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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Stepping Into Christmas With Sobriety On Their Minds.

999 replies

Mouseface · 16/11/2013 13:41

Hello, tis me, Mouse Smile

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits, relationships with alcohol, and/or drugs.

Even if you think your intake has gone up more today than the last or this week than last, come and join us on Gerald, the amazing, always room for more, fully stocked with glorious treats and donned in his Christmas Decorations, Bus!

We are a supportive thread, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now smile and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Addiction Support Teams, or even other support threads, posts like that will be reported if the need arises, so 'Orange Paper supporters' don't waste your time please :)

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken almost four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus, it's filled with (non alcoholic or narcotic) delicious, luxury treats and HUGE fluffy quilts, plus anything else you might need to help YOU get through YOUR day a minute, or an hour at a time.

And, if you'd like to see where this all began - This Is The Reason We're All Here, The Original JWN Thread

And This Is Our Previous Thread, With Links To Those Over The Past Few Years

We hope to meet you soon :) x

OP posts:
venusandmars · 17/11/2013 19:57

isindie when I first heard about "couch to 5K in 30 days" I felt quite optimistic. I though to myself, hell, even I could manage a total of 5K in 30 days.

The I realised it was aiming for 'running' 5K all at once. ALL AT ONCE (did you hear me) in one sitting (or not sitting!). 5k every time you go out. Did you realise this?

Fairenuff · 17/11/2013 19:58

Have you got some plans for travelling Isinde?

I was thinking the other day that it's not acceptable to drink alcohol in the car. I mean, obviously not the driver, but the passenger could neck a few glasses of wine on a long journey. But that's not something that is seen as acceptable in this country (or any, as far as I know).

And yet, there are bars on trains, boats and aeroplanes. What is that all about?

Anyway, thinking of your journey, and the stopovers in hotels. Last time you did so well, have you made a plan or are you too full of mucus to think straight?

venusandmars · 17/11/2013 19:58

Im anal glass sound quite fragile Grin

Imdoingthis · 17/11/2013 20:03

My dog is kinda special Grin

dementedma · 17/11/2013 20:11

indie YES you can do it. And ignore Venus - its not in 30 days! Its 9 weeks and start s with "jogging" ie walking rather quickly for a minute at a time. Honestly, if I can you can. The best app is the NHS c25k one narrated by a lovely lady called Laura. The music is shite but she keeps you on track.
If you can find some one to do it with our it helps a lot. I will start it again next year around March to be ready to run I'm June.
At the beginning I can hardly do one minute but 9 weeks later I do 5k in various times from between 32 to 40 mins.

venusandmars · 17/11/2013 20:33

ma I must have been confusing it with the shred 3 stone in 30 days regime You've given me hope. Nine weeks is ... errrmmm 63 days.... (I think). And 5K is 79.36 meters per day. Oooh I think I could manage that. Bugger me, I think even isindie could manage 79-and-a-half metres per day Grin Grin

dementedma · 17/11/2013 20:38

3 stone in 30 days? How?? Where?? Show me!!
Ummm Venus I don't think you have grasped how it works somehow In terms of metres per day Grin
If we have some non-vegan food on offer, indie will be over that finishing line like a dose of salts!

ruralreynard · 17/11/2013 20:52

Quick check in.
Shite day fuckwit, control freak, aaaah stress.
mouse thinking of you my lovely friend and your DM.xx
Beaches thanks for the mention. Day 4 not picked up yet....
Sorry babes can't nc everyone.
Just don't let that ww win.
BACK LATERXX

dementedma · 17/11/2013 20:56

rural bloody well done you. If you can take on the ww, you can take on control freak. One day, sweets, one day.

spanna41 · 17/11/2013 21:06

Rural Day 4 is so good babe sorry you've had a shite day Sad beat the WW senseless Grin

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SocFish · 17/11/2013 21:46

Morning all
I was feeling absolutely fantastic until talk of canine anal glands...oh jesus. Between that and polishing triangles, my fragile mind is in tatters.

Sorry to not nc. Actually not sure where to start or what to say. I'm too scared to dip my toe into this nuthouse.

Will be back later. Today is Day 5 and it's Monday so should be ok. Anything will feel easier after yesterday and I've poured any remaining wine away so all temptation is gone. Anyway, seems the WW is at the bottom of my pool and locked up in a basement. So she can get fucked.
xxxxx

ruralreynard · 17/11/2013 21:47

Thanks isinde spanna ma sorry I sort of butted in.
This bus moves so fast so much happened since yesterday. Grin
Good luck with the couch potato to 5k isinde love to join you but due to back ops, pelvic ops etc etc doctors orders say no running. Gutted.
Well done soc I am in awe, I could not hold a glass of wine without its contents finding their way down my throat Smile

ruralreynard · 17/11/2013 21:57

SOC bl88dy well done again Day 5 you rock Smile. Keep that WW locked up and throw away the key Grin
How you doing Im

Fairenuff · 17/11/2013 22:14

Hahaha I am loving the 79 metres a day. Even I can do that Grin

Soc never mind dipping your toe in, you're up to your neck in it already. You're one of the babes on this mad, magical, mystery tour. And we're coming to take you away, take you away.

Where do you want to go?

Isinde that's great, just leave your credit card at home and you won't be able to afford to drink even if you want to. Hope it goes well for you. Don't forget to check in on us when you're in the loo Smile

beachestoexplore · 18/11/2013 00:26

As it is past midnight, I expect most of you are tucked up in bed by now. I hope your insomnia buggers off with the WW tonight rural and lets you sleep. Spanna Mama and Im I hope you got through the danger zone and can wake up pleased with yourselves tomorrow. I also hope you are feeling better joey

If I was working to faire's (very efficient and colourful) planner I would be back into amber here. No real battle tonight thankfully, am just as happy to have a tall tomato juice on the rocks with a splash of Tabasco and Worcester sauce. Yum.

I am finding the counting of days has the flip effect of giving me a countdown so am not doing that anymore. I could feel my brain doing the halfway there cheer so instead I am thinking of extending my November to late December, to remove the target date. I am rambling, but I know what I mean Smile. I still want to drink (pretty often to be honest) but now I have this unblemished run that I want to keep too.

Well, if you weren't asleep before.......Grin

ruralreynard · 18/11/2013 01:11

beaches Insomniac alert Grin Grin good idea to take away the countdown effect. You have an awesome run, You are an inspiration Smile
Hmm think I am sleepy now Grin
Goodnight all xxx

Imdoingthis · 18/11/2013 01:17

Why oh why the fuckity did I do it Sad
Chucked a load down my neck before I went to bed eh? I was fine I didn't need/ want it

Just woke up in a mad panic with a mouth as dry as the bottom of my birds cage sigh.....

One day ill crack this fucker not happy

Hope your all tucked up in bed having a good nights sleep back to bed for me x

beachestoexplore · 18/11/2013 01:47

Ooooh, a little bit excited to see people Grin

Im don't worry and please don't bang your head on the window Smile. Sometimes it has happened before we realize what we have done. Don't beat yourself up, the birdcage mouth is punishment enough. Hope you got back to a restful sleep, you too rural. Night lovely babes xx

Imdoingthis · 18/11/2013 01:52

beaches thank you
That was my thoughts exactly how did this happen its a strange feeling, loss of control over my actions

Night

Imdoingthis · 18/11/2013 02:01

If we could bottle these feelings I'd line them all up on a shelf with labels and go along each day and taste them one by one....

I'm remembering the feeling earlier that made me pick up in the first place the one of stress chaos tiredness overwhelmed to much to do kids shouting house a tip ... You were right venus it didn't make any of it better I just need to get up early to jet wash clean up my kitchen before breakfast Smile

Er well tomorrows a new day where this battle continues I can start a fresh

X

beachestoexplore · 18/11/2013 02:26

Wouldn't it be great if we could bottle up those feelings so we could remind ourselves later. I would have a huge shelf of multi coloured reminders! It is really good that you are identifying your triggers and wondering about other ways of dealing with them. Good luck with that jet wash in the morning Smile

spanna41 · 18/11/2013 05:23

Morning Babes

I'm sorry she got you (WW is such a bitch) I can hold your hand today if you want? Smile

Beaches yesterday was a struggle, but I did it and now I'm awake at the crack of a sparrow fart (in fact birds aren't even singing yet) Hmm

isinde safe journey with your trip and I hope your sinus's are feeling better Smile

Soc you really do rock babe, it would have taken all my strength to pour the excess wine down the sink (I'd have been secretly necking it somewhere Confused Glad to hear that WW is at the bottom of your pool - keep her weighed down please Grin

Rural well done lovely. This lack of sleep business is a pain in the arse. I just feel so tired most of the time Hmm

I did 'nothing' yesterday that I should have done, mainly involves sorting the house out, it's slightly out of my control. My 'get up and go' has got up and gone - where, I have no idea. I feel drained, no energy, enthusiasm etc Sad

sorry bit of a naval gazing post Hmm

Have a good day Brave Babes thank you for letting me ramble yesterday - the bus kept me away from WW and for that I am very grateful xxx

Imdoingthis · 18/11/2013 06:37

I'm going in Grin

Wish me luck....

lookingforhope · 18/11/2013 07:50

Hello babes. Day 1 for me - had 3 glasses last night but after a heavy week so feel grim today. I'm - sending empathic hugs. I didn't really crave a drink last night either but had it cos it was there. Ma - if it is day 1 for you can I join you? Stupid thing is I am lying in bed on verge of tears cos cannot face another week in work. Even getting up is a struggle. I have started union action with some others but feel I left it too late ,and it is already so bad I can't cope. Anyway, sorry for butting in but needed to put my day 1 intent somewhere. Well done to all babes staying off the WW, hope there is good news from Mouse later x

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