can you just ask someone for sex?

[secretsatan]

If you suspect that someone fancies you, how wrong is it to just ask them if they'd like some sex?

I'm not up for a relationship at all. But I'd really like some sex.

I don't think subtle is going to work. Or at least it will take too long. Or they might think I want to go out with them.

remind me how this works. It's been a while.

SS, why have you changed the spelling of your name slightly ?

You have nothing to be ashamed of

I'm really sorry, Secretsatan. Everything I've said about you is very complimentary. I've said nothing to make you feel bad about yourself.
Just treat the whole thing as trivial, because it is really. You'll probably never ask anyone again after what happened. Honestly, I'm sorry. I won't write anymore now.

I am at the mercy of the auto capitalisation. I didn't think I spelled it differently. Surprisingly enough this is not my usual name.

Z I xposted with you sorry.

you must have namechanged and logged back in, love

is everything ok ?

OP, i was talking about men in general who don't sleep with any woman who offers, as Zara's theory isn't popular with most posters (and me).

This comment was nothing to do with your situation - if he flirted with you then OF COURSE he doesn't find you unattractive. He has his own reason, possibly an ex he's not decided on. I did say that he should have acknowledged that he did give you signals, just not the right timing for him (or whatever reason).

Ist* She hasn't name changed, she just now has S and not a s.

I am confused

OP couldn't just type a wrongly spelled NN in, she must have namechanged

She has just capitalised her name. That is all.

Its like me going from SP to sp.

that may be so, SP, and I am sorry to labour the point

but if you mis-spell your user name (or mis-capitalise it) then the log-in process will not recognise it

it's a minor thing, just a little puzzle, but strange nonetheless

if I type "MistAllFuckingFrighty" I cannot be logged in even if my password is correct (for example)

perhaps I should take this to site stuff, because it appears there is an anomaly here?

Just happened to notice this happening to another poster on a totally unrelated thread. Maybe there's already something in Site Stuff about it.

well, tbh, I didn't want to go telling tales to HQ if OP has a very good reason to not have her OP searched or for her posts to be highlighted as such

Not my business so I shall shut up now

eh? I'm sure Op has deliberately modified her username, it wasn't some misspelling! why shouldn't she if she wants to - does it matter?

no, it doesn't matter at all, but I did ask her if she was ok and I was met with a frank denial

so then I questioned myself, that I had this username thing all wrong

It's a capital letter. It's the same NN. And tbf, on the mobile site I think I can pick any NN out of the air and post with it. I'm not quite sure where this is going. I think I liked it better when we all talked about beavers.

I'm going now I think. I felt ok about the actual thread, I felt ok about the reply. I don't feel ok about the analysis of how much of a wreck I must be, or how desperate he might have to be to say yes. I'm not in the habit of propositioning random men. It was a lighthearted fun thread and now I appear to be being pulled apart over my NN. You know it's not on my birth certificate, right? I made it up.

Op has already said she name changed for this thread.

So she posted as Secretsatan, then at some point changed back to Regularname, then came back here to post so went into 'My Mumsnet' and in the username box typed secretsatan. As the capitalisation was different she was allocated it as a new name but wouldn't have noticed.

Secret - don't take it o heart, the discussion became, as usually happens, more of a general abstract thing. People were reacting to the weird assumptions other posters were making, but in a general sense, not about you specifically.

"...but why the F did he keep flirting with you?"

Unbelievable. There have been many quite frankly ubsurd responses to this man's apparent audacity in turning a woman down, most of which speak for their own stupidity and don't deserve to be addressed. The above one is at least interesting though.

He turns her down, and is then queried for apparently leading her on. I'll remember this for when I'm next in conversation with a rape victim. I'll query whether the victim could have perhaps lead the rapist on, and see how that goes down shall I? As we all know, flirting must of course inevitably mean you want sex .....or are we only to make such assumptions in relation to men?

of course it is your right, SS

and if you look at my previous posts on this thread I have been more than supportive about the subject matter

just not sure why you would deny a name change on your own thread, but hey-ho

blame me if you like but there is no accusation in my confusion

As I said before, I have noticed the capitalisation thing happening to other posters today. No idea why.

Perhaps there is a glitch. It would explain it.

More generally, there's just no accounting for which harmless, amusing threads are going to go batshit, is there. I'd hide it OP, if I were you.

Indeed, MBL. OP has no reason to feel bad. None at all.

You can stay logged in with your email rather than username in the top field. You can post in the mobile site under a nc while you are logged in as another NN. If you type the name with a capital in the NC box, it'll give you it if it's still unique.

Sorry if I took it personally, but I can't see why it's relevant? I didn't want to be discussing nc protocol. I'm not sockpuppeting or anything. My phone capitalised my name.

This is all a very odd turn.

I am completely happy to accept my ignorance on these matters.

Why does it matter so much to you mist?

If she was to name change to ThisBeaverNeedsWood it wouldn't matter.

It is just a capital letter. Its nothing to do with her been unsearchable as this isn't her regular nn anyway.

PS ThisBeaverNeedsWood would be a fab username if anyone wants it