The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Morning I'm I'll be checking in on the bus on and off all day. You're not on your own you've got us Babes on this bus
How did meeting go? Have you got any plans for today?

Ma I have a good friend who is a sparky, I am seeing him this morning about fitting an oven, will ask him about your plug popping - is that where it's coming from? Do you have different fuses for different parts of the flat? Could the fuse be taken out where that particular plug is? I'll post back when I've spoken to him. I think Mouse's idea of getting fire brigade to have a look is a good plan. At least they know what happened and might be able to advise

Mouse I hope that lovely Nemo had a good sleep snuggled in your bed. I also hope DD feels alot better soon. My DDs break up on Friday not long to go Keep strong, grief comes in all different guises and can and will hit at any time you have some wonderful memories of a very special lady x

Day 4 for me. I find this one really hard (as I feel that I deserve a reward for doing so well) I may post frequently on here today in order to keep the WW away

Morning spanna ill be on here a bit today me thinks

I feel so alone, the meetings Thursday but SW came out yesterday she is going to him today she said there was a referral from the school nurse wtf I don't get that
I carnt talk to non of them now I told wa stuff they have passed it onto SW who am I ment to tell and talk to now it stinks

day3
will post later but feeling so much better already...........hoping I can get to Christmas eve

ma can you get those hunky firemen back out? And if you could, you know, take some photos of the burly firemen of the dangerous sockets and post them on here? Perhaps with one of them admonishing you, wagging his, er, finger at you?

Joey

Ma I've just seen my sparky - he said the spark should do a 'continuity test' on the circuit to see if there are any crossovers with neutral and live wires. He should also change the face plate of the socket (if he hasn't already) to make sure that the individual plug is not faulty. I hope that helps

Sober day 3 is really good, keep going babe, you'll make it to Christmas Eve

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Thank you spanna :) x

I'm - we're all here holding your hand sweetie. It's shit that you feel that you can't talk to anyone without knowing whether or not you can trust anyone, wondering if your words are going to be used against you.

We won't do that. Talk to us, let us look after you xxx

Ma - I have a spark here too so I'll ask mine about the popping, see what they both say maybe spanna? This deffo needs sorting though. It's awfully frightening.

Not much sleep last night, Nemo was crying in his sleep again, DH coughing his head off and DD in bed after an awful night.

Ma - if the socket is popping, my spark has said that it is a loose connected at the back of the socket and NOT TO USE IT

The 'popping' is the electricity arcing from the wire to the socket. Get it sorted sweetie, shouldn't cost too much as it's only a case of putting the wire in properly.

Hope that helps xxx

mouse do u mean as I'm not protecting my dc? So they might take them from me

Got very hammered, having a suicidal thought day.

I'm - NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO NOT AT ALL SWEETHEART!!!

What I mean is that you must feel that you can't talk to anyone about how bad things really are incase they think the children aren't safe, please please please don't think for one minute that is what I meant.

I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to frighten you

Massive hugs. As far as I can see, YOU ARE DOING ALL THAT YOU CAN TO KEEP THEM SAFE!

I've re-read my post and see why you thought that, I wasn't very clear. I just feel for you sweets, you need to reach out. You need to be listened too, you need friends and support.

If that's all that I can give you via this thread, then I'll give you every drop that I can my lovely.

BUT - you MUST help yourself too. YOU are in control still, make sure that it stays that way. Do what YOU can to get yourself and DC safe and away from him, please.

Keep posting, keep talking xxx

Fated - IsinDe is spot on with saying that alcohol can lead to suicidal and self hatred thoughts.

It's a depressant, a very powerful one. I'm holding your hand too. Please keep posting, I'm around all day on and off so will keep checking back but trust me, you need to get lots of non alcoholic fluids on board, and some stodgy food, carbs loaded and keep warm.

Are you at home today? xxx

IsinDe - Hmmm, overdoing it maybe? How do you feel now? Are you okay sweets?

Thank goodness you were in the bedroom and not in the garden or loft, or coming down the stairs......

Please take it easy today xxx

Day two today. I'm not sure how many af days I'll manage between now and Xmas - I will drink over Xmas, I've been saving a bottle of champagne since Sept for Xmas day - but today I will not be drinking :)

isinde 3 days is brilliant and all that hard work and sobriety will make you sleep like a baby and wake feeling refreshed!

Just agreed with DH that neither of us will drink at his office Christmas party on Saturday! That is a first for me, although TBH it shouldn’t be too much of a challenge. Christmas Day with the in-laws a few days later will be trickier…

Joey - good for you lovely!!! What a star you are! xx

IsinDe - I missed that bit, 3 days is great, well done! No wonder you slept so well but I do think if you fainted then you need to slow down a bit :) xx

Annie - I too will be drinking champers on Christmas Day and on NYE. We do every year, we save our 5ps over the year and then count them up and use them to pay for our treats. :)

But that's about it. :)

Isn't it nice to feel in control... rather than worrying?

thanks mouse I didn't realise you would get so excited for me... now I will have to stick to it, and I hadn't really set in my mind that it was definite

Hi all,

fated hope you are ok babe and shuffling through today as best you can. im you too, not sure what else to say but don't feel alone, we all care.

sober, isinde well done on day 3 and joey you are sounding really strong. spanna extra strength to you on dificult day 4, in fact have the driftwood and the spray, they did the trick for me last night

mouse and anne that Christmas Day champagne is a BIG thought in my head. Not sure yet though. Anyway, for today, no drinking.

Love to all others xx

We had another bad night last night. I had another of those ‘night terrors’ OMG you should have heard me (maybe you did?!) I screamed the place down. DH nearly had a heart attack (in between trying to smother me, which did NOT help ) the dog leaped off the bed assuming there were intruders; DD appeared wide-eyed in the doorway asking “WTF was that ?!” The poor neighbours, who have a new baby (the walls are pretty thin) were probably cursing me. It took DH and I ages to get back to sleep as we were both maxxed out on adrenalin.

I really hope this doesn’t happen over the holidays as we are staying with in-laws and family… it’s just horrible. No idea what causes it, maybe stress, tiredness.

Just pm you mouse
Iv not herd from her today but know shes seeing him today
I am feeling very let down by local wa they told SW things iv told them, she knew it all I feel sad as its been very hard to start and open up and trust someone be honest and work through my options, I started to get to know the workers and them me and I can not go back to them

Worried about tonight

Still currently drinking a steady amount not excessive but you know it's daily

Hey there I'm - just wanted to say hello

I have the lurgie. Some horrid,unidentifiable virus/germ/flesh eating bug. I want to drink but I'm in bed keeping warm. Think it might be Mother Nature's way of reminding me that drinking is a very bad option for me!

Having a bit of a laugh because there is a group of pissed students (high density student area) singing very loudly and very,very badly: whoooo,arrrghhh,owho,wohw etc,etc. I KNOW they are going to keep drinking since the night is young and they have less sense than a gnat ,so lots of sore heads and regrets tomorrow no doubt!

I shall sit in the fabled library area of the bus and try not to breathe germs all over the books and babes

Activates gerolds emergency drop down gas masks oxygen masks as to not catch guggs bug

guggs poor you I hope you feel better soon,
At least before Xmas anyway keep warm lovely

There's a library on the Bus ?! And is there a qualified librarian to run it?