Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)
We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -
Alcohol Fosters Inertia.
So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?
You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.
So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)
We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.
And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)
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Mouseface · 04/09/2013 15:02
Ah, the driving's not my department I'm afraid! That's down to Silver 
A lovely story: many years ago DD went to a birthday party for a school friend. The hosts laid on wine and beer for the adults, and I had several glasses. I wasn't drunk (although looking back, don't we all persuade ourselves we didn't act drunk? 
) but I couldn't drive home, and had to beg another parent for a lift.
Fast forward to DDs prom, same family hosted it, again alcohol laid on for the grown-ups. I didn't touch a drop, and all I could think was it was THIS garden 6 years ago, THIS house, I acted like an idiot - no wonder all the other school mums never talked to me.
Joey! - Sorry lovely, I will have missed many more too! Mum for one!
Annie - DH used to be a little bit like that at first..... I think he missed me, the company in the room, especially when we were drinking buddies, staying up til all hours drinking, watching TV together or kicking each other's asses at cards, scrabble (not a euphemism!! ) or talking for ages about life, love and laundry.
It's fine now, I often go to bed before him, he'll watch recorded tv and I'll fall asleep with my book in my hand and my reading glasses on my head squewiff!
I'm sorry to hear that things aren't great anyway with you and DH 
. That's the thing with AF life, it's sharp, focused and very, very real.
xxx
Who's dannie? 
Guggs - I love hugging Nemo, I've held him all of his life, he didn't walk for almost 2 years and when he did, it took a lot out of him. I miss him being so close to me so when he does want picking up, and also needs picking up, I'm going to!
Right, last two rooms to clean. It's taken me an hour to do each room because I just can't do it. I just hurt too much but I can't bear a dirty/messy house and it's been months since the house was deep cleaned.
I'll be suffering later. Hot bath and bed.....
Be back later xxx
ThisIs - that's exactly how a lot of the babes fell/felt once they realised just how many months, days, hours and minute that they'd wasted being pissed, hungover or both.
I was utterly appalled with myself when I looked back at how much time I had wasted not being the mother that my children deserve and how much I'd rejected or ignored everything other than alcohol. I refused to drive so I could drink, I would be the first and last at the bar, always another open bottle in the kitchen for me whilst friends sat in the other room.................Every Time.
Don't worry about that now, you can't change why has been done, change the things you able to and make those things the most important in your life, now. You can lie there beating yourself up in the small dark hours of the morning, but why?
Plan things that you can do with your DS NOW! And yes, I should imagine that at three he is more likely to remember the better things in his life, like crisps and jam and toys and helping mummy with little jobs..... his love for you is unconditional so use that guilt and turn it into a promise to you and your DS that you are going to change one small thing, one day at a time :) xx
That's our girl!! Kick ass BRAVE BABE
I know it's hard though, especially if you wanted to do things together. Even one thing...
I have to say that I the way my DH 'asks permission' to go after arranging the golf day or whatever makes me rofl! I'd love to see his face if I said, 'erm, nope, I'm off to the spa so you're on DC duty - you'll have to cancel'!!
The downside to all of this is I still think about drinking a lot, even if I only drink once a week. Sometimes I consider stopping completely, and it feels like I'm taking baby steps in that direction
Joey my 'wine o'clock' used to be anytime from 4pm onwards. On my way home from work I used to think, mmm, wine...
I drive past a petrol station and often used to stop and buy a bottle. When I started cutting back, I decided to have a strong, hot coffee when I got home instead of wine. One day, driving past the petrol station, I saw the giant coffee cup outside and thought to myself, mmm, coffee...
Then I thought wtf 
. Did I just think about coffee?!! That's when I really knew my habits were changing.
Now you are starting to think about giving up completely. Just mulling over the idea. Something that you probably wouldn't have even considered a year ago?
Well done on a sober prom 
in my experience the crap hurled at the start of term, i.e.) 9 gazzillion new initiatives you should have done yesterday, can often be filed and ignored for a bit
Ha, guggs, that is so true. We are still working on 'settling in'.
Mouse great posts, as usual, and wise words you sage old bird
I'm wondering if everyone has eaten yet? If the ww is planning on calling on you this evening, she will do it whilst you're hungry, so get some grub in you pronto babes.
I'm having jacket potato with tuna and salad, so yah boo sucks to all you low carbers
Mind you, mega jealous that you can have cream 
I'm not a big fan of cleaning but it is a good way to avoid drinking in the evening. Wine is not so appealing when held by bleach-smelling marigolds
Once I get going, I don't mind cleaning really, it's just that there are several other things I'd rather be doing with my time.
Faire - I'll have you know I'm still under 40 thank you very muchly :)
You are so right about noticing 'different' visual triggers. And the fact that you've just asked who has eaten yet or not, another one of the many triggers we suffer from....
On the Bootcamp diet Ma is about to join me on, you can sort of snack on little things throughout the day and I can say without a shadow of a doubt that having 5 brazil nuts, when I'm getting naggy mid morning or mid afternoon and drinking 5 pints of water is helping me to remain so focused, so sharp and so much less grumpy.
Water really is key to helping your body do it's job. DH drinks so much tea he should be orange, but I nag him to drink water... he just doesn't. Yes I do have to get up for a wee in the night but I was doing that drinking. I am up with Nemo so it's not a biggy for me and not every night!
Anyway - I can here the bath time fun upstairs in my shiny bathroom getting noisy so I best go see what's occurring!!
Back in a mo, I guess I should feed DD as well!
Ma - I can't wait for you and me to be diet Buddies, we'll have to try not to bore the poor Babes with our dieting chat though! Are you looking forward to going Carb free/low full time? It really is easy and not as expensive as everyone thinks - Aldi is my choice for chicken breasts and meats - 6/7 med/large breasts for £6.99. Where else can you get grade a meat like that?
Pork steaks, mince, beef - matured for days.... I buy joints (of the meat kind ), roast them and then slice them ready to have when I want. I precook sausages, Aldi's cumberland butcher's choice are good as they are rather low in carbs, eggs, etc....
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