do you know any nice single men?

[JupiterGentlefly]

Myself included. . A lot of us bemoan the absence of nice single men.. Friends in rl and here pacify us (and trust me it is appreciated!) that there are plenty of decent men out there. . However my best friends a lovely couple will often say the aforementioned and when I ask them if they can think of a nice chap that may suit I get the reply that no one they know is single. So.. in RL how many nice single men do you REALLY know? Just a little poll for fun ..

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I guess the reason they are still single is they all work in male dominated environments and are quite shy so don't actually meet many ladies. However that's enough I'm not actually going to auction them off on mumsnet because they would be horrified.

But it does prove that there are lovely chaps out there so don't give up hope! and dress sense can be altered looks at DH fondly.

Like MaddAdam, I know a few lovely, kind, single men with jobs and houses - but shy and geeky and it seems like many women can't make it past that shyness to see the wonderful men underneath. And of course as time goes on, they fill their lives with more geek stuff and its harder to meet someone.

Gino shitting on the bed is socially unacceptable really so I think a few evil thoughts are permitted. Shame on your cat and it's arse.

I just reviewed my Facebook. No, I don't.

I know a few but they are in their late 20 early 30s, and are more interested in flying solo and playing the field. When they do find partners (and they will they are single because they want to) they will probably do so with women younger than they are anyway.

I'd love to meet a fiscally sound shy geeky type!

My carer.

Mid 30s, kind, generous, single and available.

I know one. He lives in Hertfordshire but has never held down a relationship for more than a year (he is mid 40s) and is always the one to finish things. He is totally selfish and very much into his hobby. He would probably suit someone with no ego at all.

I actually like the geeky type with slightly kinky inclinations as we'd have things in common so send them all my way!

No. But I only know two single women as well! I live in a very traditional, old fashioned area of the country where people seem to be totally obsessed with being in relationships and not being single. Its actually quite wearing and very refreshing to go somewhere like London where people have lives beyond settling down and getting married and do things independently.

The only very few single men I know have what I would estimate are pretty serious personality disorders (to the extent of stalking ex partners and being sacked from their job and nearly charged by the police), or physically very unattractive.

I also know quite a few men who pretend to be single when it suits them, but who aren't really. Often these are the shy and geeky type - some of them can be deceptive.

I'm not single, but one of the shy and geeky types took an interest in me last year when DH was away with work - I only worked this out later. This manifested itself by his sending me a terse text asking that I give him a lift to a party at a mutual friend's. This would have involved a 15 mile detour for me to a destination only 5 miles away from me, so I organised him a lift with someone else. The sod defriended me on Facebook, got in a strop with me at the party and now glares at me whenever he sees me!

Be wary of that type! Though some are nice.

I know a few as I'm doing a degree as a mature student, but these students are typical student age (20ish) and they remind me far too much of DS! Other older single men are gorgeous but gay, or straight and lovely but have awkward habits/work histories (very extreme sports, going off doing volunteer work for six months in war zones, jobs on short term contracts so they move to a new city once a year). Oh, and BIL is single and a sweet guy but has MH issues which are currently severe enough that he can't work (have been through that myself so not saying that's a reason to be put off a person, but it does mean it affects what they can contribute to a relationship).

I live in London and am in my 30s but most of my contemporaries here are fairly settled in cohabiting relationships now (I'm married but so far only a few of my friends are). People do have lives and most are more interested in their careers and travelling than getting mortgages and having dc, but still want a partner to share that with.

If any of the lovely but slightly kinky guys from here are still available, feel free to send info my way ;)

Yes, quite a few. I'm counting only the ones I've known for years and also seen how they've conducted themselves in relationships. 4 spring to mind immediately, one gay (does he count for these purposes?).

Yes and they are all gay.

Yes, one lovely, newly divorced, would like a family, wants to sell his house and move before he starts 'looking'

One ok, separated about a year, nice, kind fella, zero work ethic.

I know two - one in late 40's one just about to turn 40. Both lovely and no idea really why either is single.

JohnFarleys I think you've pinpointed the problem with the lazy bloke.

I know at least 10 single men. I can't really speak to their attractiveness as potential mates...

Three or four are in their fifties, never married, so probably committed bachelors. One is a recent widower, he'll probably find someone fairly soon. One is divorced and looking seriously, but by the time he has paid his mortgage and child maintenance he doesn't have a lot of money to spare.

A suggestion for the ladies who are looking... take up chess. Your local chess club will be at least 90% male.

Met a lovely one recently - but I've now snaffled him for myself

When I became single after a long term relationship, only 3 out of my (fairly wide) circle of friends knew of a single man that they thought I might be compatible with and was a suitable age (late 20s to mid-30s). Went on a disasterous date with one of them and vowed never to let a friend set me up with anyone again!

Isn't the answer that women will tend to know more women in general, so it always feels like there are fewer of the opposite sex? I know quite a few normal single men, and they all complain about there not being enough single women.

I know a lovely single man, near 50 but seems younger in looks and spirit :) He is a great dad to two teenagers.

I wish he could find someone nice!

Oh, and a couple of DPs friends who are in their 20s and playing the field. They might be good bets in their 30s :)

I know one. But in defence I have just moved here and its a bit remote.

He is very nice, handsome etc, and actually uncannily a mix of all my fantasy celeb shags in looks and his work, plus a few other things:) but is a bit younger than me, so I am a tad frosty but I fear my eyes give me away:)
So I keep my sunglasses on whenever possible now, when I know he will be around:)

My cousin is 36 and nice but I can't imagine him in a relationship - no emotional intelligence.

None over the age of 30. The men in my line of work either get snapped up early (before the age of 25) or they're utter bastards who just sleep around. I think about five women were rather unhappy when I removed my husband from the dating pool.