Can I join in? Have been lurking for a while and not joined in cause I don't feel I know enough about everyone's stories but have decided to bite he bullet as I need some sensible advice. Think I know what you'll say but here goes.
I've been separated since May 2012 after being with ex husband for 22 years. In February joined match and chatted to a few guys but only dated one of them. First date we met up at lunchtime. Got on ok. Didn't feel any instant connection, although liked him enough to agree to meet up again.
Next time, few drinks in he suggested that you don't really know if here's a spark there till you kiss someone. I brushed it off the first time then he tried again later which resulted in some very public snogging that turned me into a puddle on the floor. I ended up taking him home and shagging the arse off him (I know, I'm shameless). Anyway, over the next few weeks we saw each other five or six times and always spent he night together at my house or his. I thought things were going ok - I'd not dtd for a fair few years before I split up with exh so it was all a bit of a novelty. I knew really that I wasn't able to completely relax with him but it was still a bit of a surprise when he dumped me by email claiming lack of chemistry.
A few months on he got in touch and we swapped a few texts. Late one night I suggested he let me know if he'd changed his mind about a fwb relationship and he was round within half an hour. Since then. We've met up for sex a few times. But we've not spoken about what went wrong last time, whether this is truly a fwb situation or whether it might become something more. I know I want to ask but can't find the words.
Deep down I know I'm being a mug I suppose but tbh I'm not sure I want much more anyway. I think maybe it's easier to try to make something work with this one than start again with someone else.
Any tips/help/suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
I'm being a twat aren't I?!