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The Dating Thread 67

999 replies

MasterP0 · 03/01/2014 12:15

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

New Thread Alert the other ones has reached maximum capacity!

HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

OP posts:
HanselandGretel · 10/01/2014 17:43

Mr Wales has been reading this??

shanelle5 · 10/01/2014 18:18

Oooh master spill!
I have been wondering about this topic, its really easy to find, any person male or female would only have to google online dating or similar and could uncover the thread, and we are not exactly subtle! I cringe at the thought of my playdate tomorrow seeing me describe him as carpenter guy and some of the things Ive already posted about him! Blush I think we forget (or I do anyway) that this is a very public forum, read by literally thousands and east for anyone to see! Oops

TalisaMaegyr · 10/01/2014 18:35

How do you know that MasterPO? Shock

MasterP0 · 10/01/2014 18:44

Well last weekend he text me while I was boarding the plane to Dublin, he asked what I was doing I said I was getting onto a flight to Dublin for 2 days. Then whatsapped him Monday morning, he saw the messages and ignored them.

Heard nothing till this afternoon, him asking me "....how was Dublin..."; "What was Dublin all about.."; ".....did you get satisfied..." So I told him to cut the crap, say what he means, I'm way too old for silly mind games, if he wants to say or ask me something he needs to grow some balls and ask me directly and that he's full of shit and I'm not going to tolerate his shitty behaviour and if he decides he wants to be with me, he should be making more of an effort to be spending time with me etc.

He replied that "...it seems you've made my mind up for me and I don't think I deserve this tirade!"

I reiterated that from day one I've told him I want to be with him, he however seems to have changed his mind and I now felt like he's playing mind games and he's frustrating me, I told him it's either you want me and to be with me or you don't, VERY SIMPLE! I again reiterated what my expectations of a relationships were bla bla bla, told him to KEEP IT REAL!

Only then did he communicate the potentially life changing event that occurred earlier in the week resulting in his silence.

We then cleared the air, discussed what it meant for me/him/us........

OP posts:
TalisaMaegyr · 10/01/2014 18:46

But how does that indicate that he's reading this thread? Confused

MasterP0 · 10/01/2014 18:53

Talisa refer to 2nd paragraph.

OP posts:
TalisaMaegyr · 10/01/2014 19:12

Still don't get it, sorry!

girliefriend · 10/01/2014 19:23

Hello, another nice evening last night, I cooked and he liked which was a bonus Grin he bought me Thanks which was a really nice surprise, I seriously can't remember the last time a bloke bought me flowers!!

Going out tomos and he is going to meet my friends for the first time - eek. Am really nervous about it, am sure they will like him but you never know!!

Saw the Dr this week and am back on the pill, don't want any unexpected surprises turning up but am yet to have the 'do you mind having a sexual health check before we ditch the condoms' chat. I am not very good at talking about sex lark but am determined to try and get it right with this one!!

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 19:38

Talisa I can see why master assumes mr wales has been reading the thread, he seems to know alot about her trip to Dublin don't you think?

What friends are we talking about? I have a group of (girl)friends and I always feel sooo sorry for a new guy appearing on the scene, they can be quite intimidating! Are the friends all female or men too?

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 19:41

Sorry, that last bit was for girlie!

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 19:50

I've decided to meet Mr Delicious on Sunday...I've really enjoyed our text chats, he's very open about his life- talks about his kids, his work etc..doesn't feel guarded and secretive which is refreshing tbh...he was playing 5 aside footie last night and hurt his ankle...he told me he'd heard a crack! Anyway turns out he's broken it!still doesn't want to cancel our date! :-)

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 19:53

Meanwhile pofguy is messaging to say he just saw the perfect event for us to go to on his birthday weekend in march! Wanted to check I'm kid free that weekend before he books the tickets tonight! Don't know what to say!!??

powpow80 · 10/01/2014 20:00

Waves to all. Must catch up on the thread. My date didn't happen last night, but he is staying down tonight and we are going out for drinks. Poffed I'd just say it's a bit premature to be booking something when ye haven't even talked.

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 20:06

Yeah I agree pow, I've just messaged him to say something along those lines :-)

Have a great time tonight!! :-)

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 10/01/2014 20:22

Hi everyone, just found this new thread after joining in on the back end of the last one. I've got a coffee date next Tuesday lunchtime with a man from Tinder. He's 34 to my 42 and hasn't been put off by the fact I have a DS. He only has one photo up though which is a bit annoying as I'm worried I won't recognise him Grin.

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 10/01/2014 20:23

I'm 41, not 42! God knows why I added a year to my age Grin.

brokenhearted55a · 10/01/2014 20:29

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powpow80 · 10/01/2014 20:34

Thanks poffed. Broken I'd just say nothing if I was you.

girliefriend · 10/01/2014 20:42

Poffe its my two best girl friends who I have been best mates since secondary school!! Their other halves are going as well so will be blokes there as well....

I would be wary of a bloke who is booking things for March already!! But the broken ankle one sounds promising Grin

DeliberatelyDreaming · 10/01/2014 21:00

Poffedoff Booking tickets in March does seem a little forward, that said, it could mean he feels comfortable enough to look that far ahead? Reading mens minds is almost impossible. Mr Delicious sounds very delicious considering he has a broken ankle, yet hasn't postponed.

girliefriend Well done on thinking ahead to needing contraception. You have also reminded me, I must do this also. We use condoms at the moment, although a pregnancy is highly unlikely, as I am showing signs of the menopause, my sexual health is vital and we have discussed it and will be making appointments to have a full screen of all STI's for both our peace of mind.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Could you arrange to meet just outside the coffee shop so you both feel a little more confident recognising each other?

Mr Zany will be here around lunch time tomorrow, I have soooooo missed him, I'm all of a dither. Smile

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 21:05

Sounds good girlie, a big milestone no doubt :-)
Pofguy is the one suggesting he buys tickets for the event.. I've been seeing him since may until recently when I found him back online!
I'm meeting him tomorrow for a "chat" and to see if there's any chance of reconciliation...

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 21:23

Mr delicious is the first man I've met on pof in the "traditional" way...I was only ever looking for casual dating before so there was always a sexual slant to any communication/meets...it's sooo nice to connect with somebody on a regular level...its distracting me from thinking and fretting over meeting pofguy tomorrow...in fairness to him he's trying very hard, saying all the right things etc.

Deliberately, that is just AWFUL timing on the period front :-(

Mine arrived yesterday too which was actually a godsend...I'm not pleasant to be around when I've
Pmt!

lots you can still do together of course!:-)

Lahti · 10/01/2014 21:30

btoken I wouldn't worry about it. I've done much worse. I had blocked a guy on Facebook and was doing the same on twitter except I accidentally double clicked the block button and accidentally followed him... which would have sent him an email with my profile pic on it (me wearing fancy dress, drunk). Awful, awful, awful I immediately deactivated my account.

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 10/01/2014 21:41

Deliberately it's only a small coffee shop not a big Costa, so it should be ok. I'm just a bit worried that he won't look anything like what I think iyswim. When someone has a few photos up you get more of an idea of them, don't you?

Poffedoff · 10/01/2014 21:46

Haha lahti...major cringe!