The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

On a brighter note I've been getting regular texts from lovely guy from saturday night :-) I'll call him music man for the benefit of the thread...he works nights during the week and some weekends so its not ideal but I'd like to see him again if we can arrange something...best thing is he said the whole online dating thing was never for him so I won't need to waste my time setting up stalker profiles!

Glad to hear he texted Flora...and yes, ass is a pretty accurate description for him...

Sad thing is I was already finding myself believing him! Why does he keep trying to get me back?? Most guys when they're caught seem to take it as an opportunity to run for the hills,easy way out...maybe he isn't having much success on pof and fancies a shag, can't think of any other reason why he'd be so persistent!

Guy from Saturday sounds good though...do u fancy him?

I've known him a while now Flora...always liked him, he's great company...the kind of guy you're massively relieved to see when you walk into a party!
It wasn't until we snogged that I saw him in a different way...is that a good or a bad thing do you think?

Poffed, he sounds perfect to me.

I am missing geeky. We haven't texted today but I see him tomorrow. Help me not to be a crazy woman!

Anyone here a woman looking to date other women? Just wondering - if not I can make a different thread for it.

Ah don't, I know it's hard...I hate that unsettled feeling myself... I had it for the entire 7 months with pofguy when we were apart (with good reason too so it seems) but I never conveyed it to him, never let him know my misgivings. Geeky seems to be a different kettle of fish altogether, i'm sure you have nothing to worry about (apart from what you're going to pack for Paris) :-)

I've already written a list for Paris. It just all seems too right and I'm expecting it to go wrong. I can't wait to see him.

Evening all...just got in from my date with Mr Two Hours.

I'm all swoony....we got on like a house on fire and have already arranged another date for tomorrow tonight. Felt really relaxed and had a teeny bit of a teenage snog in his car. Keep your fingers crossed for me...

Poffed tell him to pof right off to poffsville and keep poffing there. Knobber. You are so much better than him....how can he not see it that way????? Seven months on and he needs to be told that dating someone else is cheating? I like your never seen him like that before guy. I think that those are often the stories with happy endings.

dontcall I have a good feeling about Geeky and Paris

Flora...glad your text came!

Pigsus...post away! Join our merry band:0)

Poff...i like him already. Seems like a uy you can relax with.

Lies....witwoooo...a snog. Id settle for a snog from number 4. So...where you going tomorrow?

Dont....yup ...im looking forward to Paris and Im not even going lol.

Master.....i imagine you are quite busy ;0) but let us know how its going.

As a guy, can I just say that internet dating really, really sucks.

What's the point of a distance calculator on POF if it doesn't work? Having found only a tiny number of women between 30 and 40 in a 25-mile radius, I thought I'd ante up the stakes and look to see how many more there were in a 50-mile radius. The results, to be fair, doubled. But I also noticed that at least half the new ones weren't within a 50-mile radius at all. They were 75 miles away, which is just too far.

Morning everyone!

Pigsus I echo Flora post away! We're all dating...some of us are dating women and some of us are dating men. It's always useful to get a different perspective and different experiences and share the ups and downs of others!

Morning NotNew and I could not agree more...internet dating sucks! It's just so hard to find someone you click with, made worse when they live miles away.

As for me, am feeling on top of the world this morning. Mr Two Hours has rang me twice since our date and we're going out for a meal tonight. We seem to have clicked and it feels different to my other experiences so far, which have ended in self-doubt and a few tears. I am going to re-read The Rules to remind myself not to get carried away and try to enjoy the journey! Am also going to avoid POF- I don't want to know if he's on there right now. Trusting my gut. I have ignored it until now and was wrong to do so!

Lies :-) How exciting...another date so soon can only mean one thing...he fancies the arse off you!

You are all so right about pofguy..after re reading the texts from yesterday I've deduced that he's not even really asking for a full reconciliation... probably a fwb situation at most. .. either way I'm so much better off without him, that's pretty obvious.
In order to stop myself obsessing over music man I've decided to set up a profile on pof,I can already notice the first stages of phone watching and need to distract myself!
Notnew, what site are you using? Are you in a highly populated area?

Honestly though, do you think I sound slightly manic...jumping straight from one guy to the next?
Should I just force myself to take a break from it all? You'd think I had nothing else going on in my life the way I'm behaving..the opposite is true!

Good thinking lies, stay away from pof for now.. have a wonderful time tonight :-)

Going to try my best Poff!

FWIW I think you're right going from one guy to the next...who was it up thread, maybe previous thread, that said we should date like men. It is a numbers game, whether we like it or not and I think as women we feel we should be pausing and reflecting because dtd for us women is different than for men. Massive generalisation I know but I, for one, can't disengage emotionally if I'm having sex with someone. However, we are constantly reflecting and trying to work out what went wrong rather than accepting we made the wrong choice and moving on.

Was it Master that said the best way to get over a man is to get under another?? You've made a connection with your guy that you never considered a prospect before...explore it and enjoy - you are worth it!!! Pof guy is a prick and he can get a second-rate FWB somewhere else.

Hope you're having fun Master

Hi All... long time lurker, love reading about all the events :) Having been in pof for a while I moved over to okc . Im chatting to a few guys on there.
Poff my friend advised me to do like in America , date lots of guys and see what happens. I too seem to invest my hopes in one person, only to be let down. So I promised myself for new year all change.

dip I'm not so sure about the dating lots of guys- it's what I was doing over the holidays and was pretty stressful! Remembering what I had told each one (not lies- just repeating information!), feeling like I was lying and not to mention how time consuming it is!!

I have the long distance man coming to my area for a weekend soon. He's not staying with me but wants to spend as much of the weekend together as possible. I need to think of ideas for good daytime activities!! Can any of you help? We've only been on 3 evening dates so far.

I tried to do that, dip. But then I met someone and couldn't date anyone else.

On that note, he's here tonight and I have the biggest spot ever on my chin!!

Morning,

Welcome dip, notnew and pigsus.

Master sounds like an amazing shagfest of a break. A girl needs something like that now and then. Good distraction. What's the lateset with Mr. Wales?

Oneday that music teacher sounds a tad unhinged.

Poffed nothing wrong with lots if dating. If you are happy in yourself doing that. Pofguy is a total arse. Woo hoo on Saturday night guy. He sounds like he could be good to help with forgetting arse features.

Lies that sounds very promising altogether.

Don't dim lighting and concealer. Although I'm sure geeky wouldn't care if you had a carbuncle on your face

I have a date tonight. Can hand on heart say it will never develop into anything other than a little fun. Lives too far away. Have been getting on well over text so thought I may as well meet.

Have another date set up for Sunday. Local guy. He was saying last night he likes a girly girl. Totally not me at all. I'm a bit grungy dress wise. Told him I'm not girly so strike one I'd say. Will just see how it goes.

OOH lots of lovely posts this morning and definately more going right than wrong! Loving the updates - especially lies you go girl! And report back tonight please

nearly do you have any shared interest ie castles/museums/bike riding/etc? If not, Ice skating? Quite romantic and an excuse to hold hands.. Cinema if the conversation dries up or you need something less intense, or ermmmm how about movie/popcorn/cuddles sex at home one afternoon?

dont where are you going tonight for your date? Just play up the eye make up or hair to distract him.

My potential date Carpenter guy seems to be very nice but a tad boring He is still txting me daily ("met" on okc NYE, no date in person yet) but so far they consist of "how are you?" "what are you up to today" type and theres not really any way I can make Tesco shopping, ironing or the school run seem interested much longer.. I hope he's got more oomph in RL, if we ever get to this date over the weekend..

Thanks shanelle - those are the kind of things I had thought of too. A night at home would be ideal but neither of us have a place to ourselves. Any ideas how to get round this? We haven't dtd yet and he's made it clear he isn't expecting anything but to be honest it would be good to get it out of the way! Not romantic I know!! Any ideas how to get round this?! Suggesting a hotel seems a bit forward!!

We're just having a takeaway at mine, but I'll wear a truckload of make up and hopefully he won't mind.

Sounds like everyone is very busy in 2014 so far!

dont that is perfect as you can just light candles and then jump him so he wont see or care
nearly oh thats tough. It depends how long/well you know him as to if you could have a frank convo about booking a hotel. It could tie in nicley with his visit if you treat him to a show and cheapish room somewhere for his last night etc? Or just have some fun in the car then when things steam up, suggest a B&B? Sorry if these are crap suggestions, Im WELL out of practice lol!

Shanelle I think that tends to happen if there's too long a wait before you meet...I'd definitely give it a chance and at least meet up once, take it from there..
pow :-) you are on a roll girl! How far a distance are we talking about?