Mid 30's women and the desert that is dating at that age.

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It seems to be a difficult age,

1. not many single men about, the decent ones are married, the ones that are left tend to be single for a reason
2. recently seperated/ divorced men seem to want to play the field and tend to be very bitter and/ or just want to shag around
3. when they are ready for something serious they look a lot younger ( as experienced at work this week, when a portly 43 year old man asked out a hot 24 year old woman who has just started working there, im the next youngest, single person to him, but i was totally over looked)

Bit of an observation, just wondering if anyone had thought the same, or experienced the same.

I cant really see where the OP was bullying, making personal attacks of false accusations though?

She has a history of doing it under several other names, in multiple threads cheese - several other people reported her to MN, they investigated it and banned her. She came back under a different name, did the same things and was banned again.

People have been very upset by her attacks and have left MN because they felt unsafe, so when she starts posting again under a different name it always causes upset and consternation.

I didn't report her this time, several others did though. And MN banned her yet again for her previous repeat offences.

Maybe next time Bant report early and save many of the contributors of this thread their time and effort trying to help.

I think i must have waded into something i dont understand. I cant see where the OP has said anything that is upsetting to anyone, really as far as i can see it was the other way round. The OP hasnt said anything controversial, or upsetting and it was just a general chat thread, im a little confused here.

Cheese it sounds as though OP is banned and has basically outed herself. I assume with details or style of posting, so Bant says she has been banned again. I have no idea myself.

Is there a published banned list?

Im sure ive read lots of posters saying they have been banned and then they come back again, like anyfucker did.

cheese this was a previously known poster who has caused trouble for several posters here over the last year, including getting Bant banned. Her posting style is easy to spot, and she comes back intermittently with a nc and presumably a new IP address.

Presumably if this is all correct and not just supposition, MNHQ will confirm and delete the thread? - otherwise it's a lot of potentially unwarranted mud-slinging at the OP, and an unnecessary derailment of her original thread.

I was wondering the same thing, If there isnt a banned list and there has been no confirmation, its just an assumption from one man.

I cant see where the OP has posted anything inflammatory, it wasnt addressed to anyone in particular, and yet the person who has made the accusations came onto this thread to do so. So hunted it out as it were, didnt report as he should have done, or warn others.

If i were the OP i would be a bit bewildered and not return either.

Bant, could you explain how you are so sure this is from the person you are talking about who is banned? what is your evidence here?

Okay. It was pointed out t

Passthecheese It has been reported. Isn't it best left to MNHQ now?

This thread has gone weird now, which is a shame.

as 49 says, MNHQ has investigated and taken what they see as appropriate action. I agree with them.

I think I will report it too. It should be deleted whatever the case as its gone off topic and wont be of help to anyone.

You sound angry and defensive with a bit of a chip on the old shoulder, OP. Perhaps that has something to do with it...

Why is the portly man so important? I don't understand. Is it a case of how dare he presume to ask somebody so much younger and slimmer than himself, somebody clearly out of his reach? Unkind of people to laugh at his error of judgement.

Bant troll hunting is against T&Cs isn't it? It wasn't up to you to goad the OP on this thread because of who you suspected it was and because of an old grudge. You should have reported your suspicions immediately and kept out the thread.

Thats a very good point. Perhaps Bant should also be reported for both troll hunting and goading?

Also that all makes a bit more sense now of why the OP was getting a hard time and why it seemed to go off on a tangent.

I really don't understand why you cant let it go Cheese. It has been reported.

I was replying to sebsmummy1, who just posted, she hasnt let it go either, if thats what you are calling it.

I am just saying it has been reported. Job done. Surely.

Troll hunting is against the T&Cs, yes. So I didn't. All I did was disagree with her statements that all men in her preferred age range are disappearers, or chase women in their 20s, and I said that men should be allowed to approach whomever they want, within reason, as there are lots of cases of successful May-September relationships. Presenting a different perspective to a post is not goading.

And please don't tell me to keep out of the thread. I didn't insult anyone, I didn't hunt trolls and I simply posted a different perspective - that some women in their mid 30s are single for a reason too, and both men and women should be allowed to date people of whatever age they want without being assumed to be damaged in some way simply because they didn't fancy the OP.

Other people reported her because she is recognisably someone who was banned for bullying other posters before. MNHQ investigated, presumably confirmed it, and blocked her again. I didn't report it as I wasn't sure until after the blocking happened.

I think the OP started getting a hard time before people realised who she was. People were rightly uneasy at her willingness to mock a man who fancied someone else over her and were frustrated by her insistence that she's not upset.

Personally I find it reassuring that the bitter people who pop up every now and again are just the same couple of posters with different names.