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I think he's got me a bread maker for Christmas...

118 replies

TinyAK · 15/12/2013 01:47

I wasn't supposed to see anything and I don't know for sure, but it definitely looks like some kind of kitchen appliance. It makes me feel quite sick at the thought... We've only been together a couple of years and until now all his gifts have been very romantic (jewelry, flowers, customized cards...). What on earth do I do?!

OP posts:
TheCatThatSmiled · 15/12/2013 01:57

Casually mention a 'friend' who received a household appliance for her birthday with a 'can you believe that?!'

JanetSnakehole · 15/12/2013 02:00

LTB. (Not really)

Terrortree · 15/12/2013 02:21

Buy him a pasta maker?

GhettoPrincess001 · 15/12/2013 02:33

Are you sure it's for you ? Has it been wrapped with your name on the name tag ?

Buy him a set of spanners and some spark plugs. After the presents get opened, simply say, 'gendered presents this year ?'

AmberLeaf · 15/12/2013 02:34

Have you mentioned liking home made bread or something? He probably thinks he's been really clever!

Do what TheCatThatSmiled suggests.

Lavenderhoney · 15/12/2013 02:37

Do you live together? Have you showed any interest in them at all? They are very wonderful btw:)

Thecat below has a good idea. If you don't want to, then get him a new toaster and ensure he gives you your present first. If you've made a mistake and its a mulberry bag hidden in a kitchen aid box you can quickly give him the lovely romantic one..

plentyofsoap · 15/12/2013 02:46

LTB

Lweji · 15/12/2013 04:46

I'd open it and check. Then, if it is a breadmaker, I'd head off to the jewelers, buy something nice and put it in the breadmaker box. No gifts for him.

nobalance · 15/12/2013 04:50

Does it really matter? My best present was a box of dishwasher tablets, with a promise of the dishwasher in the new year sales...but then I hate thinking we are spending lots of money for no reason and we were going to get it anyway :D

Lweji · 15/12/2013 04:54

I've done similar, nobalance.

But it's different when they come out with the wifely homely gifts singlehandly.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 15/12/2013 07:02

Just talk to him! It's no biggie, he's got you a present you don't think you'll like, just tell him. Confused

cathpip · 15/12/2013 07:13

I actually asked for a slow cooker this year, my dh said it was a shit present and he was not buying it for me. I have gone and brought it for myself - using his credit card :) and have chosen a more "suitable" present (that cost twice as much) !!

FoxyHarlow123 · 15/12/2013 07:17

It makes you feel sick? Really? Are you being tongue in cheek here? I'd be seriously unimpressed if I got a present like this but to say you feel sick is a bit ott.

Kefybaby · 15/12/2013 07:21

Am I the only one who would fancy one as a present then?! Grin

99redbafoons · 15/12/2013 07:24

Do you think he had intentionally bought you a present you won't like? Do you think he really is trying to "gender stereotype" you? If the answer is "yes" to either of these questions then you have cause for concern. Other than that, he's just bought you a present he thought you'd like which you obviously don't - just tell him. What's the big deal?

Bearandcub · 15/12/2013 07:24

I asked for one last year. It's a nice practical gift. I use it daily much more than I would a box of Jo Malone smellies or some pretty earrings. Get over it!

Can someone explain how a bread maker is offensive but "romantic" gifts that are obviously marketed to be gendered such as jewellery or flowers!?

Longdistance · 15/12/2013 07:27

I'd be hopping mad if my dh bought me a bread maker. It is that sort of 'wifey get in the kitchen and cook me something nice' type present. Unless you've specifically asked for it, I'd be very pissed off.

My dh however is clueless as to what I want for Xmas, and has asked everyone what I want. He knows the things I like, where I shop, he's just being lazy.

HairyGrotter · 15/12/2013 07:28

I'd love one Confused ungrateful!

Mind you, I think flowers and jewellery are far more 'gendered' than an appliance that benefits both. I can't stand flowers and I'd rather money was spent on something practical than jewellery

NeedlesCuties · 15/12/2013 07:30

I got one for Christmas years ago by my in-laws.

It is a great thing! Can make bread, cakes, jam in it.

HairyGrotter · 15/12/2013 07:34

Also, why would anyone marry someone who when they purchased a gift for them would go 'mad' because they thought he was trying to get them in the kitchen?! Confused

I'm glad I'm a liberal feminist Grin and I'm also glad my fiancé is too! Smile

CogitoErgoSometimes · 15/12/2013 07:36

Have you actually told him what it is you would like? Have you seen a breadmaker recently and admired it? Do you stick to just the one gift each?

woooooooobooo · 15/12/2013 07:36

I'm getting an electric blanket and a new ironing board Xmas Grin HOWEVER I know dh will buy me some lovely frivolous gifts too. I would be pretty upset if I just got the practical stuff. I would tell your dp the story someone else upthread said about a friend receiving a Hoover or similar

Bearandcub · 15/12/2013 07:36

I need a emoticon for HairyGrotter.

RubyGoat · 15/12/2013 07:38

I love my bread maker, it's getting old now & I'm dreading it dying. BUT, if homemade bread isn't your thing, you wanted something else (especially if you've been hinting) YANBU to be a bit disappointed. It could be seen as a very 'gendered' gift. OTOH DH & I both use ours regularly, hence my fear that it will soon die.

woooooooobooo · 15/12/2013 07:39

In fact that brings back memories of the year he got me a sky remote control. The dcs had broken the old one. I was not amused but he quickly redeemed himself by bringing out my real present