The Dating Thread 64

[unBant]

Here we go again...

Oh exciting ladygoinggaga! I would love to hear that word at some point.

Well, I'm telling myself to stay cool and not invest too much. But I do get a little flutter when he texts. Sigh.

Hey thread - if anyone's interested there's an 'online dating' special on itv1 at 8pm (not sure if all regions). Might be quite interesting...

Thanks nice seen it on the planner! will have a look.

dont Yes it is exciting, then he tells me he has invited his ex wife and DS up to see him tomorrow evening, as he wants to check she is alright
I do appreciate his honesty, but if I were his ex I would be thinking it was a chink of light..

Yes I'm watching that too

Don't think I'd be too keen on ex wife visiting either Ladygoinggaga but at least he has been honest with you which is good

Well I'm not sure if I fancy him or not but he seemed like a nice guy! Well I decided to text him today to see if he can fit gas cookers and he replied again very friendly and with a smiley face!

Also I have a a date tonight from Pof, he seems very keen which kinda puts me off if they are very keen. But he also seems sweet and is coming right to my area so that's good.

A lot of guys make me travel into central london which I hate

Ooh I'll watch that thanks for the heads up niceupthedance :-)

gaga I agree completely. He probably thinks he's being nice to his ex 'checking she is alright', but really if he is moving on from their relationship it's not going to help her to have that kind of contact really is it. I always think the last thing my ex did to show he really cared for me was agree to cut contact for a while. We didn't have dc though. How comfortable are you with the situation?

Good luck for tonight's date rubbish
just don't get a load of work you don't need doing from gas man

oneday I am torn over the issue, he is different to men I've seen before in that he seems a genuinely nice bloke who is a bit innocent in certain aspects.

He has been married for twenty years and she is clearly playing him, I think I will let it go without too much fuss this time, after all i don't feel like I can overly comment after 5 dates.

Jarlin yep you are correct! they are the lazy ones working on a sheer numbers game. I only ever replied to messages of people who had actually viewed me, and could formulate a sentence or two.
'Hi' or 'you're hot' doesn't count in my book

Holy crap!
I joined (yeah I know it's probably waaaay too soon after 'him') but fuckit. Been messaged by this really hot fitty, ex soldier. A couple of years younger and he's asking for a date already. I'm crapping myself!!!

Well it looks like I've been well and truly fucked over... Having spent an incredible couple of nights and days with pof guy during which time we both spoke about how much we'd fallen for each other, made lots of plans and basically reassured each other that we're now exclusive, I've just checked pof... He's back on but even worse he's changed from dating but nothing serious to looking for a relationship!

I've never been more gob smacked in my life...never thought I could be played like that but I guess nobody does..

So here's my question... I'm obviously going to tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck but want to do it properly...

Should I just reinstate my original profile ( is that possible?) so he sees I'm back online, let him approach me about it or do I just text him tonight and tell him it's over?

I know it sounds childish but I really want him to pay for fucking me around like this

What a bastard. Before you do anything, are you absolutely sure that he's not a moron and this isn't meant to be some cackhanded signal to you that he wants a relationship?

I think going online and waiting for him to say something is a hiding to nothing. Most people if they want to disentangle will follow the path of least resistance, and that means saying nothing and vanishing. If he has promised to be exclusive and you are sure he's now intending the opposite I think you have to be direct. "I've seen your profile, I'm very disappointed, it would have been polite to tell me you had changed your mind. Bye."

And then dignity!

Oh no Poffedoff what a knob!

Unfortunately for some it's an addiction

Thanks guys... So so so very sad here... I agree that reinstating my profile is a bad tactic, I just wantedti give him the same feeling of shock that I got when I saw his...

I like your wording alittlestranger, it says what I feel but also doesn't give him any opportuntity to get into a discussion about it... I honestly feel he could talk me around as he has a great ability to turn on the charm...

On the other hand I really want to hear what he has to say for himself... Arrrrgghh!

Alittlestranger, I doubt very much it's an attempt to get any kind of cryptic message across to me... Firstly because he doesn't know I'm on pof anymore ( set up a bogus profile which, ironically, I only logged into tonight to delete!)
Secondly because we've just spent the last 2 days talking about how happy we were that we're now in a relationship! Fuck sake, why do they bother?

Funnily enough he left his bag in my car today, we're due to meet up on Friday anyway so I was going to bring it with me... Christ knows how I'll get it back to him now without seeing him... Should I try to stay quiet until Friday and confront him face to face?

What an idiot, sorry poffed. That's rubbish. I agree with the direct approach. Phone or ideally face to face. As long as you can keep your composure. Twat.

Sorry to hear that poffe, he is obviously a knob. I would go for the text as suggested. If there is nothing of value in the bag I would leave it somewhere public, and tell him he can collect it from there.

Morning,

Poffedoff that is pretty crap. Sorry to hear it. If you don't want to say you set up a phoney profile, you could tell him you were with a friend and she was logged on and you saw him online. Jesus this dating malarkey is hard. I'm supposed to have a date tomo night but have lost all interest. Glad to hear others are having a bit of good luck with OD. Gives one a little bit of hope.

Just ask him if he's still on POF...he's fucked whatever his reply is!

Thanks everyone...

I decided to sleep on it before I fired of a snotty text to him... I want to think a little more about what I want to say to the shit him. Just so disappointing after all this time.

Anyway, I'm going to have to get a lot better at reading red flags etc. and not be so quick to fall , powwow is right, this dating game is bloody tough!

Great to hear all the success stories though, it gives us all hope that not every guy on pof is a two faced wanker!

Haha, powpow, not powwow...

Who's the date tomorrow night? Tell us all!