The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Deliberate NONE OF US NEED TO KICK YOU, that implies us making this decision with/for you, ONLY YOU can make the choice and YOU have to live with it! Perhaps take a break from them both, regroup!

Just erase MR not-so-OMG out of your life and stop behaving like a teenager! Said with love not hate!

I should also add, both Mr Zany and Mr OMG have very well paid jobs, Mr OMG works away a lot, Mr Zany not nearly so much although he will be away for the next 2-3 weeks. I did know this, long in advance. That is not remotely an interest to me. I have supported my own DC alone for almost a decade and a half with no support from their father. We have a beautiful home and a nice lifestyle supported by me and me alone. So, neither salary is important to me, even though both is reasonably substantial. Both see their DC on a very regular basis which I support and encourage 110%

Thank you MasterPO You are right of course. I am no longer a teenager but a middle aged woman. It really is quite ridiculous written down and then re-read. Against the usual MN rules, I send you a large hug. I will sort my head out, I must.

Evening All!

Quick update. Date number three went really well. Went round to his and he cooked for me...was pretty damn good as well! Then we snuggled up on the sofa and watched crap tv all night, interspersed with a bit of hot and heavy kissing but ultimately clothes stayed on and we have yet to dtd. We're off out again on Saturday and I am staying over at his. Already told him that there's a good chance we won't be dtd then either.

Find it hard to believe that this time last week I didn't know him and it wasn't until last Saturday that I even sent him a message! Got a bit of a permagrin on my face at the minute

Hope you've all had a good evening!

Deliberate SIIIIGGGGGHHHHHH! Maybe if you keep writing on here and working through your emotions and thoughts you'll find the answers you seek!

Lies WOW! So happy for you, I do hope it all works out!

MasterP0 seeing you sigh and realising how pathetic I must sound, I have deleted Mr OMG from my phone. Luckily, being a Windows phone I have that option. I think deep down I always knew the answer, but to be chased by someone so incredibly good looking was an enormous ego boost as much as anything. You may not have given me a direct kick, but you made me realise I am/was acting like a child. I think I needed that, and I have made a grown up decision.

I now have the pleasure of seeing Mr Zany this weekend without anything else hanging over my head. He really is delightful and I know I am very lucky to have him in my life. He now has me, totally!

I just want to say deliberate no your'e NOT sounding (or being) pathetic at all, and none of us is in your shoes or can say with absolute certainty how we woul react/sound/behave in your shoes.
Its all very easy for us behind our PC's to tap away giving stern advice but we do not have the feelings involved so please dont criticise yourself too much,or take anything said harshly, it could be anyone of us making the same seeming mistakes next week so Id hate to feel you were getting wary of posting for advice incase of a flaming! Same goes for poff too... and

Just had my first message from a married man
"not sure if you tango with married types, if not sorry to have bothered you but if interested blah blah"!!

Ignore, delete and block or send a snippy response? Knob head!

deliberate you are fully normal as far as I can see.. wewould all love a mr omg . You have to do what is right for you, if he is going to cause anguish the whole time , is he really worth it ? Mr Zany sounds lovely ! Only you can decide. :)

Well after chatting to a guy since yesterday morning briefly and all night last night.... I have a date sunday evening !

flora I would look terrible in ANY size skinny jeans, has to be boot it for my shape. All the best for Saturday hope you have a great time :)

master I love the ACT LIKE A LADY BUT THINK LIKE A MAN. Excellent advice we should all try to follow for self preservation and as you say it's the only way to win the game to keep our options open

hansel chat a bit longer sounds like a bit of flirting to me, wait and see. Floras suggestion is good if you think he may be angling for something

poffe no I haven't slept/ snogged any of them YET and won't be until/ if I get to know them a lot better. BUT I have slept with my ex ( four year relationship man) and can see myself doing it again am I mad?
I don't feel like I'm in love with him anymore but he would like to get back together. Don't know why I'm doing it he wasn't very nice to me when we were together. I seem to have turned into this bitch whose treating men the way they've treated me. Not good is it
Maybe I will revert back to my true self when/ if I meet someone worthy

Good morning dating thread!

Just been catching up

There was talk of willy pic comebacks earlier...I was discussing this with a friend the other day, who came up with the idea of replying with a picture of the most extremely pierced, tattooed female genitalia that you could find on the internet.

Poffed have you decided to meet with Mr Delicious on Sunday?

Flora I'm with you were are the size 13 clothes lol!!!

Santa I hope it's ok to have 3 dates planned with 3 different men....as I currently seem to be juggling 4 lol and there's 2 or 3 others that I was messaging with!

Lies squee! sounds all very exciting....sigh, love those early stages....feet on the ground though woman!

girlie waves hi!! Sounds like things are going grand, butterflies are never a bad thing!!

My summary at the moment:
Mr MusicTeacher - going out for 2nd date next week, to go and see a play that we've both been meaning to see for a while. Not sure about this one. We'll see.

Last night first date with Mr BBC - had a really lovely evening. Just went to a pub locally (he lives within walking distance!). He's a nice guy, interesting, tall (woop), we seemed to get on well, he asked me again out by text as soon as he got home. Think I might see if he wants to do something on Sunday.

And then I have a lunch date lined up with Mr Horsey on Saturday, and FINALLY Mr Registrar who has been chatting with me for weeks (the one where the conversation has mostly been about our shared hobby) has asked me out for a drink as well. Although unless I find time to see him on Sunday, then it might be another week until I have some free time.

Auditions are in full swing!

shanelle I would delete, he'll take any response, even a snippy one, as further encouragement.

poffed I think you should still go ahread with the date on Sunday. You're doing nothing wrong - it's just a meet.

deliberately it's sounds like a tough choice. On balance, I'd say Mr zany - but I always think if you have to choose, neither are right. When I met geeky I had lots of dates arranged with others and had to cancel them all. I couldn't think of another man. That's how it should be.

oneday exciting! And busy!

at oneday you go girl. The juggling gets difficult though doesn't it and I can't help feeling a teeny bit guilty. Though god knows why

Lies that sounds dreamy :-) amazing how much things can change in a meagre week!

Oneday, good woman yourself :-)

Santa it's strange, it goes so against my nature to multidate that I used to feel terrible guilt...that was until I found this thread and realised everyone does it, including the men!

On the topic of multi dating etc, when do you usually have THAT conversation?
I mean its not exactly the first thing you want out of your mouth on your first date, but myself Id rather know from the get-go if the man/men you are dating are still actively using the sites and dating others. Im not bothered by it, I dont think, either way, just would rather know as it helps my mindset to know where im at.
Is it rude to ask right away what they are looking for and ^^?
LOVE this page!

Santa... you've given me food for thought there re your ex... so you've slept with him but not sure if you'll go back with him? how often do you see/hear from him? I'm only asking because I'm thinking of telling pofguy I'm willing to give it another go but to slow the whole thing down a bit, maybe even not stay exclusive??
The sex is so bloody good with him, not quite ready to give that up yet! :-)

Master is that the kind of arrangement you have with love of your life? Meeting occasionally for sex but both seeing other people too?

Shanelle I'm very forward when it comes to those type of questions. I'm not even going to meet you for a date if we are not looking for the same things. The first date should happen once you both decide if you're on the same page in my opinion! I'm not going to waste my time meeting you only to find out you're just looking for a roll in the hay!

It's OK for me if he's still chatting to others, I am too, I never ask that though. If we agree 2nd date etc then I'd want to find out if he's keeping his options open or he wants to date me, and only me, to see what happens. AFTER DTD and dating some more I'd want to go exclusive!

Poff you horny minx, LOVES IT!! Tread carefully though.

Eeeerrrmmm, no there is no agreement in place, last time I shagged him was March 2013, before that I don't think I'd shagged him in 2 years! But yes I guess that's what it is, but only difference is I love him, and I think I'm still IN love with him, I want more but I know he can't/won't give me what I want! So I've "switched off" those emotions where he's concerned! So I'm going to TRY not see him for a long time otherwise I'll end up hurt and disappointed AGAIN!

UGH! Mother nature is conspiring against me, I'm sure. Mr Zany and I have a lovely weekend planned, as he is childfree this weekend and my DC have their own plans. However, I woke up to a bloodbath (TMI - sorry.) He has his DS next weekend, and is away weekdays. Ironically, before I began to have sex again, my libido was non existent, now it's off the scale, and this week I am off the menu!

I always dated more than one, I felt keeping all my eggs in one basket was counterproductive. Shagging was a different matter, there really had to be a zing before that happened, and in around three years of dating only happened three times, Mr Zany, Mr OMG and one other. Had there been more zing, there would have been more action.

Thank you for all the advice re Mr OMG. I think I feel calmer now I have made a decision. Why can't dating as an adult be as simple as it was when we were teenagers? My DD can't understand why I find so much turmoil, while for them it's a case of a snog, great I'm your girlfriend now. It must be even more difficult for those of you with little ones.

Good luck all the weekend daters, fingers crossed you all have a fabby time. Updates are mandatory and I will be looking forward to them

To be honest I'm assuming that the guys are multi-dating too, and just not worrying too much about it for the time being. I don't bring it up as a topic of conversation but would be honest if directly asked. Last time (with housemate guy) I think I made a decision too soon to be exclusive, got burnt, and missed out on another great guy.

It is getting a but juggly. But I'm just looking on it as having fun, and properly trying to get to to know people a bit before leaping in.

oneday exactly me too, I'm assuming they are multi dating also and I'm not prepared to leap in too soon again after my online relationship ended after 3 months despit him being mad keen at the start.

poffe I can't see me going back with the ex, he was EA to me really or at the very least often not very nice. Thing is the sex was always great and when it ended with mr online and ex was still in contact I slept with him as he seemed safe and familiar if that makes sense. I cried on his shoulder big time. He wants me back I can't see how it would work

Mr Wales I KNOW YOU'VE BEEN READING THIS

Anywhooooo, Mr Wales got in touch, we've had a fight, but have gotten to the bottom of it. Life changing events mean that even though we would really like to see each other again etc., the timing is just not right! But one just never knows what life has around the corner. We hopefully will be getting together soon/one of these days, in the meantime LIFE GOES ON!

I have a fun filled weekend ahead of me, MY type of fun! I get to babysit for the whole day tomorrow, 4, 3, 2 year olds and a 5 month old! We are just going to slob about at home. I'm collecting them at midday!

I'm eagerly awaiting dating feedback from all of you! Living vicariously through you all............