Dating Thread 63- disappearers, wedding bells and dodgy eye candy, all are welcome

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Oops that title may have put off newcomers :D

Anyway.... the old thread is dead long live the new!

Luis behold... The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

I LOVE this post and wonder whether we should all add to this list! It would be interesting to see what rules fellow posters impose on them selves pre-date :)

Love the 'loo update'

I have second date with fireman tomorrow, will try to give loo update

Sixfoot - no but I'm sooo doing that! Seems bit prescriptive but necessary

Right. I've got a date on Thursday night with a guy I've been chatting to for a couple of days on POF. I have to say, he's the first one I like the look AND sound of and in messaging we really seem to hit it off.

I know - it's all bullshit til it happens. But he's been checking out bit by bit if he's acceptable i.e.was married 22 years, he's been divorced 2 years, exW is in the family home which is up for sale, he's living in rented accommodation and will be buying his own place.

Keen to meet me in a place where I feel comfy etc etc. I like that.

Fingers crossed it isn't bullshit.

Not pushy, no sexual innuendo, just well, dare I say 'normal' sounding? until I cross examine him about the circs of his divorce and discover he was a serial shaggier cynical? Moi?

good luck *wisey, hope he is a 'normal' one...don't want to piss on your chips but the 20 yr plus married ones often think they are ready for a relationship, but then get freaked when one might materialise. but maybe that's just the effect I have on them .

sorry epic bold fail.

Wisey good luck for thurs! It's great you have a good feeling about him but try not to get swept away til you've verified he's a good one (says me who is constantly swept away and then devastated!)

Ham my sensible head says go out with mr patient, but then I'm rarely sensible! If you can manage to go out with both then do it and compare as Sixfoot says.

Gaga good luck tomorrow with fireman - hope there is a spark this time!

I have 4th date tomorrow eve with detective, despite my brain screaming at me to be sensible I think I will shave my legs just in case...

Hello all - hope all having success out there.

All going well with Mr IT who having started out as a slow burner has proved he is anything but! :) he is lovely , attentive, listens to my moans about work, taken me out, bought huge bunc h of flowers last week and texts me every day and generally thinks I'm georgeous !! ( so he must be good!!)

I'm a bit :o as I didn't expect to meet anyone this quickly
( my online dating third time lucky as I call him!) he got his divorce through on Tuesday and mine is due this week- think we've both been a bit surprised !

Morning
So.....
I will attempt to go out with both and see what happens. Mr Patient is a truck driver whom I have doubts about how much in common we have but I think that's me being judgy since he writes quite nicely and we have talked about politics etc already. Plus I have met him in the flesh and I know he's hot! Plus he's Scottish and I love an accent me I have agreed to see him Saturday.

Mr less patient has his own kids this weekend and I'm moving next week so this date might not happen for a while anyway. I have my doubts here too as I think he's more of a hedonist than me and plus he's a bit hip for me. Something about him though. And yet I'm already doubting how attractive I will find him as he loons different in all the pics. We have had some really good chats though. I'm
Too curious! He is some big shot executive anyway.

Meanwhile I have had messages from dickhead exh mate of POF. Twat. Or I'm less memorable than I think! And the dad from nursery I was cringing about - who is oblivious to the fact I see him most weeks! Again perhaps I'm not v memorable!
All this is at least stopping me from flirting with the bank manager who is so inappropriate it's not even funny

ham I would say def go out with both

over he sounds lovely and a keeper!

Fireman just cancelled with an hour to go, called into work

Think my skin just got thicker!

kitty thanks for the heads-up on that one, I'll just need to have my bullshit and red flagometers fully charged.

Arf at smoothie and the loo update! I shall be sure to do this ON SATURDAY COS I HAVE A DATE!!

Eeeeeeeeeeee!

Back again :(
I broke all the rules.

flojo
All the rules?? What happened?

Quick loo update - 4th date with detective going super well! Bit pissed but happy!

Wah I want to be pissed but happy!

wisey hope that didn't sound too harsh...everyone is different, and I really do think it's the effect (affect?) I have on them . must sharpen up my radar too, once I dig it out from the back of the sofa.

sooper that sounds, well, super! is he really a detective? I'd bloody love that (rebus sucker).

I'm still getting match of the days sent to me, and am checking them even whilst on the chaise longe, I've asked this q before; but they are seeming over eligible for the most part...is this a computer generated ploy to get me to sign back up or do these people actually exist?

Hi again. I have a date with a rather hot looking man on Tuesday. He says on his profile that he works in finance. It also turns out that hes studying homeothapy. Trouble is, I think homeopathy is bull shit. Does this matter? I dont know if I could take someone seriously if they were well into it. Hes fit looking though! (Shallow)

Super I am with you. I started chatting to this cool sounding guy but I lost interest because he does some random healing stuff for a living. I'm too science based for that!

Therockclimber I went out with was into woo .. Bolts of light and kept telling me about my powerful vagina ... Gorgeous but tedious I'm afraid

kitty it's not a problem and it made me check myself and what I want - which is NOT a relationship at the moment but some dating.

This guy has said in his profile he's looking for a relationship, I've said I want dating, and we'll see if we hit it off. Much of that won't be about liking the same films or food blah blah. I'll be looking for shared values and such like because I realise now I've placed far too much emphasis on superficial things in the past and built unrealistic fantasies around them (Yay to Natalie Lue, Chump lady et al).

I bet it's not the effect you have on the guys you date unless you turn up for the first date with a wedding catalogue!

kirsty .

aye wisey maybe it was the bouquet and long white dress that gave it away...must rethink my first date outfit

the stuff about rethinking what you want and looking beyond the usual fripperies that are attractive resonates. I'm almost looking forward to putting that into practice when I shift off the sofa.

homeopathic twaddle? Get him a glass of water and charge him £50.