The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Ooh back yes please I'd love to know how to do that. Ice fiddled with the settings but never seemed to have managed it

master sounds like a good time was had in Dublin!

Another date sounds good oneday

geeky and I had a v cute date. He told me that he updated his Facebook picture because it's a picture he took just before meeting me. Then I told him my Facebook picture was chosen because I'm wearing the top I wore when I met him.

We also do this thing where we nod and it means 'I love you.' we are sickening, I know...

Here you go its for the iphone though m.wikihow.com/Add-or-Remove-the-Timestamp-on-WhatsApp.

One....sounds ok....maybe the next date will allow to to decide what you think.

Me n number 4 texting again...he asked what I was looking for in a man. I gave the whole kind, caring spiel...then said, if he's hot it's a bonus.
He replied ...well hopefully you'll think I'm hot!
Is that a bit 'full of himself' or am I looking too much into it? I asked him what he was looking for...he said, passionate, caring, etc...then sex on legs!! With a lol and 2x!!
I kind of replied I'm more girl next door, so you might be disappointed! But hey, I'm up for some sex and I've got legs...so who knows.
I went onto Boohoo.com and ordered some new boots and a jacket. I'm going with the skinny jeans/riding boots look...rather than the kilt/wellie combo!! Safer I think.

Don't....geeky and you seem like a great match....hurray! What happens now? :0)

Apologies for no loo update and straight to bed last night...have an early start

Welcome home Master nice to see you back chilled and know you had a good time!

Flora no 4 seems to be on your mind...hope it all goes well and you've made me order new boots!

Oneday Another date is good! I don't think you can always scope someone out on a first date...more like a bit of an interview situation. Date number two is a given for me, unless obviously they disappear or were psychos!

Dont I agree with Flora, you and geeky seem really well suited!

Hi poff...hope you're ok!

and Good Morning everyone else!

As for me. Well date number two went as well as date number one. Picked me up, we drove to the restaurant, had a lovely meal sat in a little corner all by ourselves and within five minutes of sitting down had arranged dates number three and four on Saturday and Sunday. By the end of the night these had turned into dates four and five because I am now seeing him on Thursday too!

Dropped me off at home and then rang me when he got in. He had come in for a coffee but I kept my legs firmly closed and just partook in a bit of kissing in the kitchen.
Feel really comfortable with him, like I have known him for ages. I don't feel like I need to play games, not worried about him thinking I'm too keen if I text straight back and I don't worry if he doesn't text straight back either. Things are going too well!!!!! This is the part where I come crashing down to earth with a bang! Someone give me a bit of a slap please before I get too carried away.

Oh Lies that sounds great, that's how things should be.

Sounds like an amazing date, lies. Glad it went so well.

flora I guess the next stage is for him to meet my dc. We're already 'official.' I'm in no rush though. I feel as if everything is pretty perfect.

Yesterday I asked geeky if he minded driving 20 miles just to spend a few hours with me sometimes (as I work evenings). He said he'd walk it if he had to

Morning all...wow, so much going on!

Lies..That's a pretty incredible start for you! I love that feeling when you just feel comfortable and at ease with somebody...not trying to piss on your parade but a quick read of the rules might be an idea, particularly the one about investing too much too soon.
Delighted for you though, he sounds like a keeper!

Master.. oh to have your outlook! To actually be able to spend an amazing sex filled weekend with somebody you love and then walk away and move on without pining for them...whats your secret??
I'm pretty highly sexed too and have no problem with one nighters but just can't stop myself investing emotionally if it's any more than that.

Flora I think his response was fairly normal...he wasn't saying im hot, he was saying I hope you think I'm hot after you telling him that was one of your criteria...
If he was being big headed he prob would have said well you won't be disappointed when you meet me or something similar. ..outfit sounds fab by the way :-)

As for me, I've been texting pofguy back and forth. I've realised I'm trying to talk myself into swallowing my pride and give him another chance...I'm not sure if any of you remember but we initially met on pof when I was only looking for something casual..I'd just split up with ex and was really only interested in nsa..I think it was doomed in a way after that because neither of us expected it to turn into anything more so the lines have been a bit blurred since then...somehow I never felt I was entitled to a full blown thing with him because of the way we met, not sure if that makes sense. Thing is it's now pretty obvious he has real feelings for me, seems really upset that it's potentially over and this is in turn is giving me the reassurance I was looking for all along...
I'm sorry about the essay but my hormones are raging and I can't think straight!
Music man seems to have disappeared too which isn't helping :-(

I think you have to just do what feels right, poffed and we are here to support you whatever happens. Be careful with this one though.

Oneday..I tried to change my wattsapp settings and Googled it..you can turn it off on iphones only, with androids there's an app you can use to access watsapp through which basically allows you to read your messages without showing you're online..

Thanks don't :-)

So glad to hear yourself and geeky are so loved up....what age are your kids?

I have a 4 year old, a 6 year old and one who's nearly 8. He'll be great with them, I'm sure. I just like it being just us for a while. Luckily the dc are well-behaved and great sleepers, so I've been able to have geeky stay over without introducing them yet.

OneDay that's lovely! We need to remember THEY are also just human and may suffer the same insecurities as us! Bless him. How tall are you? I'm on 5ft so EVERYONE is taller than me! I hope he doesn't suffer from short man syndrome, hahaha! YAAAAAAY to multi dating. ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN!

MyChild that's not true! You can switch that functionality on/off. If you both iMessage, if you've activated your read receipts, then sender can see when you've read it after it shows delivered!

Dont that's so very cute! Have you changed your relationship status on FB?!?!? Apparently you know it's REAL when you do that hahahahaha (personally I wouldn't). Geeky is such a sweetie pie, bless him!

Flora "...well hopefully you'll think I'm hot", at least he's confident, I like that! Loving the whole riding look outfit, makeup to look natural, hair all sexy, and smelling lovely. Make him want you!

Lies oh Lies ENJOY this. My other rule, LOVE LIKE YOUVE NEVER BEEN HURT BEFORE otherwise you'll have a lot of "I coulda, shoulda's"!!!! Enjoy it, apply The Rules, even if it all ends in tears, you will cry, you will get depressed, you will take time out, BUT you will get back on the horse, you WILL survive it!

Can you imagine how miserable, bitter and twisted we'd all be if we never EVER tried because we are petrified of getting hurt. LOVE is about taking chances, taking that leap of faith!

Poff don't get me wrong! I crave emotionally charged sex, which there is with him, but he's not ready to settle down/kids, he says he's slowly coming round to the idea, I REFUSE to sit here waiting for him to GROW UP! I've spent many many a nights crying/depressed about this guy, but I accepted that I couldn't rush him, couldn't change him and had to just love him for his crazy weirdo self, which I do! If he asked me to marry him I would, in an instant! But I'm no longer sitting, waiting, day dreaming, pining away, this has come after years and years of practice! It's all good, I'm HAPPY with the status quo!

Getting laid/sex is never a problem (for any woman), I just have no desire to shag any of my male friends/acquaintances, meaningless sex is soul destroying and unfulfilling, yes I sound like a contradiction, but I'm not!

RE: POFGUY are you now saying you have changed your mind and maybe want a relationship?? I'm confused??

Oh I like the rule about loving like you've never been hurt before. Good advice, master

Geeky is pretty private on Facebook, so he doesn't advertise his relationship status. But I love that only the two of us know the significance of our profile pictures.

Master that's what I'm trying to figure out! There are negatives, one of which is obviously the pof thing but there are positives too! It's been a long time since I enjoyed somebodies company so much, we're very compatible in lots of ways including sexually! It's bringing up lots of questions for me tbh, about myself more than anything.

I was in counselling last year but that was very much focused on the breakdown of my marriage, perhaps I should look at some just for myself and my obvious self esteem issues!

HUGE SMILE Dont

Loving like you've never been hurt, ensures you will have honestly given it your all, and sometimes that's all you can do!

Poff did you say your marriage was EA? If it was my heart goes out to you, be good to yourself (((CUDDLES))) I hope you find your answers!

Morning All,

Poffed take your time, there's no rush to decide what you want.

Master love your rule. I suppose it is how I operate. I always think you regret more the things you didn't do than the ones you did.

Lies sounds like all is going well. Just try to enjoy it and don't be waiting for the crashing to earth. It may never happen.

Flora outfit sounds great. I don't think what he said comes across as full of himself. He just hopes that you fancy him.

Oneday sure date two is worth a try if you weren't repulsed on date one

I had a lovely date last night. Typical of me being interested in the guy who lives too far away and is a tad complicated. He is in my town for the next six weeks. Text when I got home saying he wanted to see me again soon. Will meet him and hope I don't fall for him if we continue to see each other while he is here. No doubt I will and will be a snivelling wreck when he goes home!

Here's the rules guys

The Rules:

1. Develop a thick skin
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon
3. It's all BS until it actually happens
4. Trust your gut instinct
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. Loo update is mandatory

Lies I agree with poffed about not investing emotionally too soon - it sounds like you had a wonderful time and it reminds me so much of me 2 months ago with housemate guy. Feeling so relaxed like I was hanging out with a friend, enjoying every minute no matter what we were doing and planning to see each other again all the time, by the end of week 2 we seem to have assumed that we'd spend all our free weekends together and once or twice during the week. Even though I told myself I wasn't investing emotionally too much.....I obviously was, as I really really cried that night when he ended it. I'm saying that I'm over it and it's no big deal etc, and back out dating again, but heart and head are two different matters and he is in the back of my mind still, although the crazy-stalker lady inside is being kept silenced for the time being. So just keep it under control and go with the flow....remember the rule about YOU ARE THE PRIZE - make him impress you :-)

Master I'm 5ft2 so am also used to being the shortest person everywhere. I love a taller guy putting his arm around me and me fitting snuggly under his arm. (thinking about housemate guy there too.....sigh!). I have NEVER been taller than my date before. My heels weren't ridiculous either - maybe 3 inches, maximum, probably less. So MrMusicTeacher must be quite short for a guy. But as you've all said, I wasn't repulsed, he was a little intense (and a bit fatalistic about dating altogether really) but we had a laugh and have interests in common, so happy to go for date 2 - and clever him to suggest something we both like doing so I would have been a complete bitch to say no, haha.

powpow aw sounds great, what a shame it'd be a distance thing! My last 2 'relationships' before starting OD were long distance, although neither were properly exclusive, due to the distance. Yeah LD sucked big time. Hopefully you can just enjoy it whilst you can and not worry about the future - that can always lead to good times :-)

Goodness just received this in an introductory message from someone:

''I know how to treat women well and would respect you and I know how to behave myself in a good relationship''

Bit of an odd thing to say from the off huh?

Yep that's a bit odd. I have several very flowery messages, have binned those.

So much going on, can't keep up with it all.

Had my first date on Mon with a really great guy, brains, looks, wit, height! and very similar outlook on life. One problem, he is ill, the sort of ill that he will never recover from

Apart from that I feel like I am being stalked online by one guy. he is just too persistent and its making me feel uneasy. Logged into pof to read messages three times today and within minutes of logging in, there he is. I agreed to coffee...that's all!

Thanks for your great advice and good wishes everyone!

Trying not to invest too soon, am a sensible kind of gal at heart. Problem is I've have had no luck with trying to protect myself either!! Decided to go with the flow, remind myself often it is VERY early days whilst enjoying it at the same time. We haven't dtd yet and that might be when I get a reality check!

Master I think "love like you've never been hurt" is a good little rule. I know I could get hurt again but hopefully my thick skin is quite developed now and like you pow would rather be regretting the things I've done than the things I didn't! So I think I may be on a one way street to heartbreak but at least I know it!

Poff it's hard. Trust your gut, whatever that is telling you. You've been through a tough time and now find yourself in a tough situation. At the end of the day only you know him, only you believe him or don't; only you have experienced the dynamics of your relationship. Any one of us on this forum can only express an opinion based on words on a page, which become history the minute we press "Post Message". hugs and I'm sure you will make the best decision for you!

Pow so glad you had a lovely time so sad about the distance!!!

LBM that's rubbish about your date from Monday . Poor guy and poor you.

Littlebluemouse wow, really sorry, that sounds like heavy stuff for a first date. As in something chronic/lifelong, or actually life limiting? Unless it is something immediately obvious when you met him, it does strike me as a bit of an odd thing to bring up the very first time you meet someone, if you actually are looking for a relationship. Everyone has their own ways of thinking though. At the risk of sounding like a heartless cow sceptical, are you sure he was genuine?