Bloody H looking at porn on pc

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Am so mad; he knows I don't approve. I know he uses it, he has done for years but he always makes sure the history is deleted.

Just found some that he's looked at today and it was she-male stuff FFS amongst 'normal' porn. Usually it's 'asian babes'.
Wtf is that all about?

He's very techy and there's nothing in the folders on the pc (that I can see). Nothing on the history or temp internet files either, yet this stuff is on the recently changed files of both his & MY profile (which is how I found it when looking for one of my docs).

I feel like printing the stuff and posting it to everyone who thinks he's a nice chap. Fatheaded Twat that he his.

It's understandable you're angry at him. It does make you feel inadequate. Several blokes I've been with wanked and watched porn. Men love the visual. That doesn't mean they're going to cheat or be an arse to you though..

Buoys, that is not what the OP is objecting to. Like many of us she objects to porn because it is exploitative of women.

You may not agree, but she deserves to have her views respected.

LaQueen - you might think you're 'meh' about your DH watching porn... until you know he is.

If you had read anything about the realities of the porn industry and how women are treated within it, I hope you wouldn't be meh about it.

Read PornLand by Gail Dines

Apologies if I've missed something, but has he paid for porn? That would make all the difference for me. If he's just been a twat and skimmed through free sites out of curiosity that would be a world away from fuelling the exploitation of women by paying for it.

fortyplus - I don't know, a message box appeared on one of the pages from someone and it said 'this site says you're near me' so I'm imagining he's entered some details of locality (message said the person was 3.5miles away).

Not sure if it's random stuff that's appeared or not. I've told him I want to see bank statements etc as finances are separate.

Tbh, my feelings are the same whether he paid or not.

I think he may well see it as 'harmless' if he hasn't paid.

FP, "scrolling around the free sites" is "paying for it"

Like every other site, they have advertisements that fund them

So, using free sites is financially assisting the porn industry just as much as directly paying for it

My pc knows my location - well roughly anyway - it's all down to your internet provider. When I took 'married' off my facebook profile I suddenly started getting adverts from dating agencies and local divorce lawyers

AF I'm not in favour - I'm just saying that he will justify it as harmless if he hasn't paid

when you're going weeks without sex because your H watches porn it's very hard to be 'meh' about it.

Fair enough, FP, and I agree with you. It's not how your 10:08 post came across though.

I can't understand why there's no history or temp internet files, but these pages are in Recently Changed on the pc.

Wouldn't they disappear off the pc when history & temp files were deleted?

Mine was on porn sights nearly every night before he left. It was like watching an over-revved old banger of a car with the hand break on, until he let go of the thing and crashed into the mother of brick walls.

That has actually really made me laugh Lucca22

I bet they do look bloody ridiculous wanking away to a screen.
Well, I've told him that's the last of his sex life with me, not my problem anymore.

My exhusband and this coworker who's 20 yrs his junior are at it like rabbits by all accounts. He said he's truly in love with her, it's the funniest thing because she's still at home with her husband a youngster. I know, seedy........but that's the name of the game. Nothing to do with money, which she wont get her grubby little hands on, cause I'm not moving out of the house. The slags think they can chuck me and my family out onto the streets. Watch him, it sends them quite bonkers!

Lucca, you sound delightfully a bit bonkers yourself

So LaQueen, if your dd's were on his phone / ipad and up popped some lovely "gagging" porn or 18 year old girls being slapped about by a couple of blokes, you'd still be a bit "meh" and cool about it all would you?
My DD had to deal with a 14 year old girl in her class crying her eyes out because some boys had a porn clip on a phone and were saying it was her - she sent the boys straight to the Head after telling them how appalling their actions were.

I don't think that's anything to be "meh" about personally.

TBH op porn is the least of your problems in this relationship. Don't cling on until the children leave home. End it now.

I think women who are meh about their partner's utilisation of the sex industry have simply given up because they know it is a choice they don't have, tbqh

I think you're putting your views on to other women. Just because you feel about it that way, it doesn't mean every other woman does.

Spot on as usual AF

I will NEVER change my views on porn.

For every woman that comes on to say meh about her male partner's use of the sex industry, you could say the same thing, CAN. It's just another example of how women are silenced.

Me neither wot I admire you for your stance.