The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through The Autumn Scenes, Searching For Our Sober Dreams.

[Mouseface]

Hello, I'm Mouse :) Welcome to the Bus, (aka Gerald ).

I'm one of the Brave Babes on board this fabulous Bus of travellers, all in search of their sobriety in one form or another.

We have those who drink in moderation, those who have a set pattern of days on and off the booze, and we have posters who have been sober for minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years.

There are two lines that the Bus has painted down the side, one on each -

The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement and Alcohol Fosters Inertia

So, if you think you're drinking too much or you're worried about another person, then come find a seat.

We get through our days chatting about all sorts of things, life is, after all, full of plenty of things to fuel our desire to drink, and we're all very different people

However, our common goal is sobriety. :)


The Last Thread


The Reason We're Here - The First Thread

[GladToBeSilver]

ma

Huge huge {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

And much much love x x

[GladToBeSilver]

And isindie - listen to the BBs

Take it on board, and act on it.

Because you are worth it too - you GIVE all the time, time to receive, dontcha think . X

[Greensbackonthebus]

isinde i totally get the tried and trusted method of dealing and avoiding confrontation. I've been doing it for years and the resentment in this house runs deep. It is killing our relationship and I need to speak up and face up to things instead of just quashing things with wine. It would actally be fairer on DH if he knew what was going on in my head. He might at least have a chance to try then. As it says in the thread title alcohol fosters inertia, nothing changes. God I'm rambling now just meant I empathise and don't know the answers.

Personally I can't find the courage to upset the applecart in case I am opening Pandoras Box.

Lots of love isinde I hope things improve.

ma and rural Hugs x

[PurpleWolfe]

Isinde My love, it's been brewing for a while now. As has been said, the only way to avoid insipid resentment (which will eventually kill a relationship anyway) is a 'sit down, face to face, honest, difficult' talk. You know it, you are a bright cookie. Sending hugs.

Ma "Close to tears" is NOT stupid. You've had a shit day and now the person you should be able to off-load on is complaining about fucking chips! A couple of points: a) Does he know how shit your day has been? b) Has his day been shit? If the answers to those and yes and no respectively, you are entitled to get a large hammer and go for his toes!!! Seriously, does he know your day has been really bad? To take your mind off things a bit, in the depth of XP and my darkest days, he came home (having been really crap with 'bringing home the bacon' of late) and kicked off about a meal of pasta and sauce I'd provided for him declaring 'Where's the meat'?!!?!?! Do you know what, I very nearly added his testicles to the dish to shut the ungrateful fucker up!!! Breathe, Lovely. xxxxxx

[ruralreynard]

ohgreen the dh and pandoras box thing "SNAP".
hugs back to you.XX

[PurpleWolfe]

Hi to Ladame and Baby and keep going Kat, well done, you are on fire!! xxx

[ruralreynard]

purps great post. I have NSDH/FW who has the reaction of your xp to meals I provide whatever they are . Still eats them tho. Really must suggest improving my offerings by adding his testicles next time. Thanks for that info

[dementedma]

purps you made me laugh.
He knows how bad it was as its all over the local and national news and he knows how it impacts on my job.he's just a wankbadgering twat. I had to pick the dds up from the gym and they got in the car and said " We know. Ds has texted us to say watch out, mum and dad are screaming at each other over nothing!"
We have a visit from the secretary of state tomoz about it all - the work thing, not us arguing - and I am shattered. You guys rock.
Where did horridbabydoll get to by the way?

[PurpleWolfe]

'Like' Rural and Ma's posts! ! xxxx

[Sharpkat]

Glad and all the other BBs you have made me cry again but in a good way.

You are all amazing. Keep going. And as you all told me one second, one minute, one hour, one day at a time.

Pick yourself up when it goes wrong and dust yourself down.

I have achieved today. Written some thank you letters, dusted my flat, conquered the mountain of ironing, been to the supermarket and even eaten a little. Even made a list of everything else I need to do before I go into hospital and am going to cross a few things off every day. This is a huge achievement as I normally stay in bed all day to avoid the world.

I could not do this without the BBs so hope you are all having a good evening.

Glad - are you able to share your experience. Via PM if easier. Last time I was an inpatient for depression it was private so LA funded is (I presume) very different.

Sleep well all x

[Flumpyflumps]

Ok babes. I know I've not posted for a while but I could do with a boost.
About ten mins ago I was clearing a wardrobe out.
I found an old old handbag with a wrap inside that I'd obviously shoved there over 2 years ago.
Even all this time on my demons were telling me to sniff it.

I'VE FLUSHED IT DOWN THE TOILET

Had to share.

Big step, big step!!!!!!

[SunshineSuperNova]

Well done Sharp, sounds like you had a productive day.

I've had a good day - I went to see an Elizabeth I exhibition in London with uni mates, which was great. Then when I was feeling down, I had a good chat with a friend instead of finding a bottle.

inde I don't know the history but hang in there. Ma I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

Thanks for being here babes, you all rock x

[dementedma]

He is asleep on sofa now, snoring, so that no-one else can watch TV or use the room. Selfish arsehole.

[louiseaaa]

Woohoo Flumpy, thats major

Now go shine your chuffy badge :D

WW knocking at my door tonight - sitting with the feeling - trying to work out what the feeling is that I'm uncomfortable with. Suspect it's guilt over my colleague at work.

[Flumpyflumps]

I've read through every single message on these bus threads but don't post much as my addiction isn't alcohol but the premise is the same, something else has control of your thoughts.
I've never seen such a supportive bunch of posters, and this bus has really helped me last few tricky months.
Might be 2 years but still one day at a time
X

[Scarymuff]

Flumpy bloody well done. You have come so far, you know you don't ever want to go back there. I am totally blown away by all the babes today and how fabulous we are

If only we could organise ourselves, we could rule the world

(One day at a time) x

[Scarymuff]

Now go shine your chuffy badge

[Scarymuff]

[dementedma]

mouse are u OK?

[Scarymuff]

Haha hilarious x post there

[Scarymuff]

Mouse we have cheeeese xxxxx

[Flumpyflumps]

I'm going with the message from one of my (many many) meetings along the lines of things that aren't helpful or positive in my life need to be removed, very vague but you get the picture!

I had no life. My life shrank to getting drugs finding an excuse to take them and finding the secrecy to take tem, never mind finding the money to buy them.
Them when I stopped my small island that I ha been perched on started to expand a bit like the tide going out.

May help someone, then again may be just me rambling again!
X

[Scarymuff]

like the tide going out

I like that Flumpy, so simple, so true.