I think he's got me a bread maker for Christmas...

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I wasn't supposed to see anything and I don't know for sure, but it definitely looks like some kind of kitchen appliance. It makes me feel quite sick at the thought... We've only been together a couple of years and until now all his gifts have been very romantic (jewelry, flowers, customized cards...). What on earth do I do?!

Philoslothy - I have an Amazon wishlist, which includes things from not on Amazon too and just general ideas. My parents, siblings, PILs, etc always ask what I would like for gifts - this way I can put a range of items on, varying price ranges, and all things I would like to receive. I have to sy that yes, normally it does include kitchen stuff - love them :) DH doesn't usualy refer to i but that is because he knows me and what I want.

Breadmakers make yummy bread and their not cheap. An excellent present IMHO

Thing is, after Christmas there will probably be a thread from someone who's DH has told them they didn't like their practical gift and there will be loads of replies saying what a shit he is. Some of the attitudes on here are astonishing

I would like one as a gift. He probably thinks it's something you would like?

Firstly make doubly sure it is a breadmaker, and it's for you

Then buy him an iron.

Some people are just not good at choosing presents. The only acceptable response to present you don't like is "thank you".
However, you might just keep it in its wrapping and then try to exchange it in a few months time, when he's forgotten all about it!

I think my breadmaker was one of the best Christmas presents my hubby ever got me. It was a few years ago, and I still use it regularly even though it is getting a little long in the tooth now.

I can't see the issue with getting one for Christmas. You don't yet even know that it is one anyway. Be open to the idea. You might even find you like it.

My DP buys me such random presents. They are always sort of well meaning and thought out, but yet wide of the mark. Eg last year he got me one of those snuggly blanket things with armholes because I am always cold and love huddling under a blanket on the sofa. Sweet. Except the blanket I already used for this purpose was my grandmother's so means something special to me - I had told him this but I think he had forgotten.

Anyway, I'd be delighted with a bread maker. But I love cooking so it would be

a thoughtful gift

I agree with you op. There again I am definately in the jewellery and perfume category when it comes to presents from my beloved.

Then have you learned a lesson about peeping??

I think it's lucky the OP did peep, because now she can arrange her face into a grateful smile.

I think it's almost a good present. I'd prefer a food processor. I'd hate jewellery or perfume. It's hard buying presents so please don't be ungracious about it.

Personally I prefer a practical gift, I wouldn't want money wasted on flowers or jewellery.

My MIL was a bit horrified when she asked me and Dh what we would like for Christmas and we came out with practical gift suggestions. She is a perfume/jewellery/romantic love songs cd type of person.

We have been married for 14 years so my lovely MIL receives the type of gift she likes and I believe last year she bought me and Dh a larger capacity slow cooker. We use it all the time. Very handy and useful.

I already have a breadmaker (love it) and Dh has bought me (amongst other things) a cast iron welly boot jack, you know, that thing that takes your wellies off for you. And when I open it on Christmas day I will love it, because I want and need it. If he bought me jewellery I would make this confused face. We only started buying gifts for each other again recently and only because of the children because they like being involved in the buying side.

We have been together 17 years and quite frankly if I want something I just go out and buy it as does Dh.

Why don't you just talk to him and suggest that you would like for Christmas a bit more jewellery or a customised card. And if you can't talk to him about it what does that tell you about your relationship?

I think it is good that she peeped, she has time to do something about it. I would go and buy a bread maker- it is the sort of thing you just buy and not a present- then he will have to take his back.

Having taken it back, she can discuss presents being personal and not for the house.

First world problems

We (men) try to be clever, around 8years ago my wife was complaining about sensitive teeth and gums. I bought her a toothbrush, an all singing all dancing sonic toothbrush. I researched and did all the things she did when making purchases, was really pleased with myself. She hit the roof, luckily I had bought one or two other more personal presents. The toothbrush was, I thought the perfect gift, it wasn't. My point is there has probably been a throwaway remark made, he has banked it and now thinks he the Santa god.......