Hi all , wanted to start this new thread as a follow on to my 'suspicious behaviour' thread, as obviously his actions aren't suspicious anymore - they're confirmed. He sent me a text last night to say he was safe and crashing at a friends - maybe it's ow, who knows. He was cross that I'd sent him packing knowing he had nowhere to go and I should consider how it is he got to this point. I just texted back that I'm sorry he was thrust out into the cold night but I've been living a cold facade for a month not knowing what to think and he should consider where he should have sought help, ie NOT in the arms of another woman. He's being such a manchild and not taking responsibility for this - he's not even calling it an affair, he calls it 'nice banter'.
Urgh. He's going to see his parents today and I told him to for god sake confide in someone - maybe not his folks but maybe his brother or another friend down there. Men just don't wanna talk do they. Maybe he knows the listener would slap him upside the head.
Meanwhile my 2 ds's have joined me in bed and playing their iPad games so I'm going to start imaging life as a single mum.
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Abneys aftermath - he's gone, what do I do now
abneysporridge · 13/10/2013 07:48
Just found the new thread - well done Abney for being so strong in the face of the absolute shite that your H is spouting. What an arse he really is. Stay strong and look after yourself, you and your DSs are so much better off with out him. "Banter" for fuck's sake. What a twat.
You too, Leaving, look after yourself and enjoy your open fires!
to you both.
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That word 'banter' is so often used disingenuously. Usually as an excuse for bullying, 'it was only a bit of banter'. 
I've never heard it used to describe telling someone you love them and googling how to leave your wife as 'banter'.
If ever there was a word used to minimise stuff, 'banter' is the one.
Has he actually said sorry or shown any remorse? I have read the thread/s but I forget, and so much of what you've said sounds as though you are to blame for this, it is sounding as though he's annoyed with you rather than full of self-reproach.
Hope you're ok Abney.
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Youre doing so well, don't be scared to lean on a few people 
Ps - he's acting like a real knob !!
What a twat.
I'm really excited for the future for you and your dc's Abney.
I know it will take you some time to adjust but your life is going to get so much better.
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