The dating thread 65

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Hi

Have a first date tomorrow so think its time to join you. Weve had lots of great messaging banter, but need to see if its there in RL tomorrow.

I shall call him Funny Guy cause that what hes been so far.

Welcome onceagain good luck with date

Ooh exciting once again

Welcome onceagain, yes I'm the same as you with Donny (his profile name on pof) but meeting him Saturday for cocktails. He's booked a hotel as he lives a bit far from where I live. So far he hasn't mentioned me stopping there with him n that's the way I hope it stays

Sounds great Hormonal.. How long have you been chatting?

Gaga... I think that is incredibly refreshing to hear.. He acknowledged his lack of contact AND had a reasonable explanation... Speaking as a person who's ex has a wonderful ability to make me feel like utter shite at just the right moment I can sympathise with him..

And he has told his ex about you? Wow.. It sounds like he's very much on the same page as you... I'd be patient with him tbh..

poff Yeah I know, I'm not used to such honesty I can do patience

hormonal that's a good sign

Well what with my own bad news earlier and having a commitment all evening that has run on late, I haven't texted Dimples, and it's too late to text tonight now. Plus I can't really decide whether to give him one last shot or not, but if I do it'd be either tomorrow night (and texting tomorrow morning) or next week (with it hanging over me all weekend). Bah.

Hi, have my first date tomorrow (lunch) in almost 20 years...can anyone give me any advice/reassurance? Was really looking forward to it/excited, but starting to worry (a lot!)...

Saturn, the rules of OD, below, good luck on your date, how did you meet him?

The Rules:

1. Develop a thick skin
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon
3. It's all BS until it actually happens
4. Trust your gut instinct
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. Loo update is mandatory

RE rules, to add to number 6, if they aren't trying to impress and are coming up with excuses why they've not been in touch, are vague and non-committal about meeting again, they just aren't that into you. In which case, stop thinking you can get them into you and move on to someone who is keen. I love this clip from SATC:

That's brill livid!! I love sex and the city! So true though.

Lady yes I agree that it's good he's told ex about you, redeems him a lot.

Poffed well I was chatting to Donny for awhile earlier this year but never met up. His attitude towards me is totally different this time around.

I also have a couple of other options. A guy I went on a first date with, who I liked but just didn't seem to want to make time for me so I got bored. He started texting again.

And another guy from Pof who I quite like n exchanged numbers

*not want to make time

Morning

Broken that doesn't sound disinterested to me. He sounds like he does want to meet up.

Hormonal always good to keep options open.

Saturn and Onceagain good luck today.

OneDay what did you decide to do about Dimples.

Lady it's great that he is do honest about what's going on.

Sorry if I missed anyone.

One of the three guys I am interested in meeting has asked me for coffee Time and date to be arranged. I must get onto him after work. Woo hoo. Good start to my Thursday.

Broken he sounds up for meeting. He's probably just giving you some warning that he can't stay all night, with the train/station thing.

Guess what? A new guy chatted to me yesterday evening, not totally my type but funny. He told me to get changed and he'd take me anywhere - so i did! Got a bus into town, had some drinks and a laugh and got the bus home alone, tempting though it was..I've broken my OD cherry!

Not sure I'll see him again but it was a good night and stopped me thinking about ex, also made me more prepared for tall solicitor on Saturday.

Oh and I have another who is good looking and intelligent but only 5'8", I'm 5'7" but he is cute..

Shocking hangover this morning too!

Stupid boo to the hangover but woo hoo to popping the OD cherry. Glad to hear you enjoyed yourself. Fair play on bring so spontaneous.

*being. Stupid phone.

Geeky guy has been on POF today. Feel like having a little cry . I like him.

Ah Dontcallme ... Really?
This begs the age old question though, weren't you on it too? I know we only go on to check and see if they have been but maybe he's doing the same?

Stupid.. Love that spontaneity too.. Good woman yerself

Feck... One of my posts didn't post! It was a long and insightful one too lol.
I was saying that Donny sounds like an exciting prospect Hormonal, especially seeing as you've chatted previously... Nice to have a couple of others on the back burner too to dilute the nerves

Good luck on the dates today ladies.. Saturn, I reckon the most important rule for date number 1 is to remember you're the prize, just be yourself and all will be well.

Livid I think your postscript to no 6 should be added to the rules permanently... I'm still awash with confusion about pof guy...
I can't put my finger on it, texting has been sporadic, on my part as much as his. The closer we get to the weekend the more frequently he's texting.. (We're due to go away for a night on Saturday)... Do you think in a lDR this tends to happen? That the communication ramps up a bit the closer it gets to meeting up again?
My gut tells me this is a long term FWB situation tbh.. I feel like we're stuck in this cycle and unless something changes location wise it's going to fizzle

Hi everyone

I'm feeling a bit jaded just now
I've been on POF for a couple of months now and been out on about 7 dates , all so far have been a major disappointment one way or another!

I was due to meet someone for a coffee tonight but I told him to forget it, I just want a second opinion that i wasn't being too harsh!

We had been messaging for a while but he just seemed to send one line replies, although pleasant and friendly enough - he suggested meeting up first.
He then had to go away for work so I didn't hear from him for a couple of weeks, but you can have internet connections everywhere unless he was going to Mt Everest right? So this is strike one.

When he got back in touch he fails to mention meeting up again until i prompt him - strike two.

We try to arrange a time for coffee and he says any lunchtime(?!) or any evening. I reply fine how about Thursday 8pm.
He replies oh sorry I can only manage between 5pm and 8pm!! wow, how flattering to "allocated" a time slot! - Strike three and he's out!

Hmm, I just wasn't feeling the enthousiasm from him so i told him to just leave it.......am i being too picky??!