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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through The Autumn Scenes, Searching For Our Sober Dreams.

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Mouseface · 27/09/2013 12:49

Hello, I'm Mouse :) Welcome to the Bus, (aka Gerald Grin ).

I'm one of the Brave Babes on board this fabulous Bus of travellers, all in search of their sobriety in one form or another.

We have those who drink in moderation, those who have a set pattern of days on and off the booze, and we have posters who have been sober for minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years.

There are two lines that the Bus has painted down the side, one on each -

The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement and Alcohol Fosters Inertia

So, if you think you're drinking too much or you're worried about another person, then come find a seat.

We get through our days chatting about all sorts of things, life is, after all, full of plenty of things to fuel our desire to drink, and we're all very different people Grin

However, our common goal is sobriety. :)


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Jesseismysecretcrush · 28/09/2013 09:30

Yuck, yuck and ouch. Can someone make me a brew and pass me a blanket.

Managed not to create mayhem but my tolerance has definitely gone down 4 drinks and I was very drunk and feel dreadful today. Not going to cry over spilt milk. Back on bus today, embracing dullness. Hope everyone survived Friday and good luck today xx

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Ladame · 28/09/2013 09:39

Where is it? Where is it? I've been waiting by my gate for aaaages. Hang on, there it is... Heaves self on ... Oooof! Move over Inde, there's a love. Now I've got croissants and coffee and some plums off my tree. Someone find Barry will they? And give me a slap across the chops? Only managed one AF day last week, wallowing in missing my dd and it was sunny and I had nuffing to do in the evenings .... Merde! Now, will have a read and catch up avec les bebes.

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Ladame · 28/09/2013 09:41

Silver exciting news oui? Wink

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Jesseismysecretcrush · 28/09/2013 09:47

Thanks ladame just what I needed! :)

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Ladame · 28/09/2013 09:48

Mouse If they don't give you that position ... well, I just don't know ... I'm sure they can't help but be impressed by you Grin If they want hundreds of letters of recommendation, well, you just have to ask the bus!!

Why You are doing so well, I'm so glad to hear that things are looking up a bit. Stick with it. (ooooh that rhymed!)

Guggs they've cut the maize down in the fields around us and we always get field mice in our cellar. So ... I thought I saw one running across the floor yesterday, but it wasn't Shock it was one of those other things (with eight legs) wtf! I have never seen one that big before!

I'm waffling on now, I think I've had too much coffee this morning.

Love to all brave babes - have a good Saturday xxx

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Anneisnotmyname · 28/09/2013 10:52

Day 1 again! Had nearly half a bottle of red, and feeling it today. Jessie I also think my tolerance has gone down but I suppose it is a good thing really.

Unhappy your right I've not planned to stop drinking, I wanted to stop daily drinking. For now I have but I've been asking myself what do I get out of it, and questioning if I even enjoy it. I'm thinking I should just drink on social occasions, not sat in the house watching tv, which I did last night. I'm thinking there is something sad about the way I drink, why I drink :(

Wishing all babes a good weekend, and strength to get through Saturday night if not drinking :)

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beachestoexplore · 28/09/2013 12:34

Morning Babes



Day 13 for me. Yesterday was hard, my mind was back and forth on the thought of drinking. I ended up in another hot bath, after eating most things in the cupboards. At least I am shiny clean!

Have a good day all xx

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Mouseface · 28/09/2013 12:35

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

I'm sorry not to NC you all or anyone actually, today is a Sad day in the MouseHouse - it's eight years ago today since we lost our triplet boys; Harry, George and Charlie.

I posted a little letter to them in Bereavement to tell them how much we're thinking of them. :)

I am feeling very low just now so I'm trying to keep busy by writing my thoughts and feelings down, tidying, cleaning, playing with Nemo and trying not to let him see my tears but for some reason this year is hitting me super hard.

I think it's just been one hell of a week to be fair. I will be drinking tonight, to toast them, as we always do, their candle is lit and there are three blue ribbons tied on their tree in the garden.

Bye for now xxx

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babyjane1 · 28/09/2013 13:13

Hi babes, just checking In, very busy doing boring house stuff. jessie your post really really hit a chord with me, it sounds so ungrateful when I say this and really I'm not BUT I do feel my life is settling Into a rather boring tedious one. I suspect my drinking pattern may have started escalating when boredom and disappointment set In, alcohol does tend to soft focus problems and "shake up" an otherwise eventless weekend, I too wish for excitement, passion and spontinuity but must accept it cannot be found In a bottle of wine!!! mouse Im thinking of you and sending hugs xxx

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dementedma · 28/09/2013 13:16

Ahmouse - words fail me. Will light a wee candle tonight here in Scotland for your beautiful boys.

ladame we had the biggest spider I have EVER seen outside of a zoo in our house last night. Seriously - WTF is with these things? Are they are on steroids or something?

I have been massaged to a pulp by the man with hands of steel....jeez it hurt but he was suitably sympathetic as in "Stop being such a baby and give me your leg back before I really hurt you!" He has such a way with him....but God he's gooooooood

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PurpleWolfe · 28/09/2013 14:16

(((((((( Mouse )))))))) xxxxxxxx

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jango36 · 28/09/2013 14:51

Hi babes :))
missed you all loads. Been busy with life etc so not checked in. Ive been swinging between the side car, the bus and roof rack.
Managed lots of a/f days but always seen to fall off.
Today I will be in the side car but got lots of magazines, sweets and an ear to listen. So feel free to join me.
Hi RURAL nice to see you back.
PURPS So glad it went ok with your son ((hugs))
Had hair done in a bid to lift spirits - looks okish Im sort of a dirty blonde now (pardon the pun). Think I will go dark in the end so much easier to manage. Thinking of having my toe nail done next week - whats the best ? gels or shellemac (sp)??
My nsdp is away on a works trip. So spirits are lifted a little :))
Will check in later with you all. I AM trying for day one tomorrow xxx

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Pink01 · 28/09/2013 15:57

Wow I nearly missed the bus!

Sorry not to have posted for a while.

I was going to catch up a little but now I have read mouse's post my mind has gone blank.

Mouse I am so sorry, I didn't know about your triplets. I love their names and I am just so terribly sorry for you, your DH and DD. It must be so tough to face an anniversary like that while having to carry on being as normal as you can for your other children.

You are so kind and supportive and all the while you have had so much crap thrown at you.

I'm thinking of you today Mouse xx

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thurso13 · 28/09/2013 16:02

Sending love, hugs and peaceful minds to you and your family Mouse.
Much love xxx

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Jesseismysecretcrush · 28/09/2013 16:07

mouse like ma words fail me brave babe. Hugs and thinking of you and your angels x

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babyjane1 · 28/09/2013 16:51

mouse you are so brave, so kind and so
Compassionate, you make me want to be a better person, you are an inspiration to have never given up on life, I have total and utter respect for you and utter compassion for you and your family on the loss of your triplets xxxx

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dementedma · 28/09/2013 17:33

Thanks indie. I shall pass that to mouse who I suspect it was intended for Grin
Had a lovely walk in the glorious autumn sunshine today with dd1, dn1 and Ds on his bike. Even mum came out as she was feeling a bit better today which was nice. A lot slower than she used to be and had to stop for a sit down but she did OK. Not bad for 78!
Dd1 is now preparing dinner for dd2s birthday so hopefully will be a nice evening.
Waves to all Babes and gives purple an opal fruit.

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guggenheim · 28/09/2013 18:55

mouse thinking of you and your family x

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guggenheim · 28/09/2013 19:03

Ok- it's bastard spider season isn't it?

ladame PROMISE me that french spiders stay in france? They can't swim or nuffin?? Can they? can they?
And the same goes for them scottish spider too ma. I'm a poncy southerner, nature's for them wot likes that kind of thing.


I dunno about it being dull when you give up the sauce. I've found it both extraordinary and painful. All kinds of fun emotions like to pop up once you're off the sauce and then there's all the thinking about people who you pissed off because i was drinking indoors in my own little headspace and not spending time with them. You sort of have to take the long view with sobriety, it does seem dull at times, at first but with enough time you start to fill space with friends,hobbies, I dunno- lap dancing,tiddlywinks,being a spy... can't do that stuff pissed!

Love to all and stay strong. x

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Pawprint · 28/09/2013 19:14

Bless you, Mouse - just left message for you on Bereavement. Life is very cruel, sometimes. Big love from me, special lady. Xxxx

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ruralreynard · 28/09/2013 19:24

mouse thinking of you and your family and have lit a candle for your boys. Your letter to the school sounds good and isinde's idea if you can fit anymore in the word count. Not many words is it!!!
Sure the position will be yours. It certainly should be anyway, no one could do it betterxx

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ruralreynard · 28/09/2013 19:26

jango nice to see you too Smile Good luck tomorrow.

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ruralreynard · 28/09/2013 19:29

incider Methinks we may have a lot in common. Don't get disheartened.
When you fall off the bus, pick yourself up and get back on. More af days will come Im sure. Keep trying ODAAT.

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Mouseface · 28/09/2013 23:43

Just off to bed, blowing the candle out..... for another year for our boys.

Goodnight all, thank you so much for your kind words and comments in Bereavement, they mean a lot :)

Take good care of yourselves, be back tomorrow for a short post before we meet with friends xx xx xx

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