The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through The Autumn Scenes, Searching For Our Sober Dreams.

[Mouseface]

Hello, I'm Mouse :) Welcome to the Bus, (aka Gerald ).

I'm one of the Brave Babes on board this fabulous Bus of travellers, all in search of their sobriety in one form or another.

We have those who drink in moderation, those who have a set pattern of days on and off the booze, and we have posters who have been sober for minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years.

There are two lines that the Bus has painted down the side, one on each -

The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement and Alcohol Fosters Inertia

So, if you think you're drinking too much or you're worried about another person, then come find a seat.

We get through our days chatting about all sorts of things, life is, after all, full of plenty of things to fuel our desire to drink, and we're all very different people

However, our common goal is sobriety. :)


The Last Thread


The Reason We're Here - The First Thread

[SocFish]

Big hugs from here mouse
Xxxx

[ruralreynard]

Goodnight mouse blowing the candle out here and thinking of you allxx

[dementedma]

indie sorry to hear that my friend. Hope you manage to clear the air.

We were supposed to be having a big roast dinner today but someone forgot to take the joint out of the freezer......BOLLOX!
Wonder how sandwiches would go down.....?

[MrBloomsMarrow]

Hi brave babes. I have a habit of popping on the bus when things are really desperate and then jumping straight off again. There are so many babes I can really relate to at the moment - cider and rural among others. I have a few colleagues who are doing the Stoptober thing. So my plan is to do my own Sober October. Although I rarely post, it's wonderful knowing this bus is always there. I'm sure there are many other lurkers out there soaking up the words of wisdom. Today I will not be drinking.

[Mouseface]

Morning, tis me, Mouse :)

Ma - Buggeration! What a nightmare! Is it beef? Could you very slooooooooooooooooooowly defrost it in the microwave?

MrB - Funnily enough, Nemo is sat watching the rewound Mr Bloom's Harvest special on CBeebies. For the 3rd time! I think a dry October is a great idea :) Day By Day.

Guggs - great post about not drinking being boring etc... it's what you make of it and keeping busy is key to that isn't it? :)

IsinDe - sorry to read that things are a little fraught at home anything in particular or just, life? Hugs to you xxx

Rural - great to see you posting xxx

We're off out to meet with friends and take our respective dogs too, Seth is HUGE compared to their dog. A wander round the gardens and farm animals and then off for lunch. Luckily I've been able to have a look at the menu in advance so know that I can actually have something to eat!!

Have safe and sober days Babes, thank you for all the lovely messages yesterday about the boys, it means a lot to us :) xxx

[Imdoingthis]

I carnt do this anymore I want to lose myself its day 8 I carnt take any more hes making me break I carnt win I miss my baby's I'm scared of losing ones iv got I hate being me its comfort to know I could just make it all go away I'm very sorry for barging in the thread I don't know where to turn

[Fairenuff]

I'mdoingthis you don't have to do anything right now. Just be here with us. Just sit and take a moment.

We can help you.

Stay with us, let it all out here if you want to.

This is a safe place. We will look after you, you are not alone.

[Imdoingthis]

I want to drink so badly, because not drinking hurts when the truths revealed iv his behind drink for years I miss my daughter and my son, its breaking my heart it hurts hes turned them against me, she's so loyal to him hes trying to get my other children its non stop put downs he makes me feel so bad, hes told me I won't wake up sometimes wish I wouldn't I have nothing no one I'm lost

[Fairenuff]

I'm in, 30 minutes without a drink sounds doable.

[Ladame]

Oh ... Just seen this ... Imdoingthis I'm here too with Faire and Indie Hand holding. Next 30 minutes? You can do it, of course you can, stay here with us. Can you tell us a little more about yourself?

[Imdoingthis]

Iv got five here with me hes got the two oldest i won residency of the five with me, it's his manipulation he doesn't stop to point I think there starting to believe him iv done everything for my children still am doing I got them away I saved five of them
I'm hurting so much I don't know we're to start there's so much
My family support him I have no one, I moved away

I think it's him and what he's saying about me that's driven me to not drink it gave me a fight
My daughter won't come see me at Christmas she said she won't leave her dad alone, he's a big drinker too though
I don't feel I will be free from him hes scaring me

[Imdoingthis]

Thankyou I'm trying to not cave in
Do you know what I mean by I want to lose my head ?
I want to block it all out

[Ladame]

Yes, I'm glad to see that what he said gave you a bit of 'fight'. Hold on to that feeling, who the hell is HE to tell YOU what you can and can't do. Why has been posting about her situation. She is being strong for her child, you can be strong for YOUR children. You are their Mother and there is no stronger bond in the whole world.

[Imdoingthis]

I'm at breaking point I carnt take no more

[Imdoingthis]

I carnt fight him I want him to go away leave me alone
I'm ashamed to say before I left him for what he was doing well I was harming myself I'm feeling those feelings I'm sorry

[Imdoingthis]

My daughter since about 11 he just favoured her above the other dc she's his fave rate we have no bond no relationship really its like she don't know me shes so distant

[Ladame]

Try not to connect with him. He's not there is he? Just ignore texts or calls or turn your phone off. Make yourself a cup of tea and try and eat something if you possibly can. All you need to do is stay here with us. Take deep breaths. It will get better.

[Imdoingthis]

Isinde thankyou so much for understanding how I feel

I'm trying so very hard with everything and iv come a long way I left him two years ago, after 16 years controlling abuse rubbish hes a lot older than me i met him when I was 17