The dating thread 65

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girlie our first date lasted from 3pm to midnight. We snogged a lot and had a long conversation about how we didn't do casual sex (initiated by me!). Second date we got v drunk and had sex. Third date was sober sex, as was date four. So going well!

Forgot to add - I fully intended to date others, but cancelled them after meeting geeky.

gaga I would be really fed up about that too. Hope you're ok and get some answers soon.

Hi All. Oh gaga that's pretty crap. Red flag indeed. Seems to be pandering to the ex a bit too much.

Went on a few dates with a separated guy, we could never go to his house as he was staying with a friend. Hmmm I wonder now if he was still at home with the ex.

Jarlin if I go for coffee I'd usually wear skinny jeans, pumps and a nice jumper, shirt or top. Best of luck with first date.

Gaga,are you 100% certain that they are actually separated? If he is telling the truth then it is very difficult for him,especially if his ex is threatening to make it difficult for him to see his DCs if he continues to see you-what are the chances of her EA not being able to affect him anymore in the short term?If this is not likely,then, I am afraid it does not look promising.

I should point out the index/ring finger thing needs millimetre precise measurement - it's not immediately discernible.

And it's the only physical correlation to penis size apart from race - Indian and Asian men tend to be smaller than Caucasian/African, who themselves are generally similar.

That is all. Everything else is apocryphal and anecdotal

Dontcallmehon where did you meet this chap?! I am slightly - it sounds like lurvvve to me

I feel really out of the loop when it comes to dating as not had a boyfriend for about 6 yrs and not had sex for about 4 . Had a few first dates but this is the first one to get to the elusive 2nd date. Am thinking a snog maybe on the cards for date 3 unless he screws it up before then!!

Its quite hard to find time to do all this dating, my dd has no contact with her dad so have to rely on my mum to babysit which is a bit

Hmm Bant I think this chap looks a bit Asian/ Malaysian maybe thats where he gets the small hands and feet from.

I am seriously going to faint with shock if he turns out to have a massive willy!!

Nice to hear you're still glowing after your ons Putit... Would he be worth re-visiting?

Don't think he'd be interested Poff We didn't exchange details and when he left the next morning I drew him a map of how to get home and it didn't even cross my mind to write my mobile no. on it. However from the few details he gave me I have found him on Facebook He is much younger than me and was obviously just up for a good time, like I was. It was so lovely I guess it would be a shame to spoil it by getting in touch and getting knocked back!

Crumbs, I don't read this for a day and it's all happening isn't it.
Jarlin I'm 45 so a similar age to you, but I'm after something very casual so probably in a different boat to you. If I fancy someone I'm definitely into snogging them on the first date (no point seeing them again if their style jars with mine I reckon, and I get them into bed pretty soon too for the same reason)

Gaga - yes, he's the mayor of redflagville. You can't date a bloke who will put his exes wishes over yours, or his own
Yup, I agree with you Bant. What a shame he cancelled, Gaga
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Well, my dating has been a bit up and down. The good was with MrK last Saturday/Sunday; a very affectionate shagfest where he had trouble prizing himself away when it was time to go home, followed by him initiating contact (silly texts) every day since. He's just let me know he's free to come and visit tomorrow and can leave work earlier than expected. Yay!

The bad was I cancelled the date today with "R" because he was just too full on (too much unwanted contact, putting me on a pedestal, rather humourless, etc) and briefly had arrangements to meet Mike (OD man 7) before I cancelled him for exactly the same reasons. WTF is wrong with someone when I tell them I don't want long phone chats every day yet when they call they end it with "chat later", which when I query it means later that day (in about 4 hours time!) He also kept telling me what I wanted out of life rather than listening to me, kept interrupting me and generally irritated me immensely. And he thought we were getting on great!

The 3rd bad this week was I was due to go on a date with "S" (OD man 6) at midday on Wednesday but when I text at 9.30am to check all was OK he text back "Sorry I can't meet you". No explanation, nothing. I don't think there would've been fireworks so luckily I was more bothered by his bad manners than by the date not happening.

Hi all sorry behind with the thread as had puking kids for past 3 days, very grim

On a happier note I have a coffee date with a guy I been chatting to a week. I like his pics n we get on well so my fingers are crossed, it be a nice end to a shit week !!

Am gonna catch up now

Wow Livid! Don't know how you manage to keep track

Oh hormonal poor you and DC's, could well be a nice ending to the week

Thanks bant and everyone, red flag indeed. I text him back to say he clearly needs to sort stuff out as it's not fair on either of us, and I need time to think, that was this morning.

I was half expecting a bloody reply at least, nothing bit of grovelling would be nice

Sounds like a busy week, livid

:( Gaga - he really should be grovelling right now! Sorry he's been so rubbish.

Hope you have a better week, hormonoal

Girlie I met him on POF - there are some gems on there!

Ex was here with the kids today and was moody with me when I got back. Lo and behold,I check my internet history and he's been looking at my threads on here and my facebook - which I accidentally left signed in. Such an invasion of privacy. Waves if ex is reading this.

I keep a note of who I've met and when so that I can keep track of the numbers of dodged bullets I haven't actually got 7 on the go (apart from anything else I couldn't handle having to remember who was who, LOL); met 3 men only once (I didn't want to see them again), one I saw 4 times until he lost interest (he was fun though!), one cancelled the 1st date with me, one I cancelled the first date, and one (MrK, man 5) I'm on date 3 with tomorrow. It's all gone quiet now though as there are no new men I like online, which is a shame because I don't like all my eggs in one basket until things get serious with one If this guy loses interest I'm giving it all a rest for a while though as the 2 intense men really drained me; I'm usually happier being single TBH.

Yes small feet chap is a POF one, I have found POF to be better than match.com which is a bonus as its free My friend met her fella on there and they are getting married next April now!!

Flipping cheek of your ex though -

I've found pof to be dreadful quality, also can anyone confirm if you have to pay to keep your profile hidden?

dont I'd be furious my ex did the same, and threw what he read back at me for months.
Have you got a smart phone? You can get an app called gotya it takes a covert photo every time the code is put in incorrectly or even picked up!

I had some classic photos of my ex snooping at my phone, truly hilarious.

That sounds fab Gaga!! Wish I'd had that 2 years ago when splitting with my exh

Dontcallme that's wrong on soooo many levels. How dare he! ??

Jarlin, I met my FIANCÉ!!! (Still practising!) online and I couldn't decide whether I fancied him, all the other boxes ticked but I had to keep looking at his pics. On one he looked gorgeous but not so on a few others.

Even on out first date I had to keep looking at him! Now I think he is the best looking man I've ever known. He's just beautiful. Give him a chance, I always had a disclaimer in my profiles -'I look better than my photos!'.

About photos - as long as I'm not repulsed (and I am by quite a lot of them) or they're not doing something stupid like holding a dead fish, I presume that they're possibly alright and worthy of messaging. I do get a bit suspicious if there's no smiley pics though as could indicate bad teeth.

I've got several on the go at the moment, l prefer it that way too Livid. None of this eggs and basket nonsense for me Still at the messaging stage, but there's 3 I'll likely meet up with, probably next week after I've had my roots done

Lady Hope you're okay.

gaga that's a brilliant idea. Hope you're ok today :) ex has looked at my phone before, he just can't help himself.

I end up feeling as if I've done something wrong. I thought about changing my username on here, but he'd work out who I was and why should I? If he ever searched my posts on here he'd quickly realise exactly why we're not together anymore, even if he won't admit it to himself