The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

DD good for you! Here's to praying Mr Zany makes 'us' proud lol!!

Santa I should be thrilled for you, I'm a sucker for Happiness/Happy Endings, but I'm sitting here wishing I could climb through my iPad and come stand next to you, hand on hip, shaking my damn head and ask "WHY WHY WHY" REALLY, you want to be that girl, the number 2 girl, waity Katey, waity Santa, the I've had no better offers but your crumbs I'll take.........REALLY???

I say all the above with LOVE, I PROMISE! If we were friends in RL I'd say the same thing! BUT that is just MY opinion! Good luck, I think!

I have a dilemma that I'd like your opinion on, don't want to start a thread as I feel more comfortable with you all, it's like you're my RL friends (crazy eh?!?!) and I trust you will all be brutally honest (which I prefer). I should really start a thread........maybe PM you all if you don't mind? It's REALLY not that it of a deal, I just prefer a "controlled" response, not some crazy randoms who don't "know me"????

*big of a deal....

Oh I realised that the Dating Rules aren't on this thread yet

The Rules:

1. Develop a thick skin
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon
3. It's all BS until it actually happens
4. Trust your gut instinct
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. Loo update is mandatory

Morning! anyone got dates today? love the rules thanks BANT! Please post your dilemma MASTER as you seem a wealth of advice and honesty on here so be good for you to get some back.

master I know what you're saying. It's just to pass the time really and swap stories. I don't really feel second best and anyway I had found someone else myself back then and that lasted 3 months exclusive dating. This man knows this. We live in the same town miles from anywhere so really it's a friendly drink not a date.

Took the plunge and signed up for POF last night. Got a couple of messages and sent a few this morning. No one that is really catching my attention though. I'm working on the basis that it's a numbers game and I have to wade through all the frogs first.

After my meeting with number 4 next weekend, im having a break from OD. Its taking up too much of my time. Its 5 months since my DP and father of my children separated. I dont think im quite fully recovered. Im still hurting. So going to delete my profile until im ready.
But i shall still come on here and follow you guys.

flora it's hard to know what to do for the best isnt it. You and I both split with our EA ex's at the same time. I remember you on the EA thread, I was under a different name and in a right state at the time. At least I don't have children with my ex so was able to go non contact

Since then I had that intense thing with online man, who hurt me, but as it was quite short lived I got over it ( I think) quite quickly. Now mr dickhead married. It's a bloody minefield

I hope your date goes great for you though :)

Thanks Claws. I think i know who you were on EA thread.
I really want a loving relationship but i want to be fully recovered. Every relationship ive had has been on the rebound of another one. I think im too vulnerable right now to make the right choices.
Im not sure about next weeks date. I have time to think about it.

Yes you are probably right about the rebound thing. I've done that also, even rebounded back with the EA ex for a few nights, it made me realise I don't want him though and he's no good for me, so am not hurting about that anymore. No doubt it has taken its toll though even if I don't know how as yet. Maybe I should take more time out alone as well

Flora & Santa (((CUDDLES))) to you both!

Flora why not start a great love affair with YOURSELF, it's always the best relationship you will EVER have, after all you're with yourself 24/7/365 for the rest of your life.........

Mr Wales, is separated, has been since June, he's saying ALL the right things, my gut instinct tells me he's not ready for ME and a relationship with ME! I want it ALL, I've been brutally honest with my desires/aspirations/short & long term goals, so has he, it seems, so why am I sitting here just waiting for him to say "....I thought I was ready, I'm not bla bla bla..." We've kept in regular contact, he's been consistent! One of my short-long term goals is to have another child, but I'd want to be pregnant and popping it out before my 41st (I turn 40 in March). If it happens YAY, if not, I'm blessed with two beautiful lovely boys, life goes on, I close the baby making factory for good and book my cosmetic procedures (whole other thread hahaha)! He mentioned the baby thing before I did, he turns 40 in Nov, wants the child before then! We both want to get married eventually, so getting married AFTER baby isn't the issue (for US). I think we've covered all basis, asked the uncomfortable questions, the logistics, he'll move to Brum, etc etc

If someone else was writing this I'd be SHOCKED, and asking, "shouldn't you guys wait to see if you're compatible by dating/courting, isn't this moving too quickly, etc?" But you see, we don't have the comfort of TIME on our side re:baby production!

This isn't the dilemma I mentioned earlier on btw!

Master -have you met mr wales yet? Can't remember if you have or not.

Bant Yes, went on a 24hour date with him, shared a bed, spent the night, kept my legs tightly shut, but did play, and I think it's safe to say we'd be compatible in bed!

santaclaws - I'd go on the date and enjoy yourself, the guy was honest and in the early stages of dating, mindchanging happens a lot, I wouldn't look at it as being thought second best. It might be a better time for both of you second time around. I'd be saying something else if would be you'd had been intimate perhaps.

'If you had been intimate perhaps' - damn fingers!

po - you both want a baby...ok...what are you asking though? is it too soon? yep. See more of him, see how things pan out.

Hello,
id love to try this internet dating stuff but at the moment I know my confidence is at an extremely low ebb....
I don't think I could take any shit off anyone!!
Arrrgh sometimes I think go for it......but always talk myself out of it due may be attracting a weirdo!! Or rejection.
I also think however that signing up and having a good laugh is probably just what I do need right now..it feels like a big risk.....indecision clouds my vision iuswim!!!!
Help me....

Hansel sometimes writing it all down helps clear thoughts and give direction. I guess I'm worried about him changing his mind, but like he said "...I don't have a crystal ball to tell you what the future holds, but I will be committed to my child and my family...."! In life there are no guarantees, the only one is death! I'm answering my own questions here, NEVER MIND! Thanks though.

IAM hi, chances are you will attract a weirdo, scroll back up to see the RULES! If you emotionally can't cope with the potential rejection, mind playing, time wasters WALK AWAY! But remember life is about taking risks, but a calculated risk is better! Only you know if you're ready!

Master (I seem to be the only one calling you PO so better fall in line before I confuse the whole thread!)
Thinking out loud and using this place as a sounding board is exactly the right thing to do, that's the beauty of a forum like this.
Have you another date lined up with him?

Hi everyone

Long time lurker and first time poster. After a brief time on Match and OKC 18 months ago (messages from lots of idiots, met one guy who turned out to be older, uglier and stupider than he appeared online) I gave up online dating as I hated it with a passion and it was seriously eroding my self-esteem.

But.. I never meet any single men in real life so I've forced myself to try again, even though the stories of some of your dating escapades on here are a bit scary! I have a question for you experienced daters and especially the guys on here: what do men mean when they maybe "maybe" to the "wants children" question? I've had a few guys message me who say "maybe" (my profile says I don't want any), including one who contacted me on a different dating site the last time I was dating when he had said he did want kids (my profile still said I didn't). Should I be wary that these guys will try to persuade me I do want kids really and then dump me as soon as a woman who does want them turns up? Or are they likely to be genuinely OK with a childless relationship? These are men aged 35-45ish btw.

Yes, for this coming weekend and I don't think I can keep my legs closed this time!

I'm on Tinder, chatting to this one HOT HOT HOT guy, I ask him why he's still single "...I'm particular and very quiet..." Hmmmmm lol!!! I can't stop checking him out YUM YUM SCRUMDILICIOUS

Jean I think it means OPTIONAL, either way they would be ok. You're grown ups, so JUST ASK, and state your true intentions so you avoid that scenario you're scared of! If he runs a mile after you've told him you don't want any, then you've saved yourself from a potential problem! SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY is my motto! And WELCOME.

Ok guys - help me to see sense. Texted geeky oover an hour ago. No reply yet. He hates me, doesn't he? WAIL...

Dont go take your crazy pills, geeky is a sweetypie!