Dating Thread 63- disappearers, wedding bells and dodgy eye candy, all are welcome

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Oops that title may have put off newcomers :D

Anyway.... the old thread is dead long live the new!

Nine months they'd been seeing each other and she dumps him by text.

I like her already!

49

I'm so chuffed for you ,

As for picnic he said yes so pleased even if it buttys ( thank God for family salad patch ) n need big Brolly , it not Sat In front of tv .

Will try to do more tomorrow, even if if it just planning pickle making

Thank you all

Nice to k n ow ppl there

That's fantastic Kitty, you sound so much better.

Rubbish don't text him, remember you are the prize

Many congratulations 49!! Absolutely delighted for you

Happy birthday Miranda, hope you've had a fab day

What a lovely, positive place this thread is at the moment .

I'm about to move house and that horrid monopoly that is Openreach can't connect me until end of the month but I will lurk when I can, and will be wondering how you all are when I can't!

Loads of woo to you all x

Hope your move goes well Wagon. And that WAGgy things are still good

Glad things are looking up a bit Kitty. Really hope you can find a way forward with work. The picnic sounds fab, really good fun. What did you decide to do about the other guys on PoF?

Family I agree, don't text him.

I think I might be going on holiday with Alpha!!!!

49 woo hoo congratulations, Mr R&R is a lucky man!

Happy birthday Miranda, hope it was a lovely one.

Kin snort Mr Tigsy!!!! he's Mr Ex Army on here

OWW Knew Alpha was a good un, told you so! You're on my list.

GF dumped by text Snape, it would be wrong to laugh, wouldn't it? Snigger emoticon needed

Waves to all, what a lovely thread!

D'oh Tigsy - I just couldn't get his real name out of my head, I blame my advancing years.

Ooh, when OWW ? That's very exciting news.

Wag good luck with the move (and the footballer)

Poor ex-Mr Snape, eh, worra shame.

Okc Visitors update : no longer a gaggle of CBBC presenters, a Phil Mitchell lookey-likeys convention. Be still my beating heart.

Very long time lurker here, I just had to pop on to say 49 congratulations to you and mr r&r! I have been lurking for many threads and loved hearing the progression of your relationship. I would love a mr r&r of my own, so if you wouldn't mind cloning him i'd be very grateful!

49 congratulations!!!

Miranda hope you had a lovely birthday

bant hopefully medstudent will be so mortified by her behaviour she will avoid you in future

OWW when does alpha get his results ?

FoF just left as he gets up at 5 three mornings a week to go to the gym .. I got him to set the alarm a bit earlier today ;)
Life is good .. All settled in the new house .. Every box is unpacked .. Divorce is imminent and FoF is lovely

No I decided against the bloke of pof , this one has taken me ages to get him to meet me .

Morning all

Wag Hope the move goes well.

OWW You and Alpha. Very, very good.

Kirsty Just fab.

Kin Where is Sharon when you need her?

Kitty A picnic is lovely.

Thanks everyone for your lovely messages

To be honest , he seems nice and we been chatting since April so I feel I know him well, he known from the start I've not got a job and seems to understand. Plus I'm enjoying the fun days out.

Yeah I love getting dressed up for night's out but deep down nights out make me feel insecure , my ex would look at other girls .

Any way have a good day xxx

Thanks for the advice, I didn't message him in the end.

Western - wow your going away together. Anywhere nice?

49 I'm in awe. So very happy for you, he is a lucky man. Fantastic

Big wave to test of thread

Good morning everyone!!

Kirsty sounds like life is going so well for you at the moment. FoF sounds brilliant. Can't believe you are unpacked already - I am in awe. I moved almost two years ago and still have boxes lurking about in cupboards . . . Results are on Wednesday so will have everything crossed then.

Holiday plans with Alpha are wonderful - he is going to take me and the children away over half term, rent a cottage, lovely nights in front of the log burner . . . Cannot wait. And cannot believe how kind and generous this man is.

OWW now you're just bragging
s and s to all the other lovestrucks

Hi Juliette was wondering where you'd got to. Hope you're ok.

Glad you're sounding more perky Kitty and hope Broken's getting there to

Since belatedly taking the advice to formally bin Poet, my slate is now clean - well apart from a smear of chalk dust left by one of those insoluble exes that abound on here - so the woo Is free to surround me. When you're ready woo!

When's the date with Charlie Nora - is it still on for this week? And what news from the lovely Gay Paree?

The woo is wending its way to you SS I am sure!

Juliette how's everything going with you? Hope all is well.

Wow it's seems to be going so well for so many of you. I've had wedding at the forefront of my mind recently. It's all hen dos and weddings for family and friends atm and must admit it has got me pondering. I would love to meet the right guy and really want to get married again if I did.

Been feeling a bit down about the ex through all this. He is the only guy I had strong enough feelings for and although I've moved on in a physical sense I still mourn the loss of what I hoped it would be. He wants to stay friends with me too and he genuinely means it rather than it being a ploy. Gosh he has a hard heart.

Hi all again. I'm a bit pissed that guy hasn't got back to me yet. Had naughty fun on Sturday and nothing. TBH though I'm thinking it's probably no great loss as I did tell him I didn't do sex on a first date and yet he was a bit 'pressury' by talking about sex a fair bit, my own sexual encounters and telling me it's a shame I didn't put out on a first date.
This and plus his charm offensive of picking fluff off my jumper and gazing at me etc was a fatal combination.
It's so difficult to resist if someone is very hot and flirty plus a very strong chemsitry but I must be strict with myself! I hate doing it on a first date as it makes me very insecure.
I also noticed that when he drove back to mine he got very impatient with other drivers. Red flag alert??

Superstar - if it makes you feel low, then don't do it. I am the same myself, made a decision a few months ago to wait until I felt there was an emotional connection there as well as a physical one, and I've not regretted that at all. I think both ways work for different people, but if you're not feeling happy and good about what you're doing now, then maybe try a different way.

Also, and please don't take this the wrong way, it sounds like there were quite a few red flags that you recognise with hindsight but didn't at the time. The whole focus on sex from this bloke seems a bit sleazy and telling you it's a shame you don't put out on the first date would have been enough for me to make my excuses and go home. Did you just go along with things because he was putting pressure on you?

I don't really like the sound of this bloke and I actually hope he doesn't get back to you as he doesn't come across as being very nice at all. You are far better off without him. Have you got anyone else lined up?

I would think that you would need an extra layer of thick skin to be happy and secure having sex on the first internet date. Not something I would recommend unless you really are cool with them not contacting you/nothing coming of it. This is speaking from someone who has done it purely for therapeutic reasons and was really not bothered about the outcome.

I agree this bloke put you under pressure and that really isn't on.