The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

I've noticed something about my long-distance guy - nearly all of his friends are female. I'm not the jealous type or anything but is there something red-flag ish about having almost all female friends?

Flora, the outfit sounds great

Lies, there is this contradiction isn't there, act like your not bothered, you may as well not bother, throw everything at it and get hurt, either way it will work or it won't.

OneDay, no, he was completely genuine or a brilliant actor. He has parkinsons, early stages but I recognised the signs. I'm really pisssed off, and that is so selfish of me, because I am thinking of myself.

LBM Aw, that is really shit, and no not something he would really be able to hide until you know him better. Wow that's a lot to deal with. I don't think you should feel selfish if you decide not to take it any further though - people get binned after one date for much lesser problems! How are you feeling about him otherwise?

nearlythere wouldn't be a red flag for me. Why do you think so - are there any of them in particular that you think he may be holding a torch for?

Pow are you being honest with yourself about what might happen after he moves away at the end of the 6 weeks??? If you are going IN, EYES WIDE OPEN, then good, you can sort of prepare yourself for whatever comes? What I'm trying to say is, if it's just a bit of excitement he's after whilst he's there for 6 weeks, it's all dandy if he's upfront and honest, but they never are, so you have to protect yourself and go in EYES WIDE OPEN! Eeeeeerrrrrrmmmmm RED FLAG about only female friends, refer back to my original question.

OneDay was that email from an African guy???

Little it's a tough one isn't it? Personally I don't fancy being anyone's carer, I have two children and I want someone who ENHANCES my life/lifestyle not a burden! It sounds harsh and mean and uncaring, but that's just me! It's different if I'm with my partner and then he gets ill, then it's THROUGH SICKNESS & HEALTH! So how do YOU feel about it all and how that could impact your life if you were to continue seeing him? Ignore the creep, why on earth are you feeling uneasy? You don't know him, he doesn't know where you live, did I miss so something???? Just ignore/block, move on!

Lies really, what's the worst case scenario??? That's how I personally decide how much I want to invest! I think you can enjoy the ride, have fun, have great sex, hoping that it develops and if it all comes crashing down, YOU WILL BE OK! It's NOT the end of the world! We've all survived broken hearts, I PRAY for no more, but if that happens I WILL SURVIVE, so will you, you seem like a tough cookie!

I had a message from a guy who said he had just signed up, liked my profile and would like to chat. I said ok then, I'll chat when your profile is done.
Anyway he messaged to say he really like me and that his profile was complete.
I checked it, and under things I'm really good at he has written "giving oral"!!!

GIVE ME STRENGTH!!

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD MUMSNET WHY ISNT THERE AN EDIT FUNCTION?????

Pow the red flag message was meant for Nearly I think?!?! Loosing the will to live writing my replies and trying to remember everything!!!!!

Nearly LDR guy, you shouldn't even be snooping, he's however many miles away, you'll drive yourself crazy about what he's doing and the chances are he IS playing the field!! Those are the pitfalls of LDR! If it's going to drive you mental WALK AWAY, if you can ignore and kid yourself into believing he's not doing anything, then it's aaaallllll good!?!?!?!?

Lahti rolling my eyes and SMDH at that idiot! Honestly they are such morons!

master SMDH?

Master, anything from Mr Wales yet?

I can't imagine having anyone extra to care for, I have parents and children. He doesn't need looking after but he will and who knows how soon that might be.

Lahti, I had a message this morning from some guy "with sensitive nipples" WTF Ignored and deleted.

one I don't think he has a torch for any of them particularly - its more the fact that he doesn't have many close male friends that seems unusual! I'm overthinking again!!

Lahti Great that he very considerately but a great big red flag right on his profile! saves you the effort of having to dig around to find one!

Eyes wide open Master. Don't you worry. I'm not after anything serious with him as it's just not possible. No harm having a little fun and a few dates. I'm good at not getting emotionally attached to people. I was being a bit facetious earlier about being a snivelling wreck

MasterPO not driving myself crazy wondering if he is chasing them - more wondering if he's a bit on the sensitive side for me!! I do like a manly man!! haha

p.s. not snooping either - he's told me about his friends!

I couldnt date someone with Parkinsons. Like Master says, different if he was your DP then developed it. You owe him nothing. Just say whilst you enjoyed chatting you dudnt feel enough of a connection to take it further.

Lahti....rofling at your oral man! He will attract certain women!

Number 4 called me out of the blue tonight. I was waiting on my son at an after school club and my youngest shouted "whos that man mummy and why are you laughing and speaking to him??!!".

Nearly apologies for calling you a snoop. Manly men are good, but I love them sensitive too!

SIDE NOTE:: Is it just me, but I keep finding out that men do really have feelings, lol (I'm aware how crazy this sounds). I've just always thought that they should be used to rejection by now (30s, 40s) and that they have zero emotions, so I'm ALWAYS very surprised when they seem genuinely hurt by a comment or my actions! My brain just can't seem to compute THIS and I have to literally remind myself that they too have feelings lol?!?!?!?

Pow Ok, I'm back on the same page as you, I think haha!

Lahti SMDH = Shaking My Damn Head.

LBM nothing yet! his days are numbered, bwwaaahahaha!

Chatting to 3 guys, so will see what develops!

Found myself thinking of Silent Dumper today, I wonder why????

A heady mix of dating goingings on with you lot!
I think I'm going down a dead end at the moment - The guy I've known for 4 years who keeps suggesting going out together on our own, i.e. without the usual group that tend to socialise together, who I'll call Mr Cautious and who only last week suggested lunch this week, has failed to get in touch...what a bleedin' surprise!

Number 4 who suggested meeting this weekend hasn't been back online since Monday so will see if he materialises and we get this meeting firmed up...

Noone else on the horizon, except there is one particular guy on the OD site who I like the look of...I've viewed his profile and thought about sending a message but...am chicken!

MasterPO no offence taken! I suppose I would complain if he was going out to the pub with the boys getting drunk every weekend rather than meeting some female friends for a glass of wine and a catch up! I'll see how things go when he comes up for the weekend and take it from there. You are right about feelings though - hate the thought of hurting anybody! I get soooo much more stressed about rejecting a man than I do about him potentially rejecting me!

Hansel go oooooooonnnnnnnn, send him something flirty and fun! Worst case scenario he ignores you, SO FRIGGEN WHAT?!?!?! We can bitch about him if he does ignore you hahahahaha!

Nearly sounds like a good plan!

I'm speaking to detective off Tinder, but I'm bored today with it all! Think I must just log off for the night!

I had such a FAB day! I LOVE LOVE kids and my friends with little ones know I just love babysitting so I've always got a little person tagging along with me. Today I went shopping with a 2 year old and a 4 year old, SOOOO MUCH FUN! LOVES IT! It's the little things that make me a happy bunny!

Need to read back and catch up with all your tales, life has really caught up with me of late. I am sitting with a rather nice bottle of red, so will catch up this evening.

I need a little hand holding please, my lovely Mr Zany is working away all this week and although we text often I am still missing him quite badly. We do have a nice weekend planned, but I am supporting him at the moment, so need some quiet supporting of my own.

Finally Mr OMG got the message, it was rather messy and did cause a few tears on my part but I did what was right, but it still hurts a lot bit as he really was unbelievable sexy and soooooo good looking. I know Mr Zany is right for me, and for me and my emotional well being and I deeply care for him, but Mr OMG really was OMG!! I also know Mr OMG will soon be replaced with the security only Mr Zany can give, it it still quite hard not to have those weak at the knees texts I loved so much. I know it was all fake, hence the need for hand holding until my lovely Mr Zany is back this weekend.

Wavity wave all,

Not been online for a while, been busy out and about...not dating. A few messages but nothing going anywhere, mostly irritating marrieds, inappropriate requests or 20 some things (I am early 40's) .........not a great start to new year and supposedly busiest time for OD

Cheered me up reading about all your shennanagins though

kscience What is it with married men? I have never cheated nor been cheated on I think I have never been cheated on. I have also read through the last few days of this wonderful thread and have also been cheered up. (Excluding our lovely Bant) what is it with OD men? Why do they think it is acceptable to treat woman so badly? I highly suspect woman can be equally as awful, but I don't hear much about them, so am only surmising. Why can't people be honest and straight forward when dating? I have always added my honest age, height, children and ages, and have always been 100% honest when answering questions posed by prospective daters. Lies don't help anyone's cause, surely? Wine has been consumed and was rather good, spelling and grammar from here onwards may not be.

Dreaming, hand holding and passing you a cup of tea

Stupid question warning! When you go on these first dates, how do you greet each other? A hand shake? hug? kiss on the cheek? air kiss?!!

I have no idea and I feel like im meeting a friend as weve been txting a lot every day/night for a week now so I feel like I know him of sorts yet am aware he is a complete stranger still and totally dont know the done thing! What do YOU lot do?

Not a stupid question, let him take the lead? IMO it just good if you recognise each other

LOL and Oh shit at the same time as I hadnt thought of that scenario!