Hello. Sorry, I always feel like I'm just jumping back in when I need some advice...but I need some advice. (Bant - male perspective would be very much welcome please)
Been seeing SnS for a little over 2 months now. We met on POF, hit it off really well, see each other once or twice a week, usually including an overnight at one of our places. We eat, we cook, we talk, we watch films, go for walks up big hills - it's all very, very nice. I like him a lot and I really enjoy his company. Whenever we spend time together I always have a good time and we always seem to have things to talk about. Sexual chemistry is also pretty good, although a few wee glitches but nothing I don't think we could resolve given a bit more time. (Actually, his attitude towards this issue is annoying me more than the thing itself if you know what I mean) We don't have a huge amount in common in terms of taste in music/telly etc but again, not exactly a deal breaker. DC know about him but haven't met him yet.
Here's my problem. I get the idea that he's falling in love with me. I think he's probably going to tell me he loves me very, very soon. He's kind of said it already - but in an offhand sort of way that didn't require a response on my part (like singing it while he was cooking or saying it in another language he didn't think I would understand). This thought pretty much fills me with panic because I know i don't feel the same way. I don't know if I will ever feel that way about him. I know that as much as I enjoy being with him, I enjoy being on my own almost as much. After a day or an evening with him I crave going home to my own bed, alone. And I definitely don't want to talk about Christmas or meeting his family (all things he's brought up already).
So what do I do? It's so tempting just to let things carry on until he forces the issue but I know that's not really very fair, is it?