The Dating Thread 64

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Here we go again...

Pauline, the next message would have been 'age is just a number'

Think they are worse than the old lechs

Sounds good Dontcallme

Did u ever hear again from the one who who u had the moment with when u first met?

No, but I'm glad now. I didn't have a moment with geeky guy, but he's so funny and lovely and I fancy him. Plus he lives really near. The best cure for dating blues is to get back out there I think!

Yes I totally agree, Awwww well I hope it works out for you, I got my fingers and toes crossed for you

Dontcallme I'm so jealous too....it's ages since I've been on a date and actually fancied them

It'll happen soon, hormonal! I really hope it works out, but I'm trying not to get too hopeful after last time!

He's a software developer with his own company.

don'tcallme that all sounds really promising, fingers x'd!

So back from drinks with colleague's housemate (really need to come up with better pseudonym there!) I had a wicked fun time! Relaxed, tactile and flirty, and definitely no nervousness with the goodnight kiss. He said he'd like to see me again soon and i have no problem with that...

Dimples went quiet on the text convo earlier (didn't respond to a message of mine with a ? in it) and I just have a gut feeling that maybe he's not that into it.

Oneday that sounds promising with flatmate anyway! I've had similar to what u experiencing with dimples. It's frustrating thinking what went wrong.

Ladygaga how did it go last night? Spill woman!

broken Maybe have a look at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk while you're sitting on the sofa.

I don't follow it but thought it contained some helpful stuff. Are you doing anything to try to help yourself feel better broken?

Broken I think you need to break it down: health, work, relationships, other, and work out what you can do in each area. Dating doesn't seem to be making you any happier so it might be time to sit on the sofa for a bit. What are you hoping to get out of dating at the moment, and do you think you're in a happy enough place to get it? I have to say I do think some counselling would help (and with the other problems as well).

No not everyone follows all aspects of the stuff on that site all the time, but actually most people will follow most of it most of the time. You try and see the best in people and that would be a great trait if you were mentoring disadvantaged children, but you're not. It seems like you approach men and ask yourself "could I date this guy", and try and see a reason for or way around their downsides. The question should be "must I date this guy" - does he make you feel good, wanted, is he free or red flags, are you actually into each other?

Sorry if I'm sounding a little bit obsessed by your posts but they trouble me.

Things are going well I think with gap yah man. Except he has more shoes than me.

broken I'm 35, we are not passed it by any stretch. I say this kindly, but it sounds like you need to believe in yourself a bit more, have confidence in yourself, learn to love yourself first. I spent 18 months single and enjoying rediscovering myself, only now am I venturing into the dating world, as it's harsh, as you have discovered.

On another note, I had 5th date with supermarket guy last night, it's been going well. He came round for dinner last night and mentioned his ex had not taken the news of him dating well.

Knew it was going too well, he texts tonight saying his ex has become unhinged and his DS is having to keep an eye on her as he works away.

Say he is worrying and full of guilt.

Bollocks. The pessimist in me fears 'I'm not ready' conversation coming up.

ham glad it's going well! but more shoes than you

I know it's early days for me and I'm probably bit ready but I joined pof.
Bald men with dogs that look like them, bald men doing selfies in the toilet, bald men topless with bad tribal tattoos and get this,3 x bald men with black eyes - wtf??!

I scrolled through the match me thing just clicking no, no, no, no, no,...

Think I'm just looking for a guy who looks like my ex. Never mind, it's passing the time.

So I'm not the only one who gets bald men from Basildon wanting to meet me on POF?!

Hamwidge is this because you are not a very shoe-y kinda lady, or because gap yah has an inordinate number of shoes?

I'm nearly 35! I don't feel like I've missed the boat!

Yeh the shoe thing..... There's more erm.....quirks but I wouldn't out him. He's v funny and texts all the time about random things never sleeve just a shy compliment now and then. If he turns out to be gay I'll get over it I like his company

I have banned toilet selfies and listed my feelings on my profile - they look absurd!