The Dating Thread 64

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Here we go again...

Oh no Ladygoinggaga ! Try not to worry yet though. Hopefully he'll see through her tantrums

ham photos taken in the bathroom/toilet mirror with their top off, my favourite seriously wtf!

Also photos of their tattoos, motorbike, or with their last girlfriend not cut out of the photo properly

broken I hope not... But I do fear the sudden distant texts, I am not normally a pessimist but with dating you have to protect yourself.

Dam it, hope I'm wrong, as I could feel myself falling for him. Must remember the rules!

Lady - I think your bs radar is spot in but I hope I'm wrong

I'm not shoe obsessed but he is! He seems to buy loads of random novelty things inc underwear ( so he tells me). Initially I was a bit er loser ! Then I realised I probably would have more random possessions it's just I was with exh do long and he was so obstructive I stopped trying. I had a really sad conversation with gap yah today who was astonished I didn't collect random crap. He questioned me about it and I deflected. I knew the answers but I don't know him well
Enough to start picking apart how broken I am from my marriage just yet. It put me on a downer all day actually but no fault of gap yah

Also, what's with the selfies in their car??!

A guy has to have his clothes on or else I just delete!

Gap yah told me lots of women do it to plus the tattoo pics - I am at a loss about these!

Have been messaging Tall Guy for about a week - just chat about our DCs and stuff - nothing deep and meaningful, but nice - about 4 shortish messages daily from each of us which is a lot for me.

So last night I get a message asking if I want to meet up - yes I say, but can't for over a week. That's okay he says and we agree a date to meet up but not where/when.

And today no message from him at all. So what's that all about?

I have to say there is a huge leap in quality on a site you pay for, Match for instance.
ham he sounds interesting! but don't let his probably innocent comments get you down. It's a good sign that you recognise you deflected, it obviously didn't feel right to say anymore.

There wasn't enough traffic on match for me - pof has lots of useless traffic but a fair amount of quality too.

I suppose I'm convincing myself that I can close off my past and I can't. Gap yah is quite perceptive which is a bit scary for me though usually I would see that as a positive.

Women's profiles have the selfies too. And multiple horse photos (this is me on a horse. This is me standing next to a horse. This is a horse)...

Close ups of tattoos, cakes, collages of multi-selfies..

Probably have a wider range to choose from, as women take more photos of each other on social occasions, but still it's a bit depressing..

bant interesting perspective from the blokes side, it must be down to a lack of common sense that isn't gender specific
I couldn't imagine putting a picture of a bloody cake on my profile, wtf.

About half the guys today and last night were 'normal' and complimented me on not being orange. Didn't fancy anyone though, good craic but meh..

Do you know what, brokenhearted - you are better than that. Who wants a moaning man? I know you won't believe it now, but there are loads of fab men out there. Since splitting up with ex of 12 years, I have snogged 4 men - 2 who could have potential [one I hope still does].

dont
How very true, when I left my EA ex, my new mantra was 'there are men out there who don't do that'
I now won't settle for second best, in the past I've actually been grateful when men asked me out, my self esteem was that low.
When you have little confidence in yourself it is visible to men, and you can end up going out with unsuitable men.

broken please learn to love yourself first, then when ready to date remember 'you are the prize' not everyone you meet will be right, but that's there issue not yours.

Broken,it is not your fault that your that guy started to moan about his work. It is just how OD goes sometimes.the important thing is if that starts to happen,then you need to say that is not really what a potential new GF wants to hear-especially if is dominating the dates. If he does not stop,then you need to stop seeing him.

if you have issues possible depression,then you need to sort this out before embarking with OD,or things will probably not work out.A date does not want to be a therapist to their date.

I already have a date Friday with Black Pepper Woman and now I have a date with Cheese Woman on Sunday. This is the woman who seems the most interesting and with the most common interests to myself,so I am really looking forward to it!

Hi everyone, how's it all going? My situation is I have two guys that I really like and have given my number to. One I'm meeting Friday and the other a coffee date yet to be confirmed. They both seem genuine and interested so all good at mo

A disappearer has reappeared and now wants to date me (never did before) and has put his phone number on now he knows I have a date

Hi there,

I'm new to all this but really want to give od a go.

Which sites would you recommend? I know it's a vague question but Id rather pay if the sites are better. Although I'm not looking for marriage material, I don't want to waste time with those who aren't single or not really looking for a relationship.

Thanks.

Hey tread

Well I had a gas guy come to my place recently to fix a problem with the meter, afterwards he text me to tell me information that he had already told me at my flat, and said hope you have a nice weekend.

I replied to say thanks, he then replied to say enjoy the rest of your day and have a warm evening (smiley face) do you think he was trying to chat me up abit? As first text had a smiley face second had a winky face.

I have had people round to repair it before and they have never text after!!

No Broken we never actually got to the meeting stage...he just basically wanted to talk dirty to me when he felt like it just ignoring him now .

Feeling I've found POF to be the best n have tried them all, because it's free there's more to choose from really. Zoosk is prob second

I agree that POF is probably a good starting point...A month on there and you will experience most of the highs and lows online dating can throw at you.

Very true Benher

I definitely prefer Pof. Well, I cancelled date with solicitor on Friday. I can't multiple date when I already like someone. My heart isn't in it. Roll on Saturday!

rubbish he defo fancies you. Impressive. Did you fancy him?

rubbish yep he fancies you

feeling another one saying try pof first, there is quantity as opposed to quality, I only went out on one date from pof.
Match isn't too expensive, I did a three day trial for free, then when they asked me to join I refused and ticked the box saying it was too much money, hey presto, next second they halve the price so I took the plunge.

dont I know what you mean I can't double date if I actually like one of them, it's different if you are not sure then it doesn't bother me.

Had a few reassuring texts from supermarket guy, he apologised for heaviness of conversation this early in a relationship.

It was actually nice to hear him say that, 5 dates and I think I've got a boyfriend
He has suggested a night away in November as we both have a few days off work, he is going to book and plan it.