The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Shanelle...I say "great to meet at last" and lean in and give a cheek kiss. Last guy made it awkward by turning and I kissed him on mouth! Just be aware, lol.

Dreaming....I'm going to try and protect myself by having no expectations when I meet a date. I used to be trusting but I've changed. I never think people tell the entire truth (I'm sometimes selective about little things...like where I live, as I feel vulnerable if I do). However, the big things like whether or not you are still married or have children or you are 55 when your profile said 40!

Number 4 called me a second time tonight! He wanted to chat again as he felt we rushed the earlier conversation! He's a really interesting guy.

Got an email to say my boots were out of stock....grrrr! So ordered another style, with next day delivery!!

flora, keep up with loo updates...I am failing hideously.

Search on Match.com has come up with not very much at all..... and bl**dy bachelor#1 comes up and is online.....GRRRR

DD (((CUDDLES))) You just need to remind yourself of all the crappy things Mr NOT-so-OMG did. Maybe write it all down and refer to it each time you start kidding yourself???

Hi KScience is your colleague still doing naughty stuff with the janitor??

Shanelle personally I prefer air kiss, don't want my makeup spoilt hahahaha. What KScience said hahaha!

After the date is always tricky, because if you've had the misfortune of going on a date with an ass, you just have to block any further body contact with a handshake!!! Now if he's been Mr Dreamboat and a pleasure to meet, further air kissing from me hahahaha BUT IF SPARKS ARE FLYING, I just concentrating on not opening my legs wide open!

Flora I hope replacement boots come! SHEESH you can't be doing with last minute outfit changes, do they not understand?!?!?!?

Oh science...missed your post.....you are not failing.....you are just being selective during a dry spell. What is it with 20 something's and 40 something women?! I get it too...and they want to show me their willie on whatsapp (made the mistake of giving my number once).... I couldn't believe my eyes!

Flora I now have a good come back for the penis pics..... "sorry, you have misread my profile, I am a Science teacher and have already passed basic anatomy.......and if that is YOUR penis, you may want to visit your GP"

Colleague had to present to all of the staff today with me sat on front row giving "knowing" looks and pretending to be all innocence......I usually sit right at the back heckling!!

Master...think it might have been my colleague + janitor. It's no longer happening (thankfully). He's already moved on to his next victim!

Has anyone been on a date where they guy looks COMPLETELY different from his profile pics? What did you do?

I emailed about my boots to say I wanted them next day delivery as I had a hot date!!

Science....oh, you have a randy jannie too?
And great comeback for willy pics. Lol. I teach sex ed at school so could use a similar line :0)

Ok, bit the bullet and emailed the guy I liked the look of and he replied! A couple of messages have passed between us but getting late now so I've just replied to his last one and will see if there's any more from him tomorrow...thanks Master for the shove!

shanelle I go for a hug but only if it feels right and he comes in for one. At the end of the date it depends, but would probably be a 'good to meet you' and a quick hug but could also be a no body contact moment, fiddle with car keys, 'must get away without seeming too keen to' awkardish moment. You'll know.

I've just read through the thread but have had a teensy drink (ahem) so can't remember who wrote what!
After much soul searching I decided to give pofguy a call, all our communication has been by text since all this started. We had a good chat..nothing heated just thrashed out a few things. He's asked to meet even for an hour or so Saturday and I said I'll think about it...can't be doing with all this drama but I want to be sure I'd be doing the right thing before I make any decision.

Anyhoo, gonna get some shut eye and see if things feel clearer tomorrow...

Oh and of course musicman reappeared, been working flat out which is why he hadn't texted sooner, wants to meet up on saturday! Ffs :-(

Poff looks like you have a busy Saturday

SO why on EARTH do the only messages I have come from men not even in the same country...and I am not even talking UK....

shanelle5 Not a stupid question at all. I have gone by instinct. Some dates have been a kiss on the cheek (him to me) some have been a handshake. Go by gut instinct, it rarely lets you down.

Kscience Thank you. Much wine has been consumed so a cup of tea is most welcome.

shanelle5 Not a stupid question at all. I have gone by instinct. Some dates have been a kiss on the cheek (him to me) some have been a handshake. Go by gut instinct, it rarely lets you down.

Kscience Thank you. Much wine has been consumed so a cup of tea is most welcome.

"Master (((CUDDLES))) You just need to remind yourself of all the crappy things Mr NOT-so-OMG did. Maybe write it all down and refer to it each time you start kidding yourself???""

I really don't think I need to, I truly know he was no good. My problem now is missing Mr Zany who I have not seen for 8 days and who is not back until Friday. I know we are both missing each other badly, and it really isn't easy. These are the times Mr OMG would have filled. While I know I am FAR better off without him, missing the texts are why I need a little hand holding (and hugs). However, I am finding it easier than perhaps I thought I would. Wine, the elixir and sorter out of mixed up feelings and mixed up thoughts I highly recommend it.

KScience EPIC comeback, LOVES IT!!!! Have you checked all your settings? You're probably living in Siberia or Ivory Coast without realizing, go back and check your account!

Hansel YAAAAAAYYYYYY!!! Here's hoping things progress nicely!

Flora I've had the misfortune of going on a date with a guy that looks NOTHING like his pic! It REALLY pissed me off and turns me off INSTANTLY!! Why misrepresent yourself, it baffles the mind why they do that?! He'll get ZERO BODY CONTACT, and I'll make my excuses and leave!

Kscience is colleague the mm? How did that pan out in the end?

Deliberately, that's a long time to wait to see each other, is he away or is this the usual time between dates?

Pow if you can manage to keep it light it sounds like you are looking at a very pleasant few weeks of fun...any more plans to see each other again?

Hansel Mr. Cautious sounds a bit too bloody cautious. Ffs he already knows that ye get on what's so scary about going for lunch. Good stuff with emailing the guy you liked the look off. Fingers crossed you will hear from him today.

Dreaming Friday is only a day away, he'll be home before you know it. Fair play to you for sorting the Mr. OMG situation. Not easy but you are a strong woman for doing it.

Shanelle start of date might be a quick hug. End of date I usually am fighting the urge to run away. If I don't want to see them again I find that bit really awkward. If I want to see them again it's usually a kiss on the cheek if sober. If after a few it'll be a full on snog while resisting the urge to bring them home

Flora number 4 sounds great. Those new boots better bloody arrive on time.

Kscience absolutely loving your reply to penis pics. Am imaging guys whipping it out and frantically inspecting it wondering wtf is wrong.

Poffed good idea on the call. It's too easy to misread tone and meaning in texts. There's no harm in meeting up on sat to talk it out.

I might be seeing long distance tonight. Have plans with a friend for dinner. If that doesn't drag on late I will meet him. He is going home tomo for the weekend so it would be nice to hang out before he goes. He has a wicked sense of humour and I like to be made laugh. I could defo do with a little fun to start the year off.

Have another date on Sunday. It's a local guy. I'm his first date. Hadn't been od very long so he is very enthusiastic about meeting. Thinks we are going to get on like a house on fire. I'm a tad more realistic! Have had the getting on well over text or calls and it not translating to real life. We shall see.

Master your detective guy .... is it his first name Thomas by any chance?!

Poffedoff "Deliberately, that's a long time to wait to see each other, is he away or is this the usual time between dates?"

Since I have known Mr Zany, there have been times where he has had to work away. Sometimes the weeks he is away coincide with the weekends he has his DS. I did know this, so while it is hard it wasn't just something that 'happened' out the blue. We do talk daily though.

powpow80 "Dreaming Friday is only a day away, he'll be home before you know it. Fair play to you for sorting the Mr. OMG situation. Not easy but you are a strong woman for doing it."

Thank you sometimes the easy path is not the best for us.

After OD off and on for around 3 years, I have only ever had one cock shot. It took a minute to realise what it was, I wondered why he sent a picture of his thumb.

Good luck to all who have dates this weekend. it's hard to dress nicely and keep warm I find. So jeans with wooly tights underneath and a nice thick top became my winter staple.

Dreaming I envy you only one cock shot in 3 years, I have been OD for four months and have had photos of four different cocks and two videos . NO ONE thinks that's attractive!
Science am stealing your response.

Pow hope you get your laughs this evening!

Pof I'm relatively new to this OD malarkey and I have fallen easily into having most of my communication through text/whatsapp/emails. Nothing beats actually speaking to someone and when I reflect on my false starts I think that that is a big part of where it went wrong or maybe an indicator that it wasn't meant to be and I take my share of the responsibility for that (whilst still noting that they were knobbers ). Good on you for taking the bull by the horns and working through your feelings sensibly! Trust that gut and I know you will make the right decision.

Shanelle I wish I had known about this forum when I first started. Great source of advice and support - you ask all the questions I wanted to know the answer to but did not know who to ask!

Flora...praying for boots. I dated a guy who looked nothing like his pic and it really pissed me off too...but not quite as much as the fact he was at least ten years older than he said he was. But then I went on my date on Monday to be told I look nothing like any of the 12 pics I have on my profile . Genuinely surprised by it. I asked worse or better and he said neither...just different!

Hansel you go girl, take the bull by the horns. When I redid my profile on POF, I paid for VIP or whatever they call it so I could hide my profile and only contact those who I actually wanted to chat to. It has worked so far for me and I knew if I got a message, it was from someone I wanted it to be from. Felt quite empowered by it and also meant I could avoid those I had dated previously and take the moral high ground with my maths knobber. Take the initiative, message first, favourite, want to meet, wink, whatever it may be on whichever site it is. If you don't get the response you want, move on to the next one. Good news is they don't know you and you don't know them so nothing lost either way.

Master I think I love you

Date number three tonight...shared many phone calls so far and things looking good. Legs shall remain firmly closed...not promising I'll hold out 90 days 'though.

dreaming LOL at the "thumb" shot!! Ha Ha!

And re the dressing for dates, mine's even tougher as we are having our first date in a soft play/ball pond place! So dressing up my skinny jeans and jumper with sexy high boots as I would usually is out as you have to take your shoes off obv. Itll be challenge enough for me finding a matching pair of socks tbh, let alone anything else

Good

Pow 2 dates in 2 days, YOU GO GIRRRRRLLLLLL!

AKnowing no it's Steve according to Tinder. He did tell me where he lives, I've forgotten! It says 60km from me, I'm in Brum!

Deliberate hahahahaha @ cock being his thumb, was it THAT small?? (I know what you meant!)

Lies WHY do they think it's ATTRACTIVE OR APPROPRIATE??? Do they go around in RL whipping it out and showing it off??? FLIPPEN IDIOTS!

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: TO ALL THE MEN OD, WE DON'T WANT TO SEE YOUR WILLY. PUT IT AWAY! Jesus Christ Mary & Joseph!!!!

Shanelle riding boots perhaps? Or go cute casual, high ponytail, jeans, top, scarf, cardigan, converse trainers type outfit??? Natural looking makeup, nude lips, splashings of perfume? You will be running around, and if you have hair in ponytail less work taming it!

Love of My Life texting today, I just want to be left alone for a bit, because the next thing I start becoming all sentimental and shit about our weekend! I'd like to pretend nothing happened, but I can't do that if he keeps contacting me!! I'm not in the mood for going out this weekend either, so will probably reschedule computer guy. Still no word from Mr Wales, hey ho!! Detective just chatting nonsense, and it turns out Mr nerd has a woman he's been seeing for 6 years. I ask why haven't you married her, he says sex is bland and boring! Why not leave her then, she's good co apparently, he keeps asking when we'll get together, I think I'll give him a miss!!! New mutual likes on a Tinder so will chat to them and see what happens! I'm off POF at the moment!

Oops sorry don't know what happened there!

Good luck to all daters this weekend. Hope the soft play date goes well, shannel

master sounds like you will be busy. Sometimes I wish I could have that mentality of just having a great weekend and then not dwelling on it afterwards. I'm very much a dweller!

dreaming I too am chortling at the thumb picture!

Geeky hasn't texted since Sunday, but we were together on Tuesday and we're together on Saturday. Plus we have a non refundable trip to Paris booked, so I guess all is fine. He went back to work Monday, so I think he's just very busy. Am trying to think of you lot telling me to be calm and sensible!

On Tuesday, I asked him if he minded that I was sometimes shy around him. He said he didn't, but hopefully I wouldn't be like that forever. He actually used the word forever! Interesting, I thought. Maybe analysing too much - but he's obviously thinking long term.

Hello, I have not be around for a while so I thought I would give a little update.

My Cider Man has disappeared. He did send a text Christmas morning but not heard from him since.

I went out with a really lovely guy (swoon) who comes from Spain and comes to the UK a lot but that was a one night wonder and have not heard from him again. I think he is the type to play the field.

Tomorrow I actually have a date with someone who only lives about 10 minutes from me! Meeting in a pub for a meal. I shall call him Water Man as he likes lots of watersports.

Third time lucky????

I also have someone who wants to meet me next week. I think he is going to be too old and staid for me. He says he is only 5 years older than me but he looks at least 10. He sends me 2/3 PM's a day and tells me how lovely I am. It's actually very off putting to be honest. I am hoping that Water Man and I hit it off so I can then send a message to say I am starting to see someone and I am a one at a time girl.

Shanelle I envy your soft play date. My DC are far too old for that now and I used to love going. The ball pit was my favourite until I read about the germs and gunk lurking at the bottom. [Shock] Socks are something that seem to multiply in this house. Each load in the washing machine has at least two pairs, then a minimum of three appear out of the dryer

Dont Stay calm, all will be well, or you could try my solution. I always put the phone away, or on airoplane mode if the DC were home, reaching o'clock and letting a bottle of red help me forget I was glaring at the phone.

OD demands analytical thinking. Why, I have no idea, but we all seem to do it.