The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Good luck Shanelle, don't expect too much of yourself..or him!

kscience - feast or famine eh?? so will you be seeing local guy again?

Master - I thought it wasn't the right time or something for Mr Wales? but another long phone call...?? confused . com

Well Mr 4 has disappeared, what a plonker!

Hello everyone! Have lurked on here previously (although not for the last few months) and need some good advice.

DTD on third date with nice guy, repeat performance last night. The sex is great and he's clearly a decent chap, but when we're not in bed its a bit ... meh.

He's not right for me but I get the impression he's seeing potential for something more serious, and I'm sure he'd be unhappy that I'm still online.

We haven't discussed exclusivity and its all been very casual, so I guess technically I'm not doing anything wrong, but I feel bad. And the longer I let this go on the worse it will be.

Is there any way I can phrase this so that it makes him feel less like crap?

H&G if bachelor#2 asks then would love to go out again. I sent him a text to say thank you and received a polite reply ...so will have to wait and see if I made a good impression.

Loris are you sure meh will not get better as you get to know him better? Not sure what to advise on wording but agree sooner rather than later and face to face.

Shanelle that little sashaying song made me giggle! GO YOU!

Mr Wales wants to continue dating, so I've said I'd like to support him/hold his hand through life changing event, it was a HIGHLY EMOTIONAL call and made me see his more sensitive side. Our date today could happen, but nothing confirmed as we both have very busy days ahead. I'm currently cuddling a 4 month old, she's soooooo perfect. Oh and we've both now deleted POF profiles. It's a wait and see game, we aren't yet exclusive, but emotions very intense, he just ticks soooooo many boxes, the chemistry is FANTASTIC, actions speak louder than words!!!!! we've agreed no dtd till everything settles down, in the interim just hang out as much as we can. WATCH THIS SPACE Hansel that makes two of us, but I'm clearer now after the marathon call!!!!!

Lies ENJOY!

OneDay YOU GO GURL!

Poff I'm sooooo curious to know what Mr POF is going to say?!?!?!?

Science where have you been for TWO DAYS, was there sweaty sex involved? SPIIIIILLLLLLLL How very dare you be so vague lol! Never mind just read, DUH! Sounds promising with wed date! I can sooooo relate to shagging an ex to tide you over, it's easier as you know the deal and the chances of you becoming an emotional retard are limited/zero!

Hansel it's HIS loss, you're a catch and don't you ever forget THAT!!

Slow be honest! If the roles were reversed what would you say? If a guy came on here and said what you just said, I'd tell him to be honest because he's leading her on and it's unfair. You're not REALLY into him so let him go, it's coming across like you're using him for sex and co. KEEP IT REAL, treat others how you'd like to be treated!

Everyone else I've missed off, have FAB DATES!

SOOOOO MANY MEN, SUCH LITTLE TIME hahahaha!

Marking place so I can catch up :-)

kscience no I don't think so, it was hoping that it might get better (and alcohol) which led to the sex in the first place. Carrying on longer just in case seems selfish.

In fact, its clear from reading MasterP0s post that its nowhere near what I want. I want to want to delete my profile...

I'm going to have to come up with a little speech - maybe he'll say great, lets just meet for sex every couple of weeks!

brokenhearted that's exactly the thing I want to avoid, but its difficult to judge.

I've seen plenty of people say on here that they didn't have chemistry initially but feelings developed. So I could miss out because I call a halt to things too early, but if I wait for too long I'm perceived as stringing him along.

There's no issue in this case as I've made my decision, just saying that its not always so clear cut.

Hiya.....sorry for lack of personals!
Just back from my date for lunch. It was amazing. We both fancy the pants off each other...we snogged a lot and he is a really lovely guy. I am so excited. However, I'm keeping in mind 'don't invest too much too soon'.
Meeting again with him very soon.....hurray girls!

Good luck with everyone else on dates this weekend. Will do personals later. Just off for a cool shower, lol.

Yayyyyy Flora!! Sooo delighted for you :-)

Back fromy my playdate with carpeter guy sadly no chemistry
Really feel awful as he has already txt me saying niceties and I know Im going to have to let him know there was no spark, but I feel so horrible as theres no way to say that that isnt going to smart and I dont like hurting peoples feelings.

I dont know why really, he was nice, had a kind face and a lovely smile, just couldnt picture myself being romantic with him, I think partly it was because he hadnt made any effort with his clothes and shallow though it is, baggy, shapeless jeans and ditto t-shirt with scruffy trainers just not for me, though Im sure if there HAD been that connection, I wouldnt have cared what he was dressed in.

So if he DOES ask me for another date, what do I say, "thanks but no chemistry? Not feeling a romantic connection?" Oh cringing at the thought!

Flora YAAAAAY!!!! Here's hoping you go from strength to strength!

Slow I get what you're trying to say, but in matters of the heart honesty is the best policy, too many of us have had our hearts broken by someone who's just keeping us around quite possibly hoping chemistry develops or just stringing us along?!?!? Who knows, but I would've REALLY preferred if they'd just been honest with me especially if they could see/sense that I was eager/into them (like you know this guy is)!

Waves at Broken......

I'm soooo tired, kids still here, NOTHING is going to get me out of my bed after I've dropped them off at 6!

Shanelle that's a shame! Yes just tell him that. NOOOO it's not being shallow, I like to dress up/look good and generally take great pride in my appearance, and I'm a sucker for a man that makes an effort and loves to look and smell good! Sounds like he was dressed more for doing the garden than meeting a potential partner! FIRST IMPRESSIONS COUNT!

Loo update for mr horsey.... Really sweet but not my future husband..... Feel like i should look after him rather than do anything naughty!! Aw

That's a pity Oneday. Sorry about the lack of lol update last night. Was out with long distance guy. Had a great time and I do fancy him. Chatted away all night and it's just easy with him. He stayed in mine and was a perfect gent. Lots of snogging though. Made me breakfast this morning and got called away for a job. I would like to see him again so am hoping he wants to see me.

Good luck to all on dates tonight.

Shanelle Just say something along the lines of 'Thanks for the date. Unfortunately I don't feel there was enough chemistry to take things further but good luck with your search.'

Pow That sounds lovely! Hope he gets in touch again.

Any ideas what I could wear for my coffee date on Tuesday? It's literally at a local coffee shop. I think a dress might be too dressy. Should I go with skinny jeans, ankle boots and some kind of top?

Skinny jeans, ankle boots and a fitted woolly jumper would be fine for a coffee shop date Soft (I love seeing women in nice jumpers this time of year when it's colder).

Thanks, I think that's the kind of look I'm going to go for, Made. Keep it casual to match the venue.

I wore skinny jeans, riding boots, top and woolly cardi for my coffee shop date today. Worked a treat. Good luck!

Quick update - geeky wants to meet dc!

Sounds like there is a nice little connection developed with you and Mr Wales Master

Shanelle - Shame no sparks there but nothing ventured and all that...like others said, a nice 'was really good to meet you but I don't see us together, best of luck' sort of text should be enough.

Flora Hark at you! there you go, things turned around nicely just when you were starting to feel like giving up.

Not a lot to report but am chatting to one guy who I do believe is on the verge of asking me out...I think!

Hello all,

I was on this thread a little while ago but then had a break from OD until just before Christmas. Sorry to barge back in with an urgent question, but am hoping someone can give their advice.
Met a guy for a first date 2 weeks before Christmas, didn't see him again until this week due to both of us being away over Christmas. We kept in touch pretty much every day by text and v detailed emails.
Had a 2nd date on Wed and DTD, been in text contact since then and all seems very good.

However, just had a text from him about an hour ago - the first part references stuff I told him in my earlier texts of the day, how are you this evening etc. The latter part of the text says

'What are you doing this evening?. Missing you. It was very precious being together last night and nothing can quite compare to that. Have a lovely evening darling xx'

All very nice, except that we weren't together last night!!

Now, do you think it's a slip of the tongue and he meant to say 'being together last time' or (and I'm hoping not!!), he was with someone else last night???

I don't want to come across as clingy, so not sure if I should mention it when I text back. What would you all do??

Thanks in advance!

Sounds just like a slip of the tongue, Wednesday is close enough to Saturday for him to absent-mindedly say 'last night', also the fact he referenced what you said in earlier texts. I'd say nothing to worry about.

Thanks Hansel.
I have already texted back though to say I was a bit confused as we weren't together last night!
Lets see what he says...