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The Dating Thread 67

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MasterP0 · 03/01/2014 12:15

.......we are a busy bunch aren't we hahahaha!

New Thread Alert the other ones has reached maximum capacity!

HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

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MadeMan · 05/01/2014 20:51

Shanelle - If he's a carpenter by trade then he might be on price work or something. A lot of trade jobs (carpenters, plumbers, electricians) work weekends and unsociable hours (more money that way too) and sometimes work turns up at short notice. Also, New Years Day is a bit like xmas day for some people (family meet ups, hangovers, New Year dinner), not always easy.

Like HandG says, give him a chance to meet up again and see if he seems bothered. This week will be most people's return to work (normality, kids at school, etc) after the holiday period so for everyone it should be a more settled time now for dating. Smile

shanelle5 · 05/01/2014 21:11

Thanks for the replies! He's been sending me rather lovely texts all evening so rather than sit wondering I just asked him outright (oops) His response was lovely - yes I AM still married but it's in court as we speak, hence my moving in Feb as it's all tied up and going through together. Should only be for a few more weeks though, hope that's ok? then another text saying he understood my asking and that you have to be careful especially when you have kids! Now Im worried as he seems way too good to be true! Think I'll keep my guard up until we've met at least - hoping he asks soon..

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MasterP0 · 05/01/2014 21:31

Sooooo, chatting to the love of my life this afternoon, one thing lead to another, now I'm on a flight to Dublin for 2 nights to hang out with him! Mr Wales is sulking because I'm going to Dubs, as much as I'm into him I'm not going to sit at home twiddling my thumbs just waiting for him! I've been burnt too many times by this OD nonsense!

Will read back later.

WHEELS UP......

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Santaclaws · 05/01/2014 21:36

hansel yes I am going to go on the date.For some reason I didn't really feel second best. The first time we met was a brief 2 hour drink then as you say he was honest he didn't just disappear on me, and no we hadn't been intimate, not even a kiss so I didn't feel at all let down

RaspberryGirl · 05/01/2014 21:39

Very intriguing Master. Can't wait to hear more.

I went on a second date today. He's cute, will hopefully see him again....

dontcallmehon · 05/01/2014 21:42

Wow master have an amazing time!!

Just texting geeky about the fact that I have a child-free house on Saturday. He said he only had naughty thoughts about what we might do. I said - good, me too Wink

FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 05/01/2014 21:47

Oh this is all getting exciting.....second dates, loving texts and trips to Dublin!! Please tell more!

Despite me saying earlier im off OD (i am) ....number 4 keeps texting and hes the one i really like. He made a joke comment about going away with him to his famiies holiday home!! If it works out with him then great...if not...im having a rest. Does that sound bad? I havent even met the guy but hes so hot im getting a bit...you know...

SweetSeraphim · 05/01/2014 21:53

How can you just up and leave for Dublin with such short notice PO?

HanselandGretel · 05/01/2014 21:55

shanelle - he's just admitted still being married and all still going through the courts and 'hope that's ok'' and you're asking if he's too good to be true?? I don't get it.
He's been lying and your gut that he was married was true...am I missing something?

HanselandGretel · 05/01/2014 21:57

He's got tons of baggage to sort out and he's lining you up to be there at the end of it...I'd flee from this one.

FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 05/01/2014 22:04

My number 3 was married...then he was with someone for 4 years. He claimed to be separated. I thought separated from the second one but he was still separated from his wife. He said it was cheaper to divorce once your kids are 16 so he had another 2 years to go! I would be wary too....but maybe ask more questions. Depends if it bothers you or not.

dontcallmehon · 05/01/2014 22:08

I'm still technically married though - I do plan on divorcing but not in a mad rush. Told geeky I'll sort it by next new year (it's amicable). So it's not always an issue - as long as the separation is final.

HanselandGretel · 05/01/2014 22:16

My thinking was he may still be living with his wife due to the 'moving in February' thing? If he's separated a while and just needs get a divorce and it's all done and dusted with the ex that is completely different. There are red flags though about his reluctance to meet.

shanelle5 · 05/01/2014 22:25

hansel maybe I didnt explain it very well Blush He is in final stages of getting divorced, been seperated a year. In my eyes that means he is single, not married as in married iyswim! I felt his reply was honest and open, and he asked if that was all ok which I thought was nice as he owes me nothing, he IS single and I was questioning his honesty and practically accusing him of being a cheating online devious cad! Blush just because he had been working all weekend and couldnt make coffee Smile As was suggested, he is a self employed carpenter so had a private job on this weekend which went on longer than expected apparently, but he apologised and has asked me for a date next weekend. Gulp. He just seems really nice so hence my "too good to be true" comment as Ive been quite harsh and suspicious bordering on rude to him! Hope that makes more sense, do tell me if im being a twat!

shanelle5 · 05/01/2014 22:34

On another note - just got a message on OKC saying "can I tap that?" Does that mean what I think it means Confused

HanselandGretel · 05/01/2014 22:35

That does explain it a bit better! Good he's stepped up and suggested a date.

FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 05/01/2014 22:55

Good news Shanelle. Glad he sounds legit. Not sure what "tap that"means.
My number 4 sending me lovely texts. He wants me to join him at an event hes going to at the weekend.

dontcallmehon · 05/01/2014 22:58

Yes shanelle it does mean what you think it means. What a catch, eh!

shanelle5 · 05/01/2014 23:01

How very eloquent! Who knew I could skip my English lessons all those years ago with such literal genuis freely available on the sites Grin

Poffedoff · 05/01/2014 23:04

Omg I can't believe what just happened!

I had created a fake profile on pof to search for pofguy, obviously I viewed his profile when I found it. Haven't been back on until just now when I logged into it so I could delete it. There were two messages from him! Was very tempted to say hello back but that would just be crazy, i'm going to leave myself logged in as hes online now too, just not reply to his messages, see how he likes the silent treatment!

LiesDamnLiesandSoggybiscuits · 05/01/2014 23:06

Evening All!
Just had my telephone date....all two hours and could've talked all night.

Ringing me tomorrow to arrange an actual date...quite like this talking malarkey after all, it's proper grown up and everything!

LiesDamnLiesandSoggybiscuits · 05/01/2014 23:06

You go poff. Show the knobber who's boss!

Poffedoff · 05/01/2014 23:21

Haha yeah lies, its pretty bloody juvenile of me but I guess I'm still a bit flabbergasted by his reaction to all this and can't quite believe he's happily back online messaging random women who don't even have a pic up and very basic info in their profile! Mad stuff altogether!

That sounds like a really promising start with the 2 hour phone call...:-)

Poffedoff · 05/01/2014 23:23

Master! How on earth did that happen so quickly?? We'll be expecting a detailed report when you get back! :-)

dontcallmehon · 05/01/2014 23:25

Sounds like you're well rid of him, poffed. What an idiot.

Oh,a two hour phone call, lies - sounds very promising!

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