The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Er, no... Not talked on phone! Oh god, didn't even consider this...!

Master in my experience, they cancel at short notice, they keep cancelling....so I'm with you on "fuck off and lose my number".

Might be harsh but plenty of fish in the sea....Sorry you ended up on the short end of that particular stick today Jon. When you've gone to the effort of getting ready and turning up, it's only polite to expect the other bugger to do the same!!!

Hi Nearly...long distance would be a no go for me personally, but if you feel something for this guy...nothing ventured, nothing gained!

Shite. Just arrived to date location. Have just realised I left my wallet at home. Balls!

Bugger pow

Jon you may find he's got cold feet..6 miles is hardly insurmountable, I would approach this one with caution...if you still want to meet him tomorrow then my advice is ask him to give you a csll to discuss when and where... its always best to talk even briefly before meeting imo

Pow! Crap...
say nothing, if its just a coffee im sure he'll offer to pay! Good luck :-)

I forgot my purse on our first date powpow - I'd never done it before, I was absolutely mortified.

We've been together more than 3 years now AND I had a coldsore.

Thanks I will do. In fact I wouldn't have given him another chance but he spoke about this particular ambition he has which happens to be mine, also. It surprised me a bit... Yes though! I won't be walked over! :-) in fact, am having a scout about now. Bloody addictive.

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Jon 5/6 miles is probably £15/£20 tops by cab. Approach with caution I say!

Poff I hope he's a gentleman!

I'm sitting here highly irritated at myself for typing lose, loose?!?!?

VERY quiet day today, no texts/whatsapp/Tinder?? I'm trying to avoid logging onto POF, 4 days and counting! Don't know why??

Nearly can I ask, if he's 8 hours away, how often would you realistically be getting together?? How would you DATE, cyber/skype dates perhaps?? How would you feel about him dating/shagging other people closer to home?? How do you propose to make this work? I'm just curious as how you REALISTICALLY envisage this going forward?

I dated the love of my life for 18 months, he lives in Dublin and I live in Birmingham, we would see each other minimum 2 weekends out of the 4, and were always going away together. Dub to Brum flights are cheap and sometimes take 30min. He didn't want to commit that's why it didn't work, but we are still close and keep in regular contact. He said to me on Wednesday night he wants to move to warmer climates, invited me along, but after 8 years on/off I'm like bleeuuugggghhhhh, plus I've got my kids to consider. It was hard work but at the time so worth it, I would've moved to Dubs had he committed!

The reason I won't embark on a long distance relationship like that is that at this stage of my life I'd like to see my BF more than 6/8 days out of the month, 3/4 times a week minimum. I WANT THAT, pretty clear about that now.

After all my talk about staying offline and giving myself time to regroup i've after signing back inyo pof! Bloody addictive is right jon!

Poff and Pow go change your user names lol , meant Pow in the above post!

I agree Master...at first the ldr can work well wgen there's all that adrenalin driving it, eventually though it gets difficult...there were lots of times I spent evenings alone or trying to find something to do when I could have been spending time with my bf had we lived in the same city...even nye he sat in front of his tv and I sat in front of mine!
unless there is any real possibility of a move in the future for either of you I would err on the side of caution!

Sweet :-)
It was obviously meant to be!

Can I just make a blanket apology for all typos, new phone that is taking some getting used to!

I promise my literacy skills are usually flawless!

Hi Master PO, thanks - those are exactly the kind of questions I should be asking myself! Realistically we could get together quite often - both can have jobs that we can work remotely for the odd week here and there. I don't have kids to consider and I could re-locate fairly easily (although I do like my job and being around friends and family here). BUT - its way too early to be thinking about all that, never mind discussing it with him! He says he wouldn't want to see anyone else while we are still in touch but I said something along the lines of 'why don't we wait and see if we are both still single when you are next in the area.' Regretting that a bit now as I really do like him and this thread is making me more aware than ever that decent men do not grow on trees! I guess my main worry is that if things went well long distance then one of us would have to uproot our entire lives for a relationship which might not translate as well when living nearby!

"I'm sitting here highly irritated at myself for typing lose, loose?!?!? "

@MasterPO - To be honest I hadn't noticed the typo in your previous post (I read it as lose anyway) and that wasn't what I was meaning with my post about comedy gold.

I just had this vision of a bloke lying in pain on a stretcher with a neck brace on, telling some paramedic that he has to phone his date to explain about the motorway accident and you telling him to, "do one you twat and lose my number!".

Well, the thing about online dating is that it's a bit like watching digital telly; you're always wondering if there's something better on, on another channel. So you end up channel hopping during the commercial breaks.

Nearly but you see therein lies the problem, and we ALL do it, but I'm learning to be UPFRONT AND HONEST by saying what I want short term/long term. You say "....let's see where it goes....", now you regret it. I think that's very vague. I may be wrong, but for me it's very important to not be vague. THIS IS WHAT I WANT, MAKE UP YOUR MIND IF YOU WANT THE SAME THINGS AS I DO, IF NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. I DONT have time for time waster, FWB/bootycall/emotional retards. I want a man that knows what he wants from life and which direction his life is going. No pussyfooting around, I'm a grown woman, educated, financially stable, I don't need you, but I want you. It's THE DIRECT APPROACH. We are not 22 anymore. Most men need a very detailed diagram.

My approach is probably why I'm still single, but I'm DONE with being too scared to claim what it is I want. I'm turning 40 this year no longer have the time or patience for fools!

And I'm sitting on my bed alone on a Saturday night, but you know what, I'd rather be alone....................

I'm ranting like a mad woman, maybe I need to get laid?!?!?!?!

Made I'm rolling my eyes at you, hahahaha (digital tv analogy)

Broken I'm giggling! I know it's not funny, but come ooooonnnn STOP WITH THE NEGATIVITY. Are you now going to close yourself off completely?? Is that it, have you given up? Do you plan on living the rest of your days as a bitter unhappy woman?? The choice is YOURS! These guys are probably getting along with their lives, happy as Larry, not even giving you a second thought (sorry) and what are you doing, punishing yourself! Take back control, YOU'RE in control of your happiness!

Hear hear Master!

MasterPO Thanks for more help with clarifying my thinking Thing is, I don't mean to be vague, that is exactly what I want - to 'see where it goes' but the distance factor means that some kind of decision (i.e. to make the effort keep in touch or not) needs to be made. I'm definitely letting him do all the running and am on high alert for red flags! I'm 31 if that makes any kind of difference. He's financially stable, owns a house and has a good career. I'm the one that is a bit more flighty and don't know what I want or where I want to be (although I do have a decent career)!

Master Never a truer word spoken. Each of us are in charge of our own destiny including our happiness.

Broken I have read all of your posts on the dating thread as a lurker dead nosy me and you have met a small amount of men. While each has either not been for you, or have left, you have taken it as a deeply personal snub. The rules for dating, say "develop a thick skin". This is true beyond words. You will have to toughen up or step out of the game.

Forgive my appalling manners, as a newbie myself, welcome to all the newer newbies.

Hi Dreaming
Well have been spending the afternoon pofing away.

Have had a "Get in my bed" and "Just bought some new boxers which I will model for you, what will you model for me in return?"

I long for a boring conversation...you'd think I had risqué photos on that screamed "Do me boys" but I really don't. I'm touching middle age and am quite frankly dull as ditchwater! Not even a humorous anecdote...

On stroll home from date. He was a gent and got the coffees. Nice guy but a tad too boring for me. Sounds awful but as my baba used to say. You need a man with a but of jizz about him. Also way shorter than he let on.