Well that was the world's weirdest 'affair' ...

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

So an old flame got in touch a few years ago and we've met up a couple of times since, texted occasionally (think months going by) and had the odd conversation by phone. He's married with grown-up kids and probably (certainly) didn't tell DW about our friendship.... So this morning I get the 'I've decided to make a go of it with my wife' text. WTAF? Suddenly I'm not only the OW, I'm dumped, and I never even got my leg-over!

Yup, it's amazing any of us get anything done, what with stepping over all the fallen crying men all day

Explanation boiled down to 'don't press send before thinking how it's going to look to the person at the other end...'

So you're back on the hook Cogito, ooh this guy is good he's got you on a dump - back again cycle.
He probably had a little fiddle with himself as you told him off (TMI )
Do adult conversations involve confessed love.

now you're enabling and I think you're beginning to enjoy this. he's a puppet on a string.

Cogs seriously get rid. you don't really need this surely. LTB haha

the drama that will follow - ah well. I look forward to the "i can't believe i fell for him" post in about 6 months.

Good luck

That is pretty close to the weirdest affair Cognito , but I would still think Steve Coogan and Courtney Love are pretty hard to out weird.

On what hook ofmiceandmen? Confessed love? Have you read anything I've written? Clearly you're making up your own story here.

Cogito - I am simply illustrating how weird that all is (and ribbing you all in one).
Basically it's drama... and some weird thing you are bringing back into your life.
I would hazard to guess you would advise most people to stay well away. after all who needs drama in their lives. You have also advised not to ever get to the professed stage - because that then moves it on to a stage.
A classic Cogito question - what exactly are you getting out of this relationship/friendship/acquaintance? = Drama

lol what a weird situation and a weird man.
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cogito...naughty!!!!

Again... drama? It has been undramatic up to now, briefly dramatic owing to a mixed-message text and will now resume being undramatic all over again as another six/nine months goes by before we speak again. As dramas go, I'd say 'the Archers' had considerably more fizz....

Steve coogan and Courtney love?!

A friend of mine thinks he/she is having an affair because they intermittently exchange texts with someone who is not their partner. The amount of mental effort that goes into is staggering. People are strange

when I was younger used to hang out with a fairly random crowd.

one guy was telling our group one night about all "these women he had on the go, and how he couldn't decide which one to "have"".

He was talking about their personalities, which one would be the best option, how he thought A might be prettier than B but C was more practical etc, etc. How could he decide who would have the honour of being his girlfriend?

Wot a playboy!

His "harem" consisted of:

• someone he had slept with once, who had said nothing was gonna happen between them but they could still hang out. He was obsessed with her.

-a few women who had chatted to him on facebook, hadn't actually met them yet.

• some women he had sat and chatted to 1-1 on nights out, who had stayed in touch with him or given him contact details or let him buy them drinks or walk them home. They hadn't indicated any reciprocal interest, as far as I could see - but according to him, the chemistry was such that they were ready to pounce

Cog, mice is teasing you

Mustbecheating, though, something a bit strange going on there