It's discrimination if you don't want to chat to a married man? - well, yes, technically it is. It's also discrimination if you don't want to date an axe murderer, a hamster, or an entitled wanker who would obviously cheat on you.
Wear the discrimination badge with pride. You are very discriminating. Tell him to look it up.
As to the generic message, yes it's annoying. But believe me, as most women expect men to send the first message it can get soul destroying to write a couple of paragraphs of witty prose, referring to something in their profile, introducing me just a tiny bit and asking a question to elicit a response, then sending it off into the ether and never hearing back from 9 out of 10 women. Do that a few nights and you've written a book from scratch over the course of a couple of weeks, with maybe a 'Hello!! You Look Nice!!! Wanna chat? LOL" response back from a couple of people.
I have a relatively generic message, two short paragraphs, and I add a third personalising it to the person I'm messaging. It saves a lot of wasted energy rather than rewriting it every time and saying the same thing. But completely generic is just silly.
Freckled - sometimes people vanish, they're emotionally unavailable or it's just not working. It's rude, but it's them, not you. The thick skin is essential.
Poffed - You've got to open up a bit and make yourself vulnerable if you want exclusivity, you've just got to phrase it diplomatically. Most men in a relationship will just happily bumble along as things are unless pushed. The key is to not push too hard, just enough to get what you want, and clarify the situation. If he pushes back and says he still wants to date other people, or he says he's fine with exclusivity but doesn't delete the profile, you've got your answer.
Hello everyone else :)