To dressing gown or not AIBU

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Long time lurker, don't post often but I just wanted to canvass opinion.

I'm due to move in with my DP in the new year, I have a DD of 15 and a DS of 7 and he has 3 DS who live with him. I have always wandered round mine in my underwear whilst getting ready in a morning etc and see no problem with this. It's my house and I will dress how I please and I do have blinds as does he.

This has all of a sudden become a problem for him when I'm staying at his, don't get me wrong I wouldn't dream of wandering around his in my underwear when the kids are about but when they stay at their mums I can't see a problem in me nipping downstairs to grab something out the kitchen etc. DP uses the reason that he lives on a main road ( small rd outside the house, large grass verge then a main rd) and anyone could see me...I just wanted to ask if I'm being unreasonable or not really.

Twinklestein the OP was canvassing for lots of viewpoints. It's a public forum. If you don't want to read something or start a dialogue with a particular poster then try not to quote them in the first place

Yet again I agree with twinklestein (even if she couldn't care less :)

I also don't get the need for the mention of salary or education, the op wasn't asking 'do wealthy educated people think this fits into certain cultural norms', or 'is it okay to flirt with other people?' she was asking if it was unreasonable to walk around the house semi-clad.

And fib - if you don't want to read people's disagreements with your opinions, then either don't read the responses or don't post the opinions..

Works both ways

PS Twinklestein I WOULD ask again about your lifestyle/own relationships.

Because you seem to (again) keep using "many people" as an argument, but that seems very weak to me?

As in: "many, many" types would think someone asking for their monogamous partner not to be in their underwear somewhere where they might be seen is unreasonable?

My.....man sorry I like that phrase plays a team sport. I'd probably be weirded out if there were women wandering in and out when the chaps were getting changed.

But you're claiming ALL of your direct social group would find this fine, or that "many, many" people would?

I think your life experiences are relevant here, Twinkle, because you're claiming that its "universal" that most people think the same way. But to me, that implies you've only had limited social experience.

I mentioned Muslims (or insert other conservative social group) as they are one largish section of people who seem to manage functional relationships in a community in which there are some clothing/gender friendship restrictions imposed.

Bant and Twinkle A forum romance!

Some types of conservative social groups have massive Madonna/Whore tropes underpinning their fabric too. Shall we chat about that ?

Ah, yes. Sorry everyone, Fibonacci is right. Obviously running downstairs to get something from the fridge (etc) is the same as wandering through a public locker room.

Silly me

Mist that's appalling, no-one knew that before

OPs thread is being hijacked!
Anyway, OP, have you actually read this blokes divorce papers? I would get hold of them if I could.

Bant and Mist too. A sort of delightful liberal romantic non possessive collective. Sounds good on paper, but do seem fairly frightening IRL.

Well, you seem to want to use them as an example that strengthens your argument, LifeoFib. Not seeing it, myself. What with me being a fick Norvener that went to a sink Norvern university.

The again, neither are you

*then

Like someone said, what a waste of a fictional top-notch education.

I have come to this thread late, this may have been asked and answered but I did see it when I skim read through so apologies if I've missed it.

What did he say to explain why he felt he did? There's been a lot of conjecture about why he might feel the way he does but what has he said?

I was born oop North too, no need to have an inferiority complex about it

Who me ? I'm quite happy to argue pointlessly with pointless people on t'internet. It's better than watching OCD Cleaners (marginally)

You, however, should know better

It's not 'liberal' (if that's a dirty word?) to say one should be allowed to wear what one likes in your own home - or what is soon to be your own home.

In fact it's fairly ultraconservative to say that doing that makes you some kind of flirtatious swinger, isn't it?

We're not all coupling up here, fib, we just mostly disagree with your opinion. It's not some pre planned pinko conspiracy, it seems that most of us think you're wrong.

Of the 40 or so posters on this thread, most (37?)think the OP is NBU. That seems like the huge majority to me

I knew it, working class done good-ish. Hence the need to shoehorn in the CV and weird distate of middle class liberal mores.

Stranger - you pinko commie liberal you. :)

Ha ha Stranger - good one! Although not every single northerner is working class, I think.

Bant ! I was only hanging around until you asked me for a bunk up behind the bike sheds

OP you sound like your instincts are making you wary on this one. I think you should listen to them.

Fwiw, dh thinks it's hilarious when I streak past our bedroom windows. Neither of us especially flirt with other people but we are both secure enough in ourselves and our relationship to let the other live their lives, form friendships, have other people find us attractive possibly wishful thinking now we are old but I'm sure it happened in the past He would be absolutely delighted if I answered the door to him in my pants

Yep, I'm just slightly sad there isn't a conspiracy - I've been opening and closing my curtains for the past 30 mins trying to signal to any passing bearded, Guardian-reading men.

My husband has a beard and has flicked through a discarded Guardian on the train.

Fancy a threesome ? I'll even wash your curtains for you.

Sorry stranger - I'm bearded and occasionally read the guardian but I'm probably a bit too far away to see in.