The dating thread 65

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

The closer we get to the weekend the more frequently he's texting.. (We're due to go away for a night on Saturday)... Do you think in a lDR this tends to happen? That the communication ramps up a bit the closer it gets to meeting up again?

I don't do the frequent texting thing, Poffedoff, but it sounds normal to me that there would be more contact the nearer the date.

Broken he sounds up for meeting to me

Cynical, if your gut is telling you something's amiss, you've done the right thing to listen to it. Two weeks without contact is odd for a start (to me it's a "he's just not into you" enough red flag), and why does he only have until 8pm? Has he said?

I wish my face would calm down after blowdrying my hear. It's a heart attack shade of red!
Stick your head in the freezer, Pow, that's what I used to do when I had a hot red face before a date

saturn glad it went ok! did you fancy him at all? Was there any spark? Just trust your instinct, if you had fun, felt comfortable then that's a start.

It is always really hard to tell after one date, but if you came away feeling good, then there is no harm in a second date. Or if It was just meh.. Then don't bother!

Good luck powpow as soon as you hit the cold air! sure you will be fine

stupidhead another one for saying date them all! why not chances are you can eliminate a few straight after, narrowing it down.

Keep your chin up hormonal you never know when a good date is around the corner! as in Saturday

28 texts... He is definitely into you dont exciting

Normality has resumed with texts between me and supermarket guy, he appreciated me understanding the circumstance and offering support
and distraction in the form of sex

Oooooh I love that kind of distraction too Gaga,glad things are back on track

Saturn sounds like a nice date anyway, I know I've had a good date when I'm waiting for the first text after it!

Ok I am in date #4. Loo update soon

Oh exciting, Queen!

Good luck Queen.

Thanks for your lovely welcome last night, Poff.

Sadly, I've been at work today and so unable to contribute. I've had a couple of glasses of wine now and so my brain isn't working properly, so I'm still unable to contribute.

Just one little thing, if a man invites you to his house for dinner on a first date, that's not a good sign, is it?

I'd say not, folk girl.

Just as I thought

Damn he's so good looking and charming. Men like that never turn out to be the bad guy, do they...

folk I would be wary of that kind of invitation for a first date, why would you invite a stranger to your house for dinner
I only invited date back after 3/4 dates, actually we had dinner out, but dessert at mine, in more than one way

Oh don't worry, I have no intention of going!

Thanks gaga, really like him and he kissed me and certainly wouldn't mind more kisses like that

Hormonal - he has e-mailed me a few times this afternoon/tonight!

Sorry I haven't really much else to contribute...so new to all this ...

Oh well that's good Saturn he obviously keen on you. When's date 2?

Where's these updates? Keep checking in

Just home from date. He has to be up at 5 in the morning. Nice guy, chatted away but I just don't know what to think. If he asked I'd see him again but wouldn't be upset if he didn't ask.

He's just e-mailed and said he'd try to see me after work tomorrow (depending on his work) don't feel worried sick about it tonight like I did last night...just excited! That's a good sign isn't it?

saturn that is definitely a good sign be careful when they say 'try' get him to confirm one way or another... Just so you are not in limbo all afternoon putting other plans on hold

powpow did you fancy him? Was there a kiss to go on? I've never had a first date which has been wham bam type of stuff, but others have. If you enjoyed it and think maybe then what's to lose with a second date

Oh fss. Ok so really good date seeing a film. Great conversation as usual. Went back to his house and hung out with his housemate for a bit. Good times. I called it a night and went in the kitchen to ring a cab. He came in and hung around awkwardly like he didn't know what to do. When the cab came I kissed him goodbye, on the mouth. I'm now in the cab wondering whether it was a good idea or not.

He did reciprocate. I think. Oh god.

Wow! That's progress though Queen I give you 10 out of 10 for patience!!

That's good Saturn, like Gaga says try not to wait around for whether or not he'll be there. I suppose if it's work he won't know til he's done

That's true about not feeling much on first date. I think I have never felt a spark with anyone on first date and I've had 30+ dates now

Powpow no kiss then?

I got annoyed about it and text him that I didn't know if he was attracted to me. Responses were gushing but also about his he doesn't know what I want.

Sorry dating thread I've not been keeping up - had a bad week generally with just a few different issues in my life piling up at once. Going out with housemate guy tonight though had a lovely phonecall with him last night - shock, me talking on the phone - and looking forward to a good night out to forget about a rubbish week.

Dimples I feel a little guilty about. I couldn't decide if I wanted to see him again or not, or if it was just because housemate guy was on the scene, and that is still early days and has some fairly big concerns about whether it's a go-er or not. What with the other stressors in my life I couldn't get my head around the situation, so I chickened out slightly and didn't really make a decision. I sent a text saying sorry I hadn't been in touch sooner, that I'd had some bad news and a lot on, and maybe we could get together one night next week. He wrote back immediately saying sorry to hear that, that I could call him anytime if I wanted to talk (what? we don't even text much!) and he understood if I needed some time. Dammit, he really is a nice guy. I feel horrible.

I did buy a very-short-introduction book on Christianity. Figured I should be informed to tackle the religion issue with housemate guy.

Morning. No kiss for me. I just find the end of first dates really awkward. I almost want to run away! Have had the unbelievably chemistry on a first date once out of 40+ dates. I need to realise that that is rare and I should not write guys off so quickly when I don't feel that. Last nights guys was attractive. He's 5'11 (which I know is tall enough) but I like really tall guys. Have been ruined by going out with a 6'5 for 7 years. All guys seem short in comparison. I'm really short 5'3 so really need to get over the height thing.

Hello everyone

My date yesterday was okay - he was nice enough, but I didn't fancy him at all. He'd put on about 3 stone in weight since his profile pic had been taken, which wouldn't have been a problem if there'd been some attraction could have exercised the flab off him somehow but it wasn't to be.

Need to find some time to send a few messages to drum up some interest - its all so labour intensive after the first flurry drops away.

To anyone on Match:

How do you keep track of emails to and from someone if you have lots on the go at the same time, as it were? On POF its simple - all kept together - but on Match its received and sent boxes (like email) and I'm struggling to keep organised and not finding it easy to follow conversations I'm having

Am I missing something? Or making it more complicated than it needs to be?

Queen Can't wait for the next instalment.

Queen it was about time one of you made a move... I would have done the same tbh... I can't make out your second post though, he said he wasn't sure about how you feel or how he feels?