How do you know when......

[DuhDuhDuh]

Your marriage is over??

I really don't know how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking.

I have been with dh since I was 19 - so 16 years and I just can't bear the thought if being with him and life being just this for the next 40 years . It's not that he's done anything - he hasn't I just can't decide what I feel for him. I've tried talking to dh - he can't understand why I'm so miserable - he loves me to bits and apparently I have 2 Dc who adore me.

But we don't do anything. We never go anywhere, I have friends but dh doesn't and it doesn't bother him. We have no spontaneity or fun and our sex life is about exciting as a funeral. I never look forward to seeing him. I took the dc to a competition (Friday - v late Sunday) and didn't miss him at all

I don't know if this is the end............like I said he's not mean or nasty, just really boring and I don't feel wanted, adored, attractive or anything with him........

Any advice on how I can sort myself and my feelings out would be appreciated

It is obviously the same person and we have been led up the garden path with this story.

ok, well, haven't read the other thread.

But tbh, making up scenarios that are close to your own dilemmas but maybe more extreme because you need or enjoy the reactions to those more extreme scenarios in order to put your own emotions in context, that is not unusual online behaviour is it? Eg, whether your own emotions are normal, whether you have a right to feel what you feel.

Not championing 'lies' but this is the internet. None of us owes anybody else the truth, although it would be wonderful if common decency alone prevented us from spinning a story that could hurt others, and encouraging others to invest in it.

I think it can be symptom of a damaged self-esteem coupled with an inflated ego; spinning stories on the internet to generate a reaction temporarily inflates a damaged self-esteem. And that's a coping mechanism for people with damaged self-esteem. But it's more than that. It's the exchange of viewpoints and it's all context for the 'troll' or the 'liar' so.......... in my opinion, unless the poster is encouraging others to send money, become invested, confide their own personal private experiences then all round.

sorry, temporarily inflates the ego I meant

Think I got it the wrong way round- lots of posts by Blushingm, but only a few since Friday by DuDuhDuh.

But the stupid, stupid, stupid post has gone.

why?

Was there a warning from the OP that she'd asked MNHQ to pull it?

Don't know veri

Blushingm DuhDuhDuh why did you not come back to this thread but start another identical thread??

Funny that. Almost like she'd been caught...

Hi duh- I feel for you as I have been in the same boat. However I did love my husband, but he does nothing, goes nowhere, and makes no contribution to any part of the marriage or family life. I have tried everything to get him engaged in life to no avail. He then discovered a passion for a sport in his 40s and I saw that he could be motivated and dynamic- just not with me! After many years of making the effort and it being a one way street, I have found that I don't love him anymore, and that actually I don't really like him much. At 45 he's sat on the sofa waiting to die. I've now left him and feel an overwhelming sense of excitement about my future and life's possibilities! If he doesn't make an effort (mine didn't even at crisis point) then you need to think about how you feel about the next 10 years living the life you are?

Silly me.....just read all your posts about this possibly being a dodgy question.......my response was however genuine for anyone else living with a man who's pulse you have to regularly have to check to see if he's still alive!!!!