The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Aaahhhhhh Jon don't think like that! hopefully you gain more confidence as you speak to more people. So what if you're not their cup of tea, there's POF in the sea and there's someone for everyone. Are you male or female??

I'm female and been single by choice for about five years with a couple of fleeting relationships in there. I do like being alone, but... It's worth giving this a go I reckon. I'm just not very good at being my normal self in these situations....

Yes...text the bloody maths demon.

Wanted to know if it was all about the sex....as if I didn't know the bloody answer!

I can relate..........SIGH!

Have deleted, deleted, deleted.....and now put my piccies up on my POF profile. I will not crack again! Best thing is I think if he wasn't the first person I'd got involved with after so long, I wouldn't even have given him a second glance...

Still onwards and upwards and am so glad I have you all to kick me up the ass and commiserate!

OH DEAR GOD Lies I take it no reply?? He's an ASS!

I think we should get some voodoo dolls.........

I'm sort of tempted to say, tell me his POF name, let's fuck with him, but that's just so juvenile hahahahaha

Master ....so tempting!!!

Lies, I knew if I'd texted him and he blanked me again I would feel even more shit and something tells me that is exactly what would have happened...but shit was I tempted!

We've just gotta put it down to experience and try to learn from it...hard in a way as I feel there was little else I could do to protect myself..took it very slow, kept things light etc.
Anyway, his loss as they say.
we are the prize!!

Poff & Lies YES WE ARE!

Ultimately women do weild ALOT of power, especially when it comes to sex (I know it's not the be all and end all) but we decide whether we are going to give it up or not, the only problem, besides rapists, is that we get so emotionally wrapped up in it all (which I LOVE but hate myself for doing with non committal FUCKTARDS).......THINK LIKE A MAN, ACT LIKE A LADY perhaps??

Hello everyone, Can I join? I'm new to this OD and so far I think I have fallen at the first hurdle. Like BurtNo I have put Dating down and then discovered that it displays as "Dating, nothing serious" which appears to be code for no strings sex. I had no idea, and this isn't my intention but "looking for relationship" seems too twee, when all likelihood I won't want a relationship with 95% of the pof population. Must think this through more

Waves @ LBM

You are both absolutely correct Poff and Master!

I like think like a man, act like a lady. It's very appropriate to OD, it is a numbers game and I bloody wish we didn't get so emotionally wrapped up in it all!

Welcome LBM. Why don't you trial them both and see how your responses are affected....

Er, well... I just got cancelled. As I was walking through the pub door!
He has a flat car battery. Hmmm. He insisted it wasn't an excuse and has asked to meet tomorrow in a pub nearer me.... I think he deserves one more chance?

Oh gosh thats a bummer Jon! Well done you for getting the courage for that first date and Yes, I think he does deserve 1 more chance as long as it is him doing all the running/asking? But Im new to this game so Im sure someone better will be alongsoon to offer more (read better) advice x

I'm fairly new to it too, shanelle. I appreciate the advice. Just feel a bit flat after hyping myself up. Never mind! Have you found anyone you'd like to meet up with yet?

Ok, ONE more chance, but I'm sceptical, why leave it till last minute and why couldn't he cab it????

I had a date once, I text to confirm 30min before, he texts back at supposed time of date to say there's an accident on motorway, I told him to FUCK OFF and loose my number. He called me all sorts and to this day still stalks me on POF! What set me off is that, 1. He only text back at time of date; 2. If I hadn't text would he have even bothered??

I detest rude inconsiderate people, manners don't cost a thing

Oh master you are a lot wiser/tougher/further along than jon and I! I guess you are right, he could havre cabbed it and it WAS short notice but these things do happen sometimes maybe? This is why I need this site!!
jon let us know if he txt or messages you again and how it goes. Yes I do have this one guy im chatting to that im fairly interested in, ticking all the boxes so far so im keen to meet asap to make sure there is a connection/ chemistry in RL before I waste weeks messaging him and start to invest any emotions into it!

"...he texts back at supposed time of date to say there's an accident on motorway, I told him to FUCK OFF and loose my number. He called me all sorts..."

Some of the posts in this thread are comedy gold!

hangs head in shame

Haha yes MasterPO, I will remember the phrase "fuck off and lose my number!" suppose he could have cabbed it but it's about 6 miles so would have been quite hefty... And in fairness he text me half an hour before we were meant to meet - I just got there stupidly early as I hate being the who has to scout about looking for someone they've never met before...
Thing is, the pub tomorrow is rural and quiet...and near my house. On the off chance he's rude/loud/a twat it will be embarrassing going back in there...
Anyway, shanelle, what's this bloke like of yours? I defo agree with meeting up quickly. I only started chatting to this guy last night, so haven't invested so much if it goes to pot. Does he live near you?

Jon hope hes not rude/loud/a twat but I see what you mean

Well "carpenter guy" seems very nice, likes similar things, and ticks all my boxes, looks cute in his photo and rarely it seems is the right age for me! My only red flag/concern being uber picky is he asked me several times what I was doing this weekend, I waited for an invitatton to coffe/drink etc but after the third time he metioned, so do you have plans for Sunday?
I got bored of waiting, and took the bull by the horns (I may or may not have had a glass of left over mulled wine by this point) last night and said casually that I could get out child free for an hour so did he fancy a quick coffee? He replied, that sounds lovely but can I see how my work/job goes and let you know!! I was a little and a bit miffed (sniffs indignantly that he didnt jump at it!)
So now Im thinking A) he isnt that into me B) he is married and has to see if he can slip away at any point C) he may just MAY be genuinelly busy as he does seem to be a bit of a workhorse which in itself is a bit of a red flag...

Hello! Can I join in? Need a bit of advice! I had 3 really good dates with a man I met online. He was visiting family for christmas and has now gone back to his home (8 hours drive from me!). I really wasnt expecting to meet anyone I liked that much and wanted to gradually introduce myself into the dating scene (it was only my second date after a long term relationship) so before I met up with him I didn't really think about the distance.

So - I'm well aware that I really don't know this man after 3 dates! I would have liked to get to know him more over a few more dates. He told me that he has had an amazing time and would love to try to keep things going from a distance but hasn't put any pressure on me or been over the top (argh, this is why I like him so much!). What do I do?

Hmm, that's irritating, shanelle. I'd be a bit indignant, too. I think the "got any plans for the weekend" must be a common message filler on POF though, rather than a hint toward making plans. I hope he doesn't text you tomorrow and just expect you to drop everything to meet him.

Nearly there, that's so infuriating, isn't it? Personally I couldn't do that long distance, but then I've never met anyone decent...!

"......he's rude/loud/a twat......."

Have you not spoken to him on the phone?? I like to actually talk to them before hand?!?!?!

Shanelle is that ONE pic as in singular or you've seen others??

22 hopefully someone else can come give you advice and welcome on board!