do you know any nice single men?

[JupiterGentlefly]

Myself included. . A lot of us bemoan the absence of nice single men.. Friends in rl and here pacify us (and trust me it is appreciated!) that there are plenty of decent men out there. . However my best friends a lovely couple will often say the aforementioned and when I ask them if they can think of a nice chap that may suit I get the reply that no one they know is single. So.. in RL how many nice single men do you REALLY know? Just a little poll for fun ..

I am said goldfish. .

No. There are none. Fucking none. Not one. I've looked. And there are none.

I know one. He's a thoroughly decent bloke. He's (fairly) recently separated - at his STBXW insistence. She thought that the grass would be greener elsewhere, but now that she's realised it's not, she understands what a gem she had. He's tall 6'2", has car/job/house. He has shared custody of his children yet still pays over £2k a month to his STBXW and is generally considered to be a good chap.

In terms of bad points..........
He's a high achiever and has pretty high expectatations (not in terms of looks, but in terms of how things should be done) My wife has always said that he needs a strong woman who has the confidence to tell him to go f*uck himself from time to time.

normal your post made me laugh!! xxx

normal fuck. I know I'm a man (at least, I assume that's what that thing is down there), and definitely single. Maybe I'm not nice? I did once have evil thoughts about the cat after she shat on my bed - would that count against me?

I know PLENTY of nice single men.

Unfortunately my single lady friends don't want to date them because they are either ugly, bald, a bit overweight, wear dentures, are poor, sometimes suffer from ED.

I have a nice man in my life. He is poor though. And no Brad Pitt either. He's nice though.

gino how terrible you are, that poor bloody cat!!! x

All of DH's 5 close friends are single (all mid 30's and none of them have been married). But they're all single for various reasons:
Nu 1 is a cheating commitment phobe
Nu 2 won't settle for anyone less than a model in the looks department despite not being a looker himself and has zero personality
Nu 3 has all sorts of self-inflicted issues that put his girlfriends off
Nu 4 is a severe alcoholic in denial
and Nu 5 is lovely but wants to be like Nu 1 so sabotages his relationships and refuses to commit.

I'm making them sound like a Blind Date lineup. Can't see any of them settling down soon either.

yes I do - they are mostly all gay though.

then there is the rest -

the committed alcoholic prostitute visiting loner;
commitment-phobe alcoholic smoking 40 something man-child;
the uber jealous guy still with major issues (now 46);
the workaholic 40'something high-flyer, desperate to settle down who is technically a 'great catch' and is great company but only tends to date women in their 20's and when he did have a lovely relationship recently he cheated;
My X - emotional abuse/anger/overbearing mother/chip on shoulder issues;
And his brother - see ^^^
etc

Until recently my lovely colleague was single after being devastated when his long term P cheated on him and left him. He took a year to recover emotionally and is now in a loving nice committed relationship again.

I know lots of really nice single women though.

racking my brains to find some other single nice chaps.

Fuck - I'm depressed now!!

OOOH I do know one!!!
But he's never been much into relationships - not sure why.
And I fancied him years ago too - he's still single, lives with his cat. He is lovely though. I would.

The Daily Mail needs to go and write a non-article about this thread!

And it gets worse the older you get, nothing on the market, totally depressing.

I know five or six who would no doubt be considered nice by some and not quite right by others.

Yes, several.
Now you've asked, and I'm trying to think if I know any single women though, (well those that aren't elderly widows) and that's much harder.

I'm single and soon after ex-DP left me, actually made a list of all the single chaps I knew who were within 5 years of my age either way. All were no-hopers in terms of prospective relationships.

Man A - still depressed after the end of his 'starter marriage' three years ago; rarely leaves the house, preferring to spend all his spare time smoking spliff, buying strange shit on Ebay, and playing computer games into the small hours. I really want to give him a makeover, a kick up the arse, and the opportunity to fall in love with me .

Man B - bi-polar. He is lovely but I suffered from depression myself some years ago and am terrified of it creeping back; I just couldn't get into a relationship with someone whose affliction was yet worse than mine.

Man C - wonderful man, friend of a friend, just kinda wet and over-emtoional. I think he suffers from broken home syndrome (sabotages every relationship he's in because he's convinced from the start that things will go wrong). He is a primary school teacher, photographer and painter, very creative but not ambitious and I'm ashamed to say a beta man just doesn't get me excited. I am determined to find him a girlfriend though.

Man D - a lawyer, a mate from university. Have always liked him but just don't fancy him for some annoying reason. He could be very attractive but has really let himself go, very overweight, smokes, drinks too much. He longs to be a father and is a serial internet dater. No chemistry with me, which is hardly his fault, but again if he cleaned up his act I could find him a girlfriend tomorrow.

DP has an attractive single brother. Since having kids I mostly only spend time at toddler groups etc so mostly only see women socially do they're might well be lots of lovely single men in the places I don't go to.

I am intrigued by the kinky single men and curious to know what trays would come in handy were I to find myself single again.

Tastes, not trays. Unless the kinkiness involves a waitress fetish. Or for arranging sex toys on.

I posted earlier about my lovely Hugh Grant-ish friend. I do think the crutch of the 'issue' is that men don't have a biological clock as such, even in their 40s and 50s, they can father children (if they really want to) while women seem driven by their biological clock and 'needs' to be settled by 30-ish. I was talking about this to a friend today and she did make the comment that it seems that once women miss that boat of getting married between the age of 25-35, then there's a complete dearth of men as men that age who are not attached start to date downwards in terms of age!

I became single early last year when my STBXH left me rather unexpectedly for a younger OW. I was devastated for 6 months and was not in a space to think about it in that time but was convinced as well when I started to contemplate a future again that I will NEVER meet anyone. I have two young DCs as well. I was 36 when the ex left (married for 10 years). I knew a few single women who seem just not to meet anyone suitable - one a single mum but the others were gorgeous, perfectly normal, have good careers eligible women, all in the mid-30s.

I was then unexpectedly asked out by someone I had known for about a year on a hi-bye basis and had no interest in (when we met, I considered myself happily married most of the time!). It was just a chance conversation that started with our children that we ended up realising we had both split up with our respective partners and has children similar ages. Turns out he had split with his wife just before I split up with my ex. We got together and for me, it's been very unexpected given the tales of dating woe I hear from my single women friends! The above friend said I was very lucky to be asked out by a guy the old-fashioned way as she said it seems no women gets asked out properly on a date anymore! Are things really that bad out there for a single woman?????

I know a few but only one who I'd actually recommend to any nice single girls. Own house and car, lovely fella, intelligent, nice looking and hung like a donkey. Hasn't been single that long and tends to do LTRs so probably won't be single for much longer.

The others are all a bit odd, as per previous posts. Or a bit desperate, which puts women off. Or both.

Ha, I was wondering if trays were a fetish I had yet to come across

Um, the more unusual fetishes among my acquaintances involve a fondness for cats, dogs, transgender male-to-female pre-ops, one that likes to get it on in caves (actual caves) and another who has to always have sex with a condom "because his penis is too big and it hurts without one" - guess it'll always be safe with him!

I need new friends.

I know a few, they are mostly computer geeks. Most of DP's friends from university are still single. They are kind, interesting, solvent, but shy and can be a bit, well, geeky. Tendencies towards heavy metal tshirts and sweatshirts with physicist jokes on.

They do tend to hang out with their geeky friends in all-male clusters, so they rarely meet women. And lots of women don't go for this type but they are very nice people.

Having thought about this I do actually know 2 single men who are very funny, very kind and would make fabulous partners. Sadly they are both VERY overweight. Not just a few extra pounds. Health impacting and it has shot their confidence. I wish they are would do something about it. I hope I don't come across as shallow. My last partner looked like elmer fudd and I loved him!

I know several. Lovely chaps no idea why they have no partner okay they work very long hours. 30ish in age any good? They all should be solvent, own there own home and I'm fairly sure they have their own teeth. Any takers?

You need to put a classified up lego! Sounds like you have the best of the bunch! Im too old for 30 somethings !

Hardly any. Can only think of one.

The kinky man I know is into bondage and mild S and M among other things. He is probably more dateable since 50 shades but is still a little too kinky for most ladies.