The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

I've just got to share this story with you all..a close friend of mine met a guy nye 2011..stayed up all night talking and she came away from it saying hes the one...she didn't hear from him again and was devastated but got back out there and has had a couple of relationships since but any time we got onto the subject of men she always said we'll
end up together...she didn't lay eyes on him again
until this nye, 2 years later...they talked all night and he stayed in her flat for SIX days!
He had postponed going home but had to leave on Tuesday and she was obviously distraught...
The usual doubts crept in, will he call,should I call him blah blah...and here comes the relevant bit, I told her Masters rule, love like you've never been hurt...just do what you feel you want to..so she did. He was thrilled, had been fretting she had changed her mind and didn't want to put her under pressure...she's flying out tomorrow!!
Well done mumsnet ( I used a few other gems from the thread during our chat) and in particular to master...the first happy ending for dating thread 67!

Poffedoff What a lovely story, lets hope a LTR comes from this (if that is what they both want.) Please keep us updated.

When I first began OD I didn't know this thread existed, hell, I didn't even know MN existed. Since I found MN and this thread, I have used some a lot of the advice people have offered. I can't say Mr Zany and I will last forever, but I do wonder if we would be where we are, without my MN advice.

Dont I'm sitting here rolling my eyes at you! As your friend, I feel like you're all my friends, I think you should continue to try keep it together, because I don't want you to push him away with your constant need for affirmation/validation bla bla, it can become exhausting (for him). Just TRY to chill! For the record I can TOTALLY relate why you're always "on edge"/anxious, but you (and I ) need to learn to TRUST and not get soooo scared/anxious/hung up at the slightest change/s. YES too much analysing!

Hi Kit I hope you come back with a positive report!

Aaaahhhhh Poff that's such great news, I hope it works out for her! How exciting!

I'm feeling all warm and fuzzy about this thread, I too can relate to your OD journey and it helps me question MY thoughts/behaviours and constantly strive to be better, happier and more relaxed about it all!

Online dating is a minefield. .. I was chatting to mr cutie since just before xmas. Absolutely gorgeous .. but a bit too cool for me. Loads of compliaments etc. We couldn't meet up over xmas due to both being busy. I had my doubts about him (my gut is always right ) , he only wanted to meet mid week. . I can't due to kids , I said I was free this weekend , no kids. After a lot of tooing and froing.... turns out he has a girlfriend of four years !!! Hence no meeting at weekend ! So I quickly deleted and blocked ! I am chatting to a couple of other guys , so onwards and upwards.
Od does work .. I met my ex husband on it 6 years ago and have two dd's from it. Tho considering we are almost divorced maybe I should be put off ;)

Oh and on the cock pics.. iv had a good few sent to me !! But at least thanks to you ladies I have a few new put downs for them :-D

Dippin which website did you meet your exH??

Thanks master, you are right. I will try to chill out! I can't wait to see him. I just miss him when we're not together and I feel all insecure when he doesn't text.

I feel like you lot are my friends too. This thread has been a journey!

What a lovely story, poffed.

Silly me, obviously there are very promising looking relationships blossoming nicely since this thread started, I guess I just have a feeling this one is done, dusted and in the bag..hope I'm right!

Master it was one in Ireland. Another friend ... not to be confused with another site !!

Sounds like you got away just in time dippin! What a knob :-(

I hope so Poff.

My news...I have cancelled my membership and put the hunt on hold. I can't cope with the amount of time wasting...I am a busy women and I haven't got time or patience for it. I seem to attract, on line, precisely the sort of chap that I have nothing in common with. Also if I am totally honest, having searched numerous times I found only two men who I liked the look of. (fussy, me) I might try it again when I have more time.

Will still follow and wish you all success, onwards and upwards.

I met my ex online 11 years ago! I also have 2 DC.
Help! Went to buy a pair of blsck skinny jeans...looked in mirror in shop and i look awful. Is it the mirrors and lighting? I look semi ok in my own mirror!!

Hi everyone

Blimey I am away for a few days and you lot are 22 pages into a new thread!!

Well I am o.kay, been a busy bee due to starting the last unit of my degree course on top of work means I am flat out. However my smallfeet chap is coming round in about 20 mins, I am cooking for him!! Really hoping i don't poison him. Have found out he is allergic to eggs which stresses me out a bit as I think he has a full on anaphylactic reaction to them!!

I still get nervous about seeing him, thats normal right? We are nearly 2 months in now!!

Hello all

So how is everyone? Haven't been on for a little while. Will try to skim through and catch up. Well I'm playing the field, am back on match. I didn't go on the date on Tuesday I fibbed and said I felt ill. Thought that would be the end of it because I just couldn't be bothered, then when he saw me online he messaged and asked if I would like to go out Sunday for lunch. So I've said yes again!

I'm chatting to a few others but they are very elusive, just sending one message aday. I had to laugh to myself when I was searching, I found one profile who said " a dating site where nobody speaks!!?? " have to admit I agree. Match seems to be full of winking and adding to favourites but not much chatting. Or maybe it's just me and not many people like me

What does everyone do about paying on dates? In your experiences does the guy pay for dinner? if he offers do you protest/insist that you split the bill?

nearlythere22 I insisted all first dates were daytime coffee dates. I always offered to pay, my offer was always declined. Second dates were planned more around what both would like. I have had quite a few second dates, and with the planning of where, and agreement was reached about who pays. Some men were fine going Dutch, others insisted they pay, not one was happy I pay the full bill. HTH

Waves to claws and girlie :0)

Nearly...i always insist on paying half...that way i feel like i dont owe them anything if i never see them again.

Mr 6 kids but mega rich, text me and asked to take me to dinner next week. I dont fancy him but ive ahreed to go. Stop him pestering me again. Hoping he will pay this one time though and its somewhere nice lol. Says hes going to surprise me!
Number 4 called again...trying to follow the rules....and not invest too much too soon.

Mr Zany and I decided to go bowling on a date (the first time we dated.) My DC heard us making arrangements and asked if they could come. I should point out, my DC are older teenagers. Mr Zany has always got on very well with my DC and agreed to them joining us. He paid for the bowling, I paid for the drinks, I also paid for KFC afterwards, but he paid all the diesel costs as we only took one car. At Christmas, I paid for all the food and the fuel to cook it, Mr Zany paid for all the booze (there was an awful lot.) That was before we became exclusive - just.

Ok so there have been some previous success stories, gives me hope!

Nearly here I go again sounding like a gold digger........I halfheartedly offer to pay! it's ALWAYS been turned down and to be honest if they did insist we go Dutch they'd probably never see me again, such a turn off. I ALWAYS go prepared to foot the bill. If I ask you out to dinner it will be MY treat, but that's usually once we are BF/GF. I know some might view that as wrong/gold diggerish etc. but that's just me! In the 10 years I've known the love of my life I have NEVER EVER had to pay for a single thing, but Ive bought him REALLY expensive gifts!

Flora I bet you don't look awful! it's all in your head! Can't you ask a friend/colleague for their thoughts???

After all the eating crap over the festive, where I stopped going gym end November, I NEED TO GO BACK TO HEALTHY EATING AND WORKING OUT! Currently my ass leaves the room 5 minutes after I have.......not a good look!!!

MasterP0 If I was asked out for a meal, I would expect him to pay. Old fashioned? Perhaps. If the second date was a joint agreement, I would sort out the cash details before we went, so I knew what to expect. I do think it rather sweet, perhaps a little quaint, no man would ever let me foot the entire bill. I also don't think it's gold-digging at all, the way you sorted out bills while slightly different to me, would suggest fairness, not gold digging.

This weekend Mr Zany is taking me out for a lovely day somewhere, no idea where yet. He is also going to cook me a meal. I am supplying the meat, he is supplying the skill and all the other ingredients. That doesn't make me a gold digger. It's all about what feels right!!

I think if I like the guy and I just know I am interested in seeing him again, then I'm happy for him to pay. However, I always pay half when I know I've no intention of seeing him again. However, Mr 6 kids can afford it, so I'll let him, lol. Number 3 I went out with 2 weeks ago, sent me a text saying he liked the fact I paid half....telling me that whilst he believed in chivalry, he isn't a free for all when he first meets someone!!!! Needless to say, I joined here and sent that 'Dear John' text!

I was a size 18 in the summer. The stress of separation, coupled with trying to lose weight has brought me down to a 12/14. The jeans I tried were a 12 and a tad tight. Think I will go with my normal skinny jeans I feel comfy in!

Deliberately...I hope to find a Mr Zany :0)

Flora any weightloss is always good!

I had a date once where I honestly, hand on heart, just forgot to offer to pay (I didn't want to any way lol). WELL did he let me know how unacceptable that was, he said he was deeply hurt and disappointed with me, and that he's had a terrible divorce where his wife him took him to the cleaners and he's had to work his ass off for every thing he has and was not prepared to ever allow any woman to do that to him ever again!!! I just sat there giggling and thinking "WOW SHE REALLY DID A NUMBER ON YOU, DIDNT SHE???" He apologized the following day, I didn't care, Needless to say we never saw each other again! He clearly still had issues!!

Mr Zany is very sweet Flora but I cant help feeling something is missing, he adores me and my DC but he is so very Conservative and puts his job above all else. He does have his DS to think of first and foremost, but I (age almost48 47) still need fun, excitement, romps, sex etc. He really does adore me and my DC but I just don't think it is enough. I can't believe how selfish I sound but, I know what I want, and Mr Zany doesn't fit the criteria. I will have a good chat with him this weekend. Mr OMG fitted all the criteria but won't give me all I need. Grrrrr I hate this because I know what I want and just don't think it is possible in one person. I am far, far too selfish. I know this, but what to do?

I am a size 12-14. O did overdo Christmas slightly so need to get back onto low carb. I like being almost 48 and still slim. I know I have fantastic legs, but a yuk tummy. Atkins, here I come

Deliberately....I get that. You are still young and need fun. Is he older?
I too have a tummy problem...bit of an apron after 2 c sections! Starting running this week and bought some kettle bells to work out at home. I pay a gym membership and never go...so cancelling that this week.