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Dp makes me jump on purpose

94 replies

bordellosboheme · 15/10/2013 23:04

Is he a twunt? Angry
I just came in from a 40 minute drive. It was dark outside, it was dark in the house and dp was standing there trying to give me a little shock as he put it. Surely this is the behaviour of a 12 yo? Not a 57 year old? Can someone explain him to me please?

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bordellosboheme · 15/10/2013 23:04

Oops 47 I mean. I aged him by a decade. He deserves it!

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SweetSkull · 15/10/2013 23:06

I would absolutely hate it.

Ikeameatballs · 15/10/2013 23:06

Ex-p and I used to do this to each other all the time! It's not one of the many reasons that we split up.

runningonwillpower · 15/10/2013 23:08

Why are you even asking?

That's twunty behaviour in a grown man.

mikkii · 15/10/2013 23:09

DH claims I sneak up on him to make him jump. I don't, I just don't stomp like the rest of the household (including my elephantine daughters)

Gruntfuttock · 15/10/2013 23:09

I don't understand why he would prefer to frighten you rather than welcome you home. It just seems a really twisted way to behave. He has a very cruel streak, certainly. It's not behaviour I understand tbh.

PeanutPatty · 15/10/2013 23:10

If he knows it genuinely frightens you and he continues to do it then he is an arse.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 15/10/2013 23:10

I'd hate it. If you lashed out in self defence thinking there was an intruder in your home, the idiot woukd only have himself to blame Grin

SugarMiceInTheRain · 15/10/2013 23:10

I'd hate it. If you lashed out in self defence thinking there was an intruder in your home, the idiot woukd only have himself to blame Grin

SugarMiceInTheRain · 15/10/2013 23:11

Sorry for the double post, and the typo!

FriendlyElephant · 15/10/2013 23:13

I can see how it might possibly be funny once, but if its clear you dont appreciate it then doing it again is not on. I would hate it.

iwasyoungonce · 15/10/2013 23:17

The thing is... I LOVE making people jump. Blush

However, I do agree if he knows you hate it he should stop.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 15/10/2013 23:20

Oh god I hate this! Dh and have made each other jump unintentionally many times over the years - and we laugh about it. But deliberately doing it? No!

I had an ex who thought it was funny to wait outside the bathroom door and jump out at me, when I came out. It really wasn't funny - it scared the fucking shit out of me.

FunkyBoldRibena · 15/10/2013 23:21

I don't understand why any man would want his beloved scared witless when walking into a dark empty house.

BrunelsBigHat · 15/10/2013 23:22

Dp tries to do this to me.

Unfortunately for him I have bat hearing, and he is a noisy fucker, even when he thinks he is being stealthy.

Nob.

If he succeed he would start to piss me off very quickly.

TwoStepsBeyond · 15/10/2013 23:25

What a twunt. My lovely housemate used to say "I'm just coming in, don't let me make you jump" whenever she came into a room. She and her parents were all prone to scaring each other, so they made a special effort not to. That's what people who love each other do. Making a particular effort to scare the shit out of each other, not quite so endearing.

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bordellosboheme · 15/10/2013 23:27

I agree grunt! Can ppl that said they love doing it explain why? It's a little cruel, surely?

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bordellosboheme · 15/10/2013 23:30

That's lovely 2 steps beyond. It is one of a host of odd behaviours with dp. I'm starting to wonder if I've drawn the short straw relationship wise.

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monkeyfacegrace · 15/10/2013 23:32

Its hilarious. I always get dh, spesh after watching a horror film.

Its his facial expression and the way he twitches. Priceless.

wordyBird · 15/10/2013 23:55

Agree with Grunt...

GilmoursPillow · 16/10/2013 05:39

Slightly different, but many years ago I had an ex who would shout "Watch out!" half way across a road when there was noting coming. Of course, I would be instantly alert to a car that was about to run me down and he thought it was hilarious.

I told him he was being a twat because one day he'd be serious and I'd ignore him. Angry

AttilaTheMeerkat · 16/10/2013 06:50

"It is one of a host of odd behaviours with dp. I'm starting to wonder if I've drawn the short straw relationship wise"

What other odd behaviours is he doing apart from trying to scare the wits out of you in such a manner?.

Re the short straw well you likely have drawn the short straw with this one. I would seriously consider your future with this person.

What do you get out of this relationship now?. Why are you at heart actually together?.

Chubfuddler · 16/10/2013 06:58

People who do stuff they know other people hate, and then hide behind it being a "joke" are arseholes. Quite simply.

Driz · 16/10/2013 07:05

I think it's funny. We all do it at work, which can be a little embarassing if it is not the person you intended it to be and just a random stranger however, you don't like it, so he really should stop doing it.

MrsDavidBowie · 16/10/2013 07:08

Dp 54 and ds 14 do this all the time.
They call it the Boo Game.

They've learnt never to do it to me...I hate it.

But it's quite funny when they do it.