Grin at learning to compromise.

No thanks. I'd rather stay single.

ladybranston · 27/03/2014 14:21

i'll take an intro to a 30ish jewish guy if there's one lurking about!

HellonHeels · 27/03/2014 16:00

I meet quite a few single blokes because I go cycling. Most cycle clubs have quite a few unattached men.

On yer bikes, single women!

piratecat · 27/03/2014 16:02

no and if i did i would snap him up pronto!

lavenderhoney · 27/03/2014 17:26

Learning to compromise! I'm sure some bloke would be thrilled to learn i had dropped my standards to date him. Just as I would be if someone told me that.

MeganBacon · 27/03/2014 21:50

My boss seems decent enough, funny, 40 ish, intelligent, successful, never married, single for the two years I've known him. Average looking, a bit overweight, good dress sense. Not sure what the problem is, I've tried to delve a bit because I have so many lovely single female friends. He may lack confidence with women, but that's surmountable if only someone would invest some time and patience in him.
I know many more who are single with good reason.

HelpfulChap · 27/03/2014 22:00

My DS is late twenties. Slim, good looking, not a ' player' and earns excellent money.

But shy. Hence still single.

I feel a bit weird if I try and match-make though.

Simplesusan · 28/03/2014 08:34

I think a lot of men have double standards.

They expect a fit, good looking, happy self sufficient woman yet don't take enough care of themselves.
I want to be physically attracted to someone to have any kind of relationship with them. Yes I like intelligent, funny men too but I have friends who have those qualities.

Most men seem don't seem to value personality.

Simplesusan · 28/03/2014 08:36

Recently spoke to a single man who likes to date women who are a size 8 -10, yet he by his own admission is overweight.apparently he would not consider dating a woman above a size 12!

RudyMentary · 28/03/2014 08:37

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BitOutOfPractice · 28/03/2014 08:44

simplesusan online dating sites are full of men like that. FULL!

maleview70 · 28/03/2014 09:42

In my friends group of 15 or so fellas in late 30's to mid 40's, I know 3.

One is in love with booze
The other has zero personality
The other has had one girlfriend in 25 years lasting 2 weeks.

Doesn't paint too rosy a picture does it?

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