The Dating Thread 67

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Nearly, what kind of area do you live in? Im in the city and so there were always things going on when I met pofguy, neither of us could accommodate. Also we both like a drink so was never a problem killing a few hours in a cosy pub over lunch!
Farmers markets, exhibitions, outdoor markets, music venues were a few things...
a visit to his hometown meant a hotel so we did very little sight seeing ;-)

He's been texting all morning...saying how fucking sorry he is, he never intended meeting anyone, has never cheated on a woman and never would... that he was in bed with the flu and bored shitless and went on for the craic!
Lots more declarations of his feelings, how shit he feels, sleepless nights etc. Help!!

shanelle he is far too much of a gentleman to suggest it himself so I'm guessing I will have to! Loved your car suggestion! Haha!! But I think a show and a hotel on his last night might be the way to go- assuming all has gone well.

poff I live in a small town but it's near a very big city so I will probably meet him there. Thanks for all the ideas! I guess the problem is that I don't know the city that well.

Poffed. He's about a three hour drive away. Is down in my area now and then. It's just too far for me. Have done long distance before and I don't want to do it again.

How many days after your text did Pofguy wait to get back in contact?

I don't know poffed - I'd be inclined not to listen to him to be honest. He's been an idiot and he knows it.

Well spot is successfully disguised and I think I look quite good, even if I do say so myself

Ah ok pow...yeah the ldr thing is a pain alright.
He left it all weekend...says he felt shit and didn't know what to say..
I think the reason I'm struggling with it is because I do genuinely have feelings for him...I want so much to believe him and rather stupidly because its flattering to be begged!
The red flags are waving crazily here I know, if it were any of you posting this i'd think what a walkover

It's easy for someone else to say though, poffed. Not so easy when you have feelings for someone :-(

Poff please see the red flags. I know it's hard when you have feelings for him but he messaged your fake profile talking about massages...for the craic? Having been a walkover and blindly walking past the red flags myself, I know where you're at and I feel your pain but ...you know pof guy is not the real deal and you are SO much better than that. Trust your gut.

dont he's not going to even notice!
nearly ...show and hotel on his last night sounds perfect!
Shanelle hope you get your date this weekend and your carpenter floats your boat!
pow enjoy your dates! Nice to have a couple of options

Hi dippin Happy New Year, New Start!

Poffed no one is thinking you are a walkover. It is very hard to walk away when you have feelings for someone. We're all here to hand hold no matter what you decide to do.

Thank you so much for the hand holding guys, and for not making me feel foolish... I've never been in this position before and it shows other posts i've read on relationships thread in a whole different light!
Yes he did message my fake profile but I haven't revealed that to him...he still hasn't asked how I found out he was online... feck I wish in a way he hadn't messaged me at all now :-(

All of your positive stories are a great distraction so keep them going!
Can't wait to hear from master when she finally resurfaces from the sex nest!

Nearly don't worry too much about playing the "host" just because he's visiting your city...ask him if there's anything he'd like to do, did he have anything in mind?
Google upcoming events in the city and see if there's anything that catches your eye...also asking a mate or neighbour with better knowledge of the city could be an idea

Just noticed this article on the BBC website.

Link - 20 online dating cliches

Oh and Nearly, regarding the hotel..I presume if he's coming for the whole weekend he will have organised some kind of accommodation?? Or does he not know yet that you can't accommodate? If he's aware of your situation then you could simply asking him where he's planning on staying?

Made I am hanging my head in shame! I reckon got a solid six and a wink to another on mine.

I am one great big cliche

poff he is staying with family in another town near the big city (on the other side of it from me) so he couldn't invite me back there!! Also means we need to get trains home which cuts the night short a bit! Wish it could all happen a bit more naturally. I'm rubbish at things like this!

My profile was not cliched according to that article. I put that I liked singing tunelessly to the radio, driving on an empty motorway in light rain, sweet and sour pot noodles and wasabi peas. I have managed to get a man who is over 6 foot though. He also likes wasabi peas!

Nearly maybe you could suggest a show or doing something in the nearby city that makes you both miss last train/tube home. If he is agreeable to that ask about getting a hotel as you will have no way home otherwise.

The thing is though Lies, everything is a cliché to some extent. How many times do we all moan about the weather?

What we should all do is start our profiles with "Cheer up! It might never happen." Then deliberately add as many clichés as possible.

@Dont - I'm pretty sure "driving on an empty motorway in light rain" has cliché written all over it and so is liking Pot Noodles!

Thanks pow - but I'm not sure if that sounds a bit like its for convenience rather then 'I really like you and it would be nice if we spent the night together'. Aargh! Am I overthinking? Maybe should just wait for him to suggest something.

Mademan - damn it! Oh well, I do like both of those things. And it worked, anyway

Yeah that's the main thing, that it worked.

...and that dear friends is why they're cliches!

An hour to go to meeting Mr MusicTeacher.... I really don't fancy it. He's kinda freaked me out a bit sounding a little intense, although it could have been sarcasm/humour that didn't come over well via text. And I've left my laptop at work so can't even look up his profile to 'revise' before the date! I'm tired and cranky.

Cancelling now would be mean though.

Dont cancel...just go. You can always make an excuse to get away early. Good luck x

I'm back in Brum, bleeaauuuggghhhhh.....

RE: POF - Can I just say in these TOSSERS defence, POF is VERY slow in updating its servers, so even though you might have logged off hours ago, sometimes you will still be seen as still on line! This has happened to me, where people ask me why I'm online and I haven't even been on for sometimes the day?!?!?! So bear that in mind before you start accusing them hahahaha!

Flora hahaha! I wish, I'd be dating them instead!

Made there were plenty of maltesers in the Irish Celebration box!

Poff you are NOT manic, you are keeping your options open until someone WORTHY OF YOU (YOU are the catch) comes along and you embark on an exclusive relationship!

Nearly if you live near Staffordshire, try Go Ape! It's a great dating experience! One word, HOTEL, and it's not forward suggesting hotel, if you really feel bad about it, offer to go halves (I wouldn't, haha). Nothing wrong with hotels, but what other options do you have? Ideally if I was you, I would've suggested a getaway weekend/spa hotel which would've solved both your problems! Shanelle I will come wash your mouth out with soap, NOOOOOO to B&Bs! (I promise I'm not a gold digger, hahahaha).

Pow HAVE FUN!!!!

Lies, that's MY gurl, YAY!

Shanelle don't write carpenter guy off till you've met him, he might surprise you! Keep an open mind, but don't go out on dates JUST to get out of the house.

OneDay I PRAY TO GOD you didn't cancel?!?!? If the roles were reversed I'd be telling you what a prick/inconsiderate he was for cancelling last minute!!

WAVES TO ALL THE NEW COMERS

Well I'm back, what a PERFECT time I had with my commitment phobe darling, I just simply love him! This is the message I got this eve, lol "I Love youuuuuuuuu, thank you for making me feel so good". SIGH, anywhoooooo, moving on.......

Mr Wales gone all quiet, we are supposed to be meeting this weekend, I'm not contacting him. He needs to grow up!

Been asked out on a date by a sweet sounding guy, we've been chatting often, saw him on Tinder. Then there's the sex mad guy, he makes me giggle, but I'm not going to meet up with him. No word from Detective and HOTTY today. I think I'm going to forget about HOTTY, he's too shy and used to women running after him due to his good looks, I'm bored already with him!!!! The other girls can have him!

I'm hoping Mr Wales comes around..........I REALLY LIKE HIM/WANT HIM!