do you know any nice single men?

[JupiterGentlefly]

Myself included. . A lot of us bemoan the absence of nice single men.. Friends in rl and here pacify us (and trust me it is appreciated!) that there are plenty of decent men out there. . However my best friends a lovely couple will often say the aforementioned and when I ask them if they can think of a nice chap that may suit I get the reply that no one they know is single. So.. in RL how many nice single men do you REALLY know? Just a little poll for fun ..

[morley19]

weegiemum, please introduce him to us, one of us might be his soul mate! x

[ormirian]

Well I know lots single men.

Some are single because they can't meet any one who will put up with them. Slobs and emotional infants.
Some are single because they have been burnt once or twice and are as wary as an impala in a lion's den.
Some are single through choice and are happy that way but if they did find someone who they liked enough to get together with they'd have some seriously odd habits.
Some are players and don't deserve any woman but swear they are over all that and want to settle down but strangely with H's friend (major player) the women he swore he wanted to settle down with was me so I am not sure he playing days are quite over .
And some are pretty amazing men and for the life of me I don't know why they are single.

[littlecrystal]

I know only one.. my colleague in mid-40s, kind, solvent, but not very presentable.

5starprisoner you described exactly the type of guy I would settle for 'We may be average looking, greying, with a bit of a belly but hey, we're presentable, well-mannered, kind, caring, normal-ish and lucky enough to have the comfortable lives we've made for ourselves.'

Unfortunately, I am stuck in a worthless marriage.
My H seems to think he is single - and he would make a "nice" single guy except that he only cares for himself (or perhaps he thinks I am not the right for him).

[FaceDirectionOfTravel]

Yep, and I put up an ad for him on My Single Friend.

[Lostlou]

No - over here!!

I know one single bloke. 36 brown hair blue eyes I'm guessing around 5' 8" lives in London f**cking gorgeous. Snogged him a couple of times but nothing else. but would do without a moments hesitation given the chance

Suspect he is a bit of a player - been warned off him by two unrelated people ( one male, one female).

Agree with HelonHeels Go cycling - this guy is a cyclist too. If you want to check him out have a look at the cyclist on the latest Maximuscle sports drink TV add. Think it's on t'internet too. Message here if you want his number... ;-)

[stormtreader]

Or over to me instead ;)

[piratecat]

weegiemum, send him this a way please!!!

[Weegiemum]

I know a gorgeous 44 year old man who would make any woman a great husband.

He had a 10 year relationship that ended when his dp had an affair.

Since then, he's moved about with work a lot - Belgium, Warsaw, New York and now London, and works stupidly long hours.

He's my dh's best friend, I'd love him to find the woman/family he longs for.

[ThatBloodyWoman]

One.

He'd make someone a lovely partner too.

[whatsthatcomingoverthehill]

This seems somewhat appropriate to this thread

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/80-per-cent-of-men-are-twats-2014033185204

[Apocalypto]

SM#3 - attractive, hard working, intelligent but incredibly intense, self absorbed & vain. Forever disappointed that no-one meets his expectations.

I suspect this is why all the attractive single women we hear of are still single. They're female versions of this bloke with equally unrealistic expectations.

[LurcioLovesFrankie]

Re the question of where nice geeks go of a weekend...

The geeks of my acquaintance vary - but a lot I think have "given up" in that they assume no-one would want to date them so they form an alternative social life - a lot of it on-line, some with friends who don't offer any risk of romantic complications (hence rejection) - hence they hang out with older women like me or married friends, or (of course) other geeks.

[Llareggub]

I know a few. One of them has asked me out a few times but never actually follows through with the date. He is very shy.

The other is a 38 year old man child who I love very much but could never imagine him being committed to a relationship. We have fun though.

The other is in his early 40s and is very clever. He is very involved with his DCs on a daily basis and logistically relationships seem tricky.

[TheSporkforeatingkyriarchy]

I know two quite lovely single guys.

One has just turned 30, one of the nicest and most helpful people I know, but overly worries about pushing his opinion on others/seeming intimidating (he is tall and broad, at least to me) and has a job that makes meeting people difficult (his boss is evil with changing schedules), both of which kill his dating chances.

The other is almost 45, kind but a bit...if he likes something it's awesome and if not it's rubbish and trying to debate that gets no where. He's fine with people disagreeing but trying to discuss it never works which is only frustrating as he discusses movies/shows/games/media in general a lot. He's hoping for someone to go LARPing with him which cuts his chances down a bit.

I have two nice single women friends, but they both have so many issues and are as flaky as puff pastry that I'm not surprised.

[phlebas]

I'm 39 & know four single men (SM) of a similar age - two I like, they're good company & decent enough, one is extremely hard work, one is vile.

SM#1 - solvent, good looking, intelligent, funny etc but committed bachelor who spends all his money on gadgets & is a perpetual Peter Pan.
SM#2 - good looking, entertaining but terrible with money & problems with alcohol.
SM#3 - attractive, hard working, intelligent but incredibly intense, self absorbed & vain. Forever disappointed that no-one meets his expectations.
SM#4 - a misogynistic bigot. Incapable of holding down a job or maintaining relationships. Believes the world owes him something yet content to sponge off his elderly parents.

I wouldn't recommend any of them as partner material.

[ghostwritten]

Conversely I know loads of middle aged women who are nice and would prefer not to be single.

[stormtreader]

Out of interest, for all those saying they know lovely geeky guys theyd actually recommend for prospective dating - what kinds of events/groups/situations do they go to? Or is it the case that they just dont leave the house much?

[ghostwritten]

Know loads of nice single men ( middle aged). Have really good friendships with many of them.
They are single for a reason, mainly through choice and lifestyle.
So nice and single doesn't necessarily equate dating material.

[LurcioLovesFrankie]

I know quite a few - lovely one came round last night to watch a film with me. V. geeky (as they all are), but good looking, well turned-out, nice, interesting, politically engaged... I can't see why a woman his age (he's late 30s) hasn't snapped him up! Admittedly, a lot of my single male friends are geeky, but there's n'owt wrong with geeks (and before anyone asks why I don't snap any of them up, the answer is age difference - I am an old gimmer).

[Plumpysoft]

I know a lovely one. Forty, creative, v v v laid back

[chicaguapa]

I'm sure I know more, but I can immediately think of two, one of whom has never had a girlfriend in all the time I've known him, but I can't fathom why.

[lucyintheskywithdinos]

Quite a few, but they are mostly in their 20s.

In their 30s there is one who is a PhD in literature and is a writer...but he is gay.

T'other is a builder of specialist laptops and into running and is my ex-BIL!

[maleview70]

In my friends group of 15 or so fellas in late 30's to mid 40's, I know 3.

One is in love with booze
The other has zero personality
The other has had one girlfriend in 25 years lasting 2 weeks.

Doesn't paint too rosy a picture does it?

[BitOutOfPractice]

simplesusan online dating sites are full of men like that. FULL!