The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Do drop by soon and let us all know how you're getting on :-)

Girlie hope you have a lovely evening..I cannot believe its nearly 2 months already!!

Well it's either a famine or a feast with me..not sure if I mentioned but after being stonewalled by pof guy and not he as hearing from musicman I decided to relaunch myself on pof!
One guy caught my eye (tall,dark AND yummily handsome) and I viewed his profile... he messaged me and we chatted for a good bit..lovely, easy going chat, really interesting guy (and did I mention yummy?)
Anyhow we messaged quite a bit over sunday/monday and he gave me his number, asked me to text if id like to continue it offline.
So I did! Then Monday evening pofguy gets on with his apology, tuesday musicman gets back in touch and yet I still continued to swap texts with mr delicious..christ I'm a dawg!
I've agreed to meet pofguy for a while saturday but in reality I feel like giving him another chance... mr delicious just texted and asked me to meet him for a drink Sunday!
Question is this...would it be worse to tell him now that I'm (prob) rekindling something with pofguy or just meet him Sunday (because I feel I've led him on and encouraged a date) and tell him then ( if of course I have decided to give it another shot?)

Fuck sorry that's an essay but felt I needed to explain fully!

Proffer....I'd agree to go on Sunday as pofguy could do another disappearing act....best to keep your options open. I don't see the harm. You might like MrDelicious more, or he might be good for some hot sex! What's happening with music man?

Flora Mr Zany is 50, so not really that much older. Mr OMG is 47 he is around 9 months younger than me. I didn't have C sections, but rapid weight loss, which gives me a horrendous 'pouch'. Both Mr Zany and Mr OMG have seen me nude. Mr Zany is all 'for' me, I can't help thinking Mr OMG will hurt me. I would send links to Mr Zany and Mr OMG so you could see what I mean but they have both closed their POF accounts. I look younger and really take care of myself (bar my bottles of red which I love.) Agggggh maybe I need a break, I know I could have either, gosh, that sounds so big headed, but It's true. Help me accept, Mr Zany as the better one for me, please. Mr OMG text tonight and I went weak again. I need to get him out, out, out of my life, but he wants me too.

God I have now got three dates booked with three different men. Is this ok do you think? I feel like a hussy it's been quite a feat to arrange them around shifts. Thing is if I meet them and really like one I will have to say I don't want to see the other two again. What do you say?

I never thought I would multiple date but I think men do it so why not

Deliberately....what a quandary. I'm not sure what you should do. I'm a firm believer in gut instinct. Think about who would enhance your life the most, over the long term.

Santa...tee hee! Good for you. I would say 'thank you for a lovely date. Ive really enjoyed chatting but I don't feel enough of a connection to take it further. I really do wish you all the best for 2014'.

Santa Never ever have all your eggs in one basket. I did when I first started to date and I ended up more in a mess than they did. Until you have the exclusive talk, you are free to date whom ever you choose. Men are highly likely too and to be honest, it's sensible. If you only date one at a time and find he is not for you, then you need to begin all over again. Good luck sorting the wheat from the chaff my love.

Well I was intending actually meeting all of them to see what I think. It might be I don't like any of them or I might like all of them hehe then what?

When is your date flora ? And I'm sure you look lovely in those jeans, we are always our own worst critics I believe x

Thank you deliberately yes I have dated one at a time in the past and yes also had to start all over again, so I guess it makes sense. Just seems out of character for me

Deliberate if you do decide to get back together with Mr OMG, brace yourself and GO IN EYES WIDE OPEN. Accept that you could NEVER depend on him and that he could walkout at anytime. WHEN A PERSON SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE, LISTEN!!!!!!! Mr OMG does what he says on the tin, don't get upset/hysterical/depressed/ twisted when does what he does best. Be true to YOURSELF, I (we) can say whatever, but I'm (we) not the one who is seeing him in RL.

Flora after the stunt POFguy pulled I'd keep my options open and DATE in the true sense of the word. Until these fools start acting like grown mature men who know what they FLIPPEN want, we should ACT LIKE A LADY AND THINK LIKE A MAN and shouldn't invest too much of ourselves!

Santa of course it's ok!! That is exactly what we should all be doing until we become exclusive and they say what they mean and mean what they say. I'd only get rid of anyone if We became exclusive, up until then, I'd keep my options open.

Keeping our options open doesn't come naturally to us, it's a work in progress, but I think that's the only way to play this game and win!

WE ARE NOT DESPERATE!

Not desperate....so true. I like the "we are the prize" scenario!
Master...I shall take your advice...act like a man, think like a lady.
I'm worried that I'm so under sexed that I may not act like a lady for long (eek).

Santa...my date is Saturday. I looked terrible in a size 12 skinny jeans, so resorted to my size 14s. I think I must be a size 13 if there is such a thing!

poffe - keep your options open, definitely, you have been burned by pof guy and for all you know, being pessimistic here and playing devil's advocate, but he might just be worming his way back as he didn't find anyone else online, tread carefully with that one.

santa - I can barely get one date lined up so I say go for it!

My number 4 hasn't got back to me and he was online briefly tonight, a bit annoyed that he suggested meeting this weekend, gut tells me he that' s it from him now and honestly I'm quite turned off by that sort of slippery behaviour so will most probably ignore should he try and say hello after the weekend when the 'date' time has safely passed!

Being messaged by what seems/ seemed like a nice guy, my type by the pics but he was joking about me coming over for coffee, when are you coming over etc, thought he was joking but it went on a bit and wore a bit thin and I told him so...he apologised and said he was joking but the red flags flew...'joking but not joking I thought', saying it in a jokey way to cover his arse if I said no...or am I overseeing this? should I give him a chance to redeem himself??

Flora I chose the "safe" option of shagging my ex as I knew exactly what I was getting into and could "switch off" to a degree! When you know you're going to a fish & chips shop, you never expect a five course sit down meal! I went in eyes wide open!

It's our silly female hormones that equate sex with LOVE, SIGH!!

Does coffee mean a cappuccino or is it another name for a bedroom espresso?! I'd say that you'd love a coffee, but perhaps Starbucks is a better venue for a first date.

Hansel keep talking to him, wasn't he just flirting??

Santa I hear ya! At least you haven't slept with one (hundreds of times), snogged another but secretly think the third whom you've never met is the man of your dreams!

If I tell pof guy on sat that I forgive him I'll be officially going out with him again which basically means I'm cheating on him if I meet mr delicious...the very same crime i'm supposedly forgiving HIM for...
argh!!!

Santa you are behaving exactly the way most of us would...meet all 3, if you like them all then meet them all again! You're not committed to any of them until you both agree you're exclusive (unlike me :-( )

Master You are oh so right. My problem is, at almost 48 I look early 30's. I have done nothing to achieve this, except moisturise each night. This may sound crazy, but I promise it's true, I hate looking so young. Mr Zany looks younger than his age by around 5 years, Mr OMG looks younger by at least 10 years. Mr Zany is the one for me, and I have chatted away to him this evening and will see him on Saturday morning until Sunday evening. Mr OMG is really not any good for me, I know this, my head tells me me this but OMG he is soooo sexy. Slap me, make me see sense, I KNOW what is right and sensible, truly I do.

PO - probably was flirting, but I found it annoying...and that I suppose is my answer. 'next'

Deliberately, sorry for asking as you've probably already said but have you and zany talked about being exclusive?

Poffedoff Yes, it was Christmas Eve, both of us a little worse for wear, but we did say that was it for us. We were exclusive. In retrospect, I don't regret this. I truly just wish Mr OMG would leave me alone. I have a Windows smart phone so can block, I think for my own and Mr Zany's sake I am going to have to do that. Mr Zany is so lovely, if you knew him, you would slap me and ask me what the hell I am playing at. I would also know you were absolutely correct to do so

Not cynical at all Hansel, I thought the same thing myself...after a weekend of scouting on pof and coming up with nada he chances his arm with an apology...only thing is if it's just a shag he fancies he's a) a bloody convincing liar/actor and b) its quite a job for him to get here, moneywise and transport wise..he's a gorgeous guy and would have no problem scoring locally...why bother going to all that trouble?

Poff REALLY??? He comes back, says a few words and you're ready to forgive him just like that, REALLY??????????

Deliberate are trying to convince yourself or us??? BE TRUE TO YOURSELF! I'd hate to Mr Zany tbh, yes he has great qualities, but now I think you are not 100% satisfied and you are settling! You are no spring chicken, so you are now going to settle for what you're not 100% sure of. When you first posted it SEEMED a clear cut story, now I see that Mr Zany doesn't have that je ne sais quoi/X factor, I know I need/want that with the man I hope to have a long lasting meaningful relationship with!

Ah ok... mr omg is a commitment phobe so doubt he'll be settling down any time soon..tell him you need to give this a shot with zany,that you need to go no contact with him while you see how things go but that you'll get in touch if things go tits up? Maybe just gently close the door, not slam it.

And I agree with master,it doesn't have to be either or...if neither guy does it fully for you then move on

MasterP0 Guilt is eating me up inside. Mr Zany is truly wonderful in all ways, but Mr OMG is simply that. I look at him (photo) or read a text from him and my knees wobble. It is looks, and the fact when we are together he treats me like a Princess. My Zany adores me, and he also adores my DC but there isn't the WOW factor. He is very good looking, tall, superb in bed. I wish to God I had never met Mr OMG! I need to block his calls and texts. Settling with Mr Zany? No, I don't think that is true, I just keep thinking of Mr OMG. If I didn't hear from him, I would be fine. Good lord, I am heading to 50 rather quickly and feel so lost and unsure. Kick me ladies, please!!

Master, hard to explain why I'm so accepting of his apology..I'm pretty feisty and tend not to take shit normally..he has no idea what my decision will be on saturday and I'm not saying I'll give him one either...