The dating thread 65

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Twodays I'm like that with photos too. Provided I can look at the pics and not think "euw, no" and preferably read something interesting in their profiles I tend to give them a chance. I've found it impossible to gauge chemistry until meeting anyway.

I honestly don't have loads on the go It's just that since I got caught out with man2 (who I saw 4 times before he started making the "busy" excuses), being exclusive to him before we're even at that stage, I now keep my eye out for other potential dates whilst dating another. It's to stop me getting fixated by one too early. Besides, there's not a huge number of my type of men out there, and the caliber with OD is pretty low in my experience, so I'm treating it as a numbers game now. The only one I'm seeing (and sleeping with) at the mo is MrK (man 5) and TBH I'm not sure i have the enthusiasm to trawl for a while. It can be a PITA and rather draining I find.

our first date lasted from 3pm to midnight. We snogged a lot and had a long conversation about how we didn't do casual sex (initiated by me!). Second date we got v drunk and had sex. Third date was sober sex, as was date four. So going well!

Going well indeed Dont I really do beleive you have to do what feels right at the time (unless it's to go into psycho mode of course) and sod this "we can't have sex too early or we'll look like slags" [hmmph!] My experience is a guy is either into you or he isn't, regardless of how quickly you shag him. so enjoy each other

I agree livid - I think it's still true that neither of us do casual sex - I think early on we knew it was going to be more than that. I think he actually likes me more now!

Just got in from night out with friends after which I went to see gap yah. No dtd but there was ahem other stuff and omg it was amazing

"Other stuff" sounds fun Queen

Gaga - he sounds crap and you deserve be treated as his priority. His ex should not be controlling your time together. Big virtual hugs being sent your way xx

Dont - you sound smitten :) enjoy it!

Queen - sounds like fun! I'm jealous!

I've been chatting to a guy on POF for over a week now, his profile is really funny and though not astoundingly hot he's not unattractive either. He's visiting his family this weekend and he text me this morning to tell me he'd logged into POF last night to show his mum a pic of me! I'm not sure whether to be flattered or creeped out!

That's a bit odd, penguin - what would he have done if his mum disapproved of you?

I mean, I love my mum and all, but I wouldn't be showing her profile photos of a woman I'd never met. For many reasons.

I'm with bant on the issue of showing his mun the photo, just weird
I had seen supermarket man for 8 weeks and had just mentioned him to my mum let alone show her a photo.

I sent him a message just now saying how I couldnt carry on like this, being second best etc

no reply yet

can't muster up the energy to get back OD again yet

Gaga - I'm so sorry, I hope he gets in touch soon and grovels for all he's worth.

Bant - what's going on in your world of dating? Are you still abroad?

It is a bit odd showing his mum the pic! But then maybe he is inexperienced at OD? Or maybe I'm just making excuses for him because I don't want him to be a mentalist?! I will reserve judgement til I've met him - not feeling too promising now though!

Has anyone tried the Tinder app??
There was an article about it in the Guardian today singing its praises but it sounds a bit scared to me.

Okay, so got a big long message from him... Usual cliche's, apparently I'm an attractive proposition.

What a shit week, stuffed up a job interview and now this.

bant come on regale us with dating stories

I need dating stories to cheer me up now ladies, so come on, details please

Gaga - wtf? An attractive proposition - what is that supposed to mean? Did you reply to his text? Hard as it is I think you need to ditch him, he is not treating you with the respect you deserve.

We all need to believe there is better out there for us! One of my male friends refers to my OD experiences as the fridge door philosophy - you open it and decide you don't like the look of anything but then get desperate and open it 20 minutes later and decide the cottage cheese doesn't look so bad afterall! I must stop settling and wait for someone exceptional. I don't think I will find him on POF

Alright then.

So I was in a long distance thing with Mermaid for a couple of months I think - I went out to the US for work and stayed with her for a couple of days, it was very nice, then got back to Europe and continued trying to skype her at 7am my time, 10pm hers, and after a while it kind if became impossible to keep up. I'd be traveling, or I'd have my kids, and then we ended up having an argument about something and it all came to a head - the impossibility of a long distance thing, and I broke it off.

Which was a bit pants, but I didn't want to end up turning down local possibilities while holding out for someone 6000 miles away who I only saw twice a year.

So I went back to the sofa for a while, met a couple of people in real life, one of whom turned into a FWB for a few weeks.

Then a couple of weeks ago I was emailed by someone very nice, seemingly attractive and interesting and I met with her last Sunday for coffee, which turned into drinks, and going for a meal. Saw her again on Tuesday, another meal and a kiss goodnight.

She was in Vienna when she mailed me one time, so I had that 80s song in my head, hence she's called UltraFox.

3rd date is planned for Monday. She's stunning, interesting, laughs at my jokes, quoted Eddie Izzard to me on our first date, and she is completely out of my league. But seems to like me.

So there you are. I seem to be smitten. Early days though. If she disappears, I'll be a bit crushed but if I was feeling 'meh' I'd not have asked her on the second date or waited nervously next to my phone for her answer so..

Right I'm just back from my 1st date with OKC guy. Plus points he gave me compliments and was quite funny. Negative points he was late - he did text to say so, but he only lives a 10 min walk from where we met whereas I drove 25 minutes and was on time. He also admitted to owning more than 1 Dalek.

He has asked me out to dinner next week though.

bant you dark horse... Fancy keeping that from us
However don't start even thinking that she is out of your league, she clearly doesn't think so and that's all that matters.

super you are right, I'm not putting up with him treating me like that, think I decided that last night, so now it's over.
Attractive proposition aka just because I have a decent job nice house etc what a shallow bastard.

That's cheered me up.

Taking - I'm on Tinder, just started this week. I like it, I rarely click yes on anyone without mutual interests/friends so it's less scary. Also there's no wondering about making the first move.

However my best prospect must have had the app open in the airport before he flew 3000 miles home! But we 'matched' before he left and have been chatting since then, it's been fun.

Oh Gaga sorry things haven't worked out for you. It's his loss I think.

Well back from my first date with Mr browneyes. When I first saw him I wasn't keen as he didn't dress how I'd like a guy to dress and his hair was a bit messy. When we sat down for coffee and got chatting I started to like him, he had really nice brown eyes and longish eyelashes which made him quite endearing. We then decided to move on for a drink and we sat close and ended up having a snog it seemed ok to do it and pub wasn't full.

Anyway we chatted outside my house for awhile and talked of a second date both pretty keen.

That was at 5.30 and not heard anything yet.....but he's online not sure what to think really.

Good luck Broken, might try this Tinder

Bant - you busy boy! Good luck with Ultrafox.

Lahti - I hate it when they're late - they should be early!

Gaga - you've dodged a bullet. You can do lots better!

Broken good luck!

Hormonal - sounds like a lovely date! But frustrating he was online so quickly. Maybe he was just checking messages? That really is the crap bit about OD, constant temptation to see what else is out there...

I'm watching Notting Hill this eve. Romcoms only make me more depressed about life!

I know Super, I ended up texting him first too

Ooh broken, a bit geeky is good

Geeky is great :D amazing kisser is even better!

Did he reply, hormonalhell?

super, watch an action movie instead!

I've been messaging 3 guys, 2 seems to havw petered out which is fine as I was more interested in the other one, Jammy. We're texting now and he seems keen, keeps dropping what seem like hints about coming to my city so I keep being very encouraging but still no actual asking on date! Is he just making sure he won't get knocked back, is he very slow or is he just not that interested?!