I'm bored at work so I thought I'd extend the rules/guidelines to deal with date-specific questions.
Like:
First dates:
- Men generally don't care what you wear unless you're in a cloth sack or dungarees. It's good to look good, but it's more for your confidence than something the man will notice.
- Some alcohol is good, not too much. Coffee-only dates are generally quite sterile, so one or two drinks lets you both relax a bit without getting too horizontal.
- If a man invites you to his place, or wants to come to yours for the first date, he is after a quickie. That is all.
- The old tried-and-tested emergency phone call still works if you need to get out of there. Choose a place you know, if you can, and don't be afraid to tell the staff if you're feeling threatened.
- Generally, a place for coffee-then-maybe-drinks-then-maybe-dinner gives you multiple options for having to get home to the kids if things aren't going well on the date.
Second dates:
6) Second dates are for seeing whether you like them a lot. This can happen on a first date too, but if you're not feeling 'it' by the end of the second date, then it's probably best to call it a day
7) Second dates give you more understanding of whether the man has a 'set-piece' performance he rolls out on first dates. Those monologues about working with children in India, the funny stories - on the second date he may have nothing left of interest to say.
Third dates:
8) Third dates are generally accepted as getting a bit, or very, physical but only if you want to. There are notions that a man will shag and disappear after a first date, third date or a twelfth - this is of course possible, but the greater the emotional connection, the less the chance of disappearance. Emotional connections take time, whereas physical chemistry is fairly instantaneous.