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I think he's got me a bread maker for Christmas...

118 replies

TinyAK · 15/12/2013 01:47

I wasn't supposed to see anything and I don't know for sure, but it definitely looks like some kind of kitchen appliance. It makes me feel quite sick at the thought... We've only been together a couple of years and until now all his gifts have been very romantic (jewelry, flowers, customized cards...). What on earth do I do?!

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PipkinsPal · 15/12/2013 11:07

I love practical Christmas presents because they can be pricey. My only wish this year that I was still with my boyfriend of 8 years (we split in August) because I would have liked him to buy me an electric knife sharpener for Christmas as it cost £65. How shallow does that sound? In reality I treated myself to said knife sharpener after we split and I love it. I don't miss him at all.

AmberLeaf · 15/12/2013 11:14

When I said kitchen aids I meant small kitchen appliances, not a kitchenaid

ThreeTomatoes · 15/12/2013 11:22

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LtEveDallas · 15/12/2013 11:23

DH bought me saucepans one Christmas. I made the most of it - used to old ones to cook dinner and then threw them in the bin - no washing up! But I was really disappointed. Thing is, I had been moaning about the old ones and meaning to buy new ones for about a month. So he thought he'd done a really good thing...and in a way he had, because he didn't see the problem with the old ones that I did, but replaced them just because I said so.

I wouldn't mind a bread maker as much as saucpans. A bread maker is more of a 'nice to have' than a 'must have'.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 15/12/2013 11:28

Oh I seeeee :) OK point taken.

MrsUnderwood · 15/12/2013 11:29

Do you like cooking/ baking? I do, so kitchen stuff is fine for me as a gift. If you don't enjoy cooking then it is a bit of an odd choice.

AmberLeaf · 15/12/2013 11:33

Are kitchenaids those mixer things that cost about £400?

If so, then yes deffo a frivolity!

LadyLapsang · 15/12/2013 11:35

1st world problem thread. Maybe you should take it to a charity shop, someone who wants a bread maker will get one, the charity will get some more resources and you will feel good.

RobotLover68 · 15/12/2013 11:38

I got an electric blanket a few years ago

Best. Present. Ever.

I'd been asking for one for years and never got it - then one year he got it and he even got my dd to help him get it on the bed ready for Christmas morning. He is the worst present buyer, leaves it to the last minute, panics, buys rubbish, so this meant a lot to me, even tho technically an appliance

meddie · 15/12/2013 11:40

He would be eating home made bread for breakfast lunch and dinner for the foreseeable future

whereiseveryone · 15/12/2013 11:47

I had a breadmaker from DH a few years ago. I asked for one! I hate frivolous gifts. He actually bought me a toaster for our first Christmas.

Do you like cooking? If you do, I would have thought it was a nice thoughtul gift.

I think you need to take a step back and think this through. You're either being ungrateful or you're married to the wrong bloke.

str8tothepoint · 15/12/2013 11:51

Be grateful you have someone to spend Christmas with gifts should be irrelevant if your in love being with your partner should be all you want and need.

isitsnowingyet · 15/12/2013 11:52

Give it to me please. I'd like that.

brokenhearted55a · 15/12/2013 11:53

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Philoslothy · 15/12/2013 11:58

I guess if you are not into baking it suggests your husband does not know you very well, which is worrying.

I find it strange that an audit would feel sick about a Christmas present.

Do adults really have Christmas lists? As in lists they write out? I know some children do this, surprised that adults do.

weregoingtothezoo · 15/12/2013 12:11

I'm a bit stunned that adults have Christmas lists too - really?

And reading some of the heartbreaking threads on here... definitely a first world problem!

LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA · 15/12/2013 12:16

I have brought my DP a new drill (hes a carpenter so its not even for a hobby). He needs it as his drill is on its last legs and slowing him down. He did actually buy me a bread maker one year too. To be honest, i would much rather have something like that than perfume or jewlery. I was going through a cooking period, it would not be so welcome this year.

Bunbaker · 15/12/2013 12:19

You feel sick at the thought!

Get a grip

DoingItForMyself · 15/12/2013 12:21

I'd much rather a breadmaker than generic jewellery, perfume or ill-fitting underwear!

They are all gendered gifts except the breadmaker, which can be used by men or women.

I got a coffee machine last year, which I have used everyday, its great when friends come round, we don't have to spend money on expensive Costas or Starbucks but it still feels like a treat. The kids love having frothy hot chocolates and I can get the DCs to safely make me hot drinks, so its like having a butler too!

I think people get so hung up on the fact that it's a kitchen appliance, so therefore it must be misogynistic, whereas actually an iron or a kettle or something might be a bit shit, but a really nice item that you wouldn't buy yourself like a posh mixer or an all-singing smoothie maker would be welcomed by lots of people.

ImperialBlether · 15/12/2013 14:10

Nobalance, why was the dishwasher YOUR present? Presumably he benefitted from this too?

Phalenopsis · 15/12/2013 14:12

I think the question of gratitude depends on whether the recipient will enjoying using the present.

Example: if my OH bought me a KitchenAid, I'd be delighted because I love cooking. If my OH bought me a vacuum cleaner, I'd strangle him with the hose because I hate hoovering and we share that chore anyway.

LividofLondon · 15/12/2013 14:14

Personally I wouldn't be at all happy with a gift for the house rather than something personal to me, because something for the house is not solely for me is it, it's for the family. Of course it's different if I said "I'd love a bread maker/dishwasher/vacuum cleaner for Christmas". I also hate "sexy" lingerie (for the man to enjoy more than me I suspect) or chocolates and flowers (both don't last long) as Christmas or birthday presents.

desperateforaholiday · 15/12/2013 14:24

Ive bought my dh a breadmaker

Solaia · 15/12/2013 14:31

I bought my Dad a bread maker for Christmas. Gotta show that bitch who's boss.

TeamHank · 15/12/2013 14:50

I can't believe the number of people who would be quite prepared to tell their dh (or anyone!) that they didn't like/want a gift they'd been given - that is the absolute height of rudeness!!!!!

Accept it graciously and move on. Life's too short!

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