The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

I know. I'm just worried he'll change his mind. Still no reply...

Dont Ok, at least I'm not the only with THOSE issues, I literally send myself into a spin when he doesn't reply soonish etc. Let's go sit in the corner and rock back and forth like crazy people in a nut house, because you do realise THIS is crazy behaviour and we might push them away with our insecurities!

Wondering if jon got a second shot at coffee date with the guy who blew her off last minute yesterday! Living through anyone else having first dates is a lot less stressful than having my own

Hi all,
Well I signed up again to OKC. A few guys messaging me including an 18 yr old who told me I didn't look 37 and he was in bed feeling horny! OMG! WTF.
Oh and another guy who has no profile pic as he keeps getting an error message, but he will email some if I want!
Oh yes please, I really want pics of your penis thanks very much. sigh hope things imorove.

Ha ha Lahti sounds about right!

I have arranged a telephone date for tonight with someone who seems to be into his fitness as much as I am. Teeny bit nervous...I fall into the rather text and meet in person than call camp. Find it a bit awkward tbh but we shall see! Wish me luck!

He replied. I did send him a '?' text though. Cringe. I'm a nutter.

Ooooh, hon, if someone sent me a question mark like that, it would give me the rage......

Need to catch up with the thread properly but don't, really, an hour??? This really shouldn't be bothering you so much at this stage of your relationship..inevitably things will settle a bit compared to the first few weeks, don't equate frequency of texting with how much he likes you, not now...take a serious chill pill and just enjoy what you have together...

A '?' would wind me up too. I'd cool off a guy who did that to me.

Ok - I feel bad now.

In other news, I went out last night determined not to let myself sit at home wallowing about pofguy...bumped into a group of friends who I hadn't seen in ages..one of whom is a lovely guy who I always liked. Long and short of it is we snogged, talked, snogged again! Had a great time and more importantly I'm already not thinking about pofguy half as much :-)
Not sure if this will go anywhere but boy is it a lovely distraction!

@Dont - I generally hate texting people or being texted, because it demands instant attention. If I send a text I kind of expect an instant response and if I receive a text it sometimes pisses me off because I know the person is likely sitting on the other end of the phone waiting like a nutter for me to reply and thinking I hate them so much.

Non-instant replies to texts doesn't mean the person hates you; they might just be in the middle of making some scrambled eggs and don't want them to burn onto the saucepan. Having said that though, he probably WILL hate you if he burns his scrambled eggs.

It was my friend who persuaded me to send the '?' I hope something as simple as that doesn't make him cool things. He says he loves me, so if a silly thing like that makes him cool it, he was lying. I have anxiety issues, not about relationships specifically, more generalised. He knows that (I sleep v poorly for one) so hopefully he'll know that's why I do odd things sometimes.

You could always claim that you sent the "?" by mistake, or to wrong person. I don't think it will put him off, he might just be puzzled by it.

don't - the scrambled eggs analogy is about right....I wish I had someone nice to hassle with texts though

It's interesting isn't it how different all our communication preferences are. I prefer texting but an hour to reply would really really not concern me. It would often take me up to 4-5 hours if I'm working or an hour in the evenings. (have just replied to a message I got about 3 hours ago). I hate phone calls until I know someone, and would really not fancy skyping with someone other than close friends/family overseas.

But some people hate texting. Some people refuse to meet someone they haven't had a phone conversation with.

I guess the lesson to be learned would be to remain open minded to other people's preferences and to try to find a common ground, bit of give and take I suppose.

Ok I apologized and said I'd sent it by mistake. He doesn't believe me!:)

Tsk pants on fire don't!

Ok all sorted, thanks for keeping me sane. I owned up - told him [insert name of best friend] told me to do it. He said ' [friend] who keeps messing things up' and I laughed and told him about how she used to sneak into her ex's house when he didn't text her enough. We are agreed that I will not take Amy more advice from her!

He might find it easier to believe you Dont once he's got the cremated eggs off his non-stick Tefal.

Ok, twice in a row now I've had guys with devil dogs in their profile pics put me as their favourite...don't like.

mademan I'll be sure to think about scrambled eggs when I start getting anxious about texts.

Still, at least it's a good way of weeding them out Hansel

Hansel....funny, i have a thing about men with vicipus dogs contacting me. I love dogs but not people with those sorts of dogs. It just reeks of eau de agression.

Poff....hurray! Hark at you and your non OD guy....and kudos to snogging :0)

I spend a family day with kids and my ex. Was quite pleasant but realised im not fully recovered. I text number 5 guy and let him down nicely. He didnt reply which is ok. Number 4 text me 3 times....that excites me a bit.

Master....words of wisdom...a love affair with myself sounds perfect. Bought some kettle bells to get fit. Going to enjoy pampering me :0)

Can I ask anyone around to hear my very dull story of my first forray into OD and give me any pointers please? Had a message from Carpenter man NYE, messages went back and forth all evening until gone midnight it was really nice and we clicked I felt... New years day, no contact.
A little surprised but "shrug" whatever. 2nd and 3rd we messaged again all evening, always initiated by him. Friday night he asked me several times what I was doing this weekend and if I had any free time so I asked him if he has time for a quick coffee Sunday as I could pop out for an hour if our schedule's matched. He said he was working Saturday and could he see how the job went as he may need to work Sunday.
It felt a bit like a blow off but last night when he messaged me on OKC as usual he asked for my mobile and we spent the evening txting instead. No mention of the coffee today and no contact all day until now saying sorry he was working again.. He doesnt seem to get in touch until late evening or even late nighttime , and seems to work 24/7 to me this seems like a possible married man, he could have been out all day having family time new years day which may explain the NC, and the reasons he doesnt txt message until V late and had to "wait and see" if he can slip away for coffee ..am I reading too much into it? Red flags anyone?

shanelle - try and get the conversation round to a meeting up again, if he keeps making excuses then he's either too busy with work so why even bother being on a dating site or yes, he's already attached or just hedging his bets and stringing you along.
Maybe suggest you speak on the phone as well and see how he responds to that.