The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Evening everyone. Haven't been around for a while, seems very busy on here (and hello to new people)

I'm not doing any of the dating-type-of-stuff at the moment, just focusing on work and a bit jaded by online dating. I had a date a couple of weeks ago and it was a bit 'meh'.

Hope everyone has good weekends planned

SoftKittyWarmKitty Often men look different in all the pictures they have up You then have to look at the best and the worst to try to get a medium. If I was very unsure, I would ask for a picture to be sent to my phone. Not always guaranteed to be recent, but some had non on their phone so took one there and then. It did often help, sometimes complicated matters. Thankfully, I only had one date where we didn't recognise one another, but as we were both standing at the agreed meeting place looking like a pair of mugs, we quickly worked out we were each others date. In mitigation, I was wearing a rather large hat!

Hello Bant. It's easy to become jaded isn't it? It happened to me after a while, so I would take a chunk of time out, then go back. This happened a few times and I felt better able to cope with weeding out the dross when I came back. I do think a mini sabbatical helps re-charge the batteries.

I'm an idiot :( I texted someone today I really really shouldn't be getting in touch with again, but haven't been able to stop thinking about for a long time. He didn't reply. I'm getting totally mixed signals off him and should have just left well alone. Stupid, stupid, stupid :(

Girlie that sounds great! things seem to be progressing nicely!! Flowers, what a Gent! I love thoughtful stuff like that!

Poff yes that's what I meant re:Mr Wales! Sounding like things are off to a positive start with Mr Delicious, WHOOOP WHOOOP! POFguy, rolling my eyes at HIM, REALLY DUDE?!?!?!?!?

Pow have a FAB date!

SoftKitty why not ask for another pic?? Btw is your username in reference to Sheldon Cooper, who I LOVE????

Broken thrilled to see you are slowly dipping your toes! Forget about that little boo boo, who cares what he thinks, you never have to set eyes on him ever again!

Deliberate have a FAB.U.LOUS eve dhharlin!

Waves at Bant!

Crow ERASE him out of your life, delete, delete, delete!!!!! What mixed signals are you getting? The guy hasn't replied to your text, so he's ignoring you, NO MIXED SIGNALS THERE?!?!?!

It's now 01h30, I've been on the phone with Mr Wales since 21h00!!!!!!! It's ALL just CRA CRA CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SMDH @ my damn self

Hi Bant nice to see you back.

Get back out there broken - who knows what's round the corner - or who you'll meet on the next date!

crow I too have texted someone I shouldn't. I think we've all been there and can identify with you on that!

Deliberately have a good time with Mr zany.

To all on dates this weekend - have fun!

master that all sounds v intense with Mr Wales.
I see my lovely geeky tonight - yay! And 13 days...

Hey Bant was wondering how you were getting on.

With all my multidating (now someone else has asked me to meet up - and we have had loads in common via messages so I will - that brings it to 5! no more!), I find myself waking up this morning for a lazy Saturday - no commitments until lunch date later - and I'm thinking about housemate guy. Which is annoying. I don't know what it is or why I feel like I care about him. I find myself wondering if he is doing ok. In the same way I'd be concerned about a friend in a similar situation.

Aww oneday, that's pretty natural...hopefully one of the five will help take your mind off him :-)

I'm meeting pofguy this evening, think he was slightly disappointed when I suggested we meet in town..he knows that means no chance of nooky lol

Was talking with a friend last night over (lots of) wine and she agrees it was almost a pity that I got involved with pofguy so soon after I split with ex..that I'd had no time to play the field as such... think she might be right!

Morning Everyone, just catching up.

Hi Bant, enjoy your hiatus. I think a break is good but I also find OD weirdly addictive and find myself creeping back...I am a relative newby 'though and still learning!

Dont have a ball with geeky tonight and let the countdown begin

OneDay...hard when your mind wanders backwards. Especially when you have so many dates to look forward to, hopefully one of them will take your mind of housemate guy.

Naughty Mr Wales Master. Hope the life changing event is not insurmountable, sounds like you have a real connection girl! Must admit I have wondered just how many of the men we are dating read threads like this...can't be a lot of them or I'm pretty sure we wouldn't get the amount of dick pics we do!

Crow , we've all done it! Delete, block and move on. Easier said than done but you will get past it and there will be someone sad desperately waiting on a text from you!

Pof good luck with your meeting, eyes open lady, stick your bullshit detector to super sensitive and think of Mr Delicious often!!!

Deliberately enjoy Mr Zany and enjoy getting all of a dither!

Girlie great that things are going well for you...hope tonight goes well!

Have fun on your playdate with Carpenter guyShanelle, really natural setting and shows exactly who you are day to day...love it!

Pow enjoy yourself this evening, is it Mr Long Distance?

AFM...off out on date number four tonight with a sleepover scheduled for after. There will be no sex, good old period keeping my feet firmly on the ground!

Apologies if I've missed anyone, things on this thread move so fast...love it! I don't have one single friend and none that have ever tried OD and still view it as a bit weird. One friend actually begged me not to do it . So to come on here and find all you strong, empowered people going through all the same emotions and making the same mistakes I do, has been a God send! Great advice and loads of laughs.
By the way...were any of you tempted to message Sheffield Guy for a bit of NSA...Jeez - what a knobbed!

Am crapping myself over todays date! Its been 4 years since Ive been on one and that turned into the start of a horrible EA relationship that Ive spent almot a year and a half recovering from! Im fine, ready to move on its just been a while and Im rusty!

My main concern is the possibility there will be no spark as weve made really good friends (seemingly) over the last 10 days and I know getting on well over txt/email doest always translate to RL. Im going to feel really embarrassed if he isnt feeling it, and bad if Im not! I know you guys are all well versed pro's at this and have developed the much needed "thick skin" so Im glad to have you all here for virtual hand holding

Anyone else on dates today/tonight? Can we do a role call so we know who to check in with for updates later

Doh!!!!! Sat waiting Crow not sad waiting!!!!!!!!

Off to hang my head in shame!

Thanks lies for the good wishes and the round up! Busy weekend then

Shanelle If that's the case and one of you isn't feeling it, allow yourself a moment to feel disappointed, then pick yourself up and move on. You are the prize and he needs to want to win it and you need to make damn sure he's the one you want winning!

Big hugs, nerves are good. You are going to be fine and I hope you both get on like a house on fire and you come home with a big smile on your face!

Thanks Shanelle...include me in that role call but it may be tomorrow afternoon before I check in

hands up 1st date this afternoon with Mr Horsey and 2nd date tomorrow with Mr BBC (from Thursday night). And tonight girly trip to the cinema, looking most forward to that to be honest!

shanelle - just try go in open minded and not expecting anything apart from a pleasant afternoon/evening - and then anything else is a bonus. Be your best version of you, but don't try to be anything you're not, and don't be afraid to be honest but also there's no need to share every little detail immediately! Haha, fortune-cookie advice aside hope you have fun :-) - that's the point!!

I try to reflect on ''unsuccessful'' dates as practice - so when I DO finally walk into a pub and it's Mr AmazinglyRightForMeInEveryWay, all the little awkward things about dating won't faze me.

Shanelle, deep breaths..you will probably find the conversation just picks up where you left off by text...you'll both have your kids to distract from any tension or fill any awkward silences, perfect! :-)

Lies I'm seriously impressed at your resolve to keep the legs firmly closed!

Lots of dates this weekend..yay! Cannot WAIT for the updates!

Master what was the outcome of the marathon convo with mr wales??

Oh and put me down for two dates! Pofguy tonight, mr delicious tomorrow!

Go us!!

Thanks all - I feel good now, so Im off, (sashay's through the door, chanting I am the prize, I am the prize, I AM the prize!)

Morning all,

Had a couple of days of pleasant surprises and not been home in 2 days!

Lies love what you have said about this thread and I feel the same. Don't have any single friends and certainly none who have "needed to resort to" (yes a direct quote) OD, so thanks everyone.

Thank you all for sharing your good dating stories too.

My Loo update. Been rather norty and slept with ex. I moved back to the area after a couple of years away and bumped into him, had catch up coffee and he made it clear he was still interested..I am not and I made that clear. However we have got physical a couple of times (with me being VERY clear that physical is all I want) hormone therapy is sometimes very much needed and have succeeded to get my libido back under control after bachelor#1.

Had message from not my usual type on Wed and we went out for drink at local pub last night. Again found him much more attractive than his photo, drinks turned into dinner and we got chucked out at closing time. So a really nice evening, easy chatting and good company.

Looking good Shanelle ;-)

Let's all try to have fun above all else...leave the analysis and self flagellation until Sunday night :-)

Shanelle I am new at this too. The best advice I got was from my son (who is 21 going on 50) and to go out with the attitude of I am practising dating/flirting and just be yourself and have fun.

OH yes and don't forget to breathe.

I think a successful date is one where I have not fallen flat on my face/ tucked my skirt into my knickers and walked across the room flashing all and sundry/ said something that as I say it I realise is a direct insult to the person I am talking to!!!

Kscience! Fabulous! You sound totally in control there with your ex...taking what you want from it and nothing more...I could certainly take a leaf out of your book...btw did you tell ex you're dating again?

Yes Poff I am totally up front with ex. I also will not sleep with him if I am "seeing someone" i.e. had more than an initial meeting/ first date.

I feel in control and occasionally feel bad/ that I am taking advantage but not bad enough not to do it mostly as I am totally honest and he knows I am the type of person who says EXACTLY what I mean and that I will not be won over/change my mind. But he is in a place where he wants a sort of relationship, so I fill a need for him too....and he is not the type to play women with promises of what he cant deliver. Its one of those relationships where we are still friends, still have very good chemistry but just know we cant give each other what the other person wants/needs from a long term relationship and make each other miserable if we try. it works for now